I'll try to make a long story short (for those who wanna listen to it!) and hope I can get some advice in exchange from you people.
Been married for 7 years now, and I should say things have always been quite good between us.
We had a crisis about 4 years ago, it was my fault since I had an affair with a girl I met on work visits to another country, the whole thing being no more than a few phone calls and one night of sex.
The moment my wf discovered it I felt really like S*** and just told her the whole story, which ended up right there.
It took a lot of effort for us to get over it, I think she is an extraordinary person, know what it meant for her, and can't help feeling guilty every time I think about it.
Now it's been a few weeks that she is having a strange attitude towards me.
She says it is her problem and that it is just because of her professional situation, she does not have a regular job and feels like she hasn't been able to make anything useful with her life, she feels guilty because she is not earning enough money but I have never made a point of this, I have a regular job and earn OK, but I see it as our "family money", and have never played the part of being Mr Imakemoney&decidewhattodo.
We do not have children, we had different views (I was pro & she was agaisnt) for some time, then she changed her mind and we gave it a try but it seems one of us must have some problem cause she never got pregnant (I made my exams and it seems my sperm is a bit too lazy!) but the child thing is nothing important since the two of us decided to stop trying.
Her attitude makes me wonder all kinds of things, sometimes I can't help guilty feelings for what happened four years ago, I wonder if there is some other guy, I wonder is she's just decided to call it quits...
Have tried to talk to her but the answer is "it is me, don't know exactly what it is, it'll pass" and to make it worse the whole thing is ruining our sex life!
Help please!! and regards from Italy!