mostirreverent wrote:I don’t think it is a good idea for her to do that. The man should be gone before she wakes. I don’t think you have any legal standing, even if you had been married. Try calling a child welfare agency to see if there is anything you can do. Would she listen to your concerns?
Suggesting that he talk with his ex concerning this is a good point. I agree that he may try to begin there in all fairness. If they can work through this avoiding the involvement of any outside help would be good so that their child is not scarred by being caught in the middle.
That being said though I still must back up my original argument.
Yes, depending on the law where he is (I have no law degree so I cannot guarantee this anywhere else) he very well may have legal standing. The courts (in my area) do some things that most may think is ridiculous and outdated, but none the less I have seen this first hand.
Last just for the sake of debate you commented that the man should be gone before the child wakes. Yes, if he were concerned about the childs best interest he would be gone. Lets say this is not something he was concerned with. That too opens up a whole other can of worms. This would be when calling a child welfare agency should be considered.
I wish you well dougal_maguire!
Too bad. As you probably already know that what I was telling about were cases in the US. I hope you get some helpful advice soon. Take care.