FEMALE LED RELATIONSHIPS

[noodles]

It's so much easier to gain control of a relationship when being the higher earner,
i think you may be right, personally i think its shameful. money = power

[Porky]

It's so much easier to gain control of a relationship when being the higher earner,
i think you may be right, personally i think its shameful. money = power

OF COURSE money equals power, society is based on it. Money gives you a greater freedom of choice. Hence - "Beggers can't be chooser's".
The more money you have the easier your life is. You may not be Happier but you will certainly have the power to control what happens in your surroundings. Money is not the answer to everything, but you will have a Much easier life with it, than without it.

You've heard of "The Money Mountain" Right?
& you've heard that "5hit rolls down hill" Right?

Hence it's better to be at the top with lots of money, than at the bottom in all the 5hit. I've been to both places a couple of times, so trust what Im saying is true

(At the moment I'm quite deep in the 5hit But I WILL make it back to the top again )

That's why it called The Human RACE.

[Guest]

Women rule in relationships!Female led is the way!

[noodles]

noodles wrote:
It's so much easier to gain control of a relationship when being the higher earner,
i think you may be right, personally i think its shameful. money = power

OF COURSE money equals power, society is based on it. Money gives you a greater freedom of choice. Hence - "Beggers can't be chooser's".
The more money you have the easier your life is. You may not be Happier but you will certainly have the power to control what happens in your surroundings. Money is not the answer to everything, but you will have a Much easier life with it, than without it.

Yes to a degree thats true but what i was tutting at was the higher earner in the relationship taking 'more' power in the relationship because they earn more.

[Guest]

I wonder how much of a difference money makes to the equality equation. Are women with equal or higher earning power to their partners more readily able to achieve it?

Yes, they are. She who brings home more bacon, has a right to her meals cooked, clothes washed & Ironed etc.. It's so much easier to gain control of a relationship when being the higher earner, IF the male is of the mindset to fit into his new role. If not, ego's clash & the relationship may suffer.

Not if neither have an ego that is hurt because the other earns more.

[noodles]

Theres 'no way' id be doing all the housework on account of partner earining more than me. Id do it if she worked longer hours than me regardless of cash earned. It think thats simple respect and sharing as opposed to high earning superiority.

[jlynn]

I started this thread some time ago and am glad to see the discussion.

The current situation in my marriage is that my wife is in charge. She knows it, but does not like admitting it. We discuss everything and usually come to a decision together. Often, she decides on something and later ask me for my input (ex. choosing tiles for the house), but I know it is only a formality and the decision has already been made. I work, my wife does not. She is in charge of the family and that is a full time job.

If I tell her she the one in charge, she usually changes the subject or says she doesn't like talking about that. I wish she would just come out and tell me so all is clear. When I do or say anything I shouldn't, I immediately know from the look she gives me. Now if I ever walk in front of her in a restaurant, store or other public place; she makes a comment. So I always let her go first (but maybe this is just courtesy?)

All I know is that I'm very pleased with my wife's leadership of our family. And I think other couples would be happier if they formally accepted their wife's leadership and ultimate control also. I'm very happily married and deep down know this is the way it was meant to be...

[opalfruit]

'you' are happy with that and thats great . you can only speak for yourself in such matters tho.

[Guest]

I am dominated by my wife!But to be honest i like her being in control!i now do all the house work duties and obey her at all times

[Mels]

My husband is now my domesticated maid!

[jlynn]

Mels,

Have you petticoated him? Does he wear a pinafore while doing the chores?

[Guest]

Mels,

Have you petticoated him? Does he wear a pinafore while doing the chores?

Yes of course

[Porky]

ROFLMAO


That seems some what severe to me, but Hey-Ho.. What ever floats your boat.

[Guest]

I started this thread some time ago and am glad to see the discussion.

The current situation in my marriage is that my wife is in charge. She knows it, but does not like admitting it. We discuss everything and usually come to a decision together. Often, she decides on something and later ask me for my input (ex. choosing tiles for the house), but I know it is only a formality and the decision has already been made. I work, my wife does not. She is in charge of the family and that is a full time job.

If I tell her she the one in charge, she usually changes the subject or says she doesn't like talking about that. I wish she would just come out and tell me so all is clear. When I do or say anything I shouldn't, I immediately know from the look she gives me. Now if I ever walk in front of her in a restaurant, store or other public place; she makes a comment. So I always let her go first (but maybe this is just courtesy?)

All I know is that I'm very pleased with my wife's leadership of our family. And I think other couples would be happier if they formally accepted their wife's leadership and ultimate control also. I'm very happily married and deep down know this is the way it was meant to be...

I think only to people who grew up in such stuctures. It's proven that egalitarian couples are the happiest.

[homebody]

I started off being curouse and ended up in a female led marage. I think it works well not having two power carreer alphas in a relationship. She has the high powered carreer and I didn't. When we were dating we got in a discussion about names. I felt there should be one name in a marage. She differed and said she would refuse to change her name. If I wanted it so bad I could take her name. It started off as an experiment with me going by Mr her name. We changed names as many places we could to Ms and Mr her name. A debt card with mr her name and so on. We did this for a while and I got used to it. So we are officaly Ms and Mr her name. She manges the money and she enjoy's that my job is on I can leave on a moments notice and go with her on a trip. I would not call her bossy but I do seem to end up doing what she asks. It works but it is okward at times.