by Guest25 » Sun May 15, 2005 12:21 am
While I agree that it's hard to be a parent, I think it's BS to actually raise one or more kids without actually know how to raise them. I think people really need to get a handle on things, just like everything else in the world.
Sure, you'll make mistakes, but I'm the 3rd son in a family of disfunctional kids. That's just not right. A lot of my failures, the fact that I don't "get it", my social inneptness and all kinds of things were wired into me long before I had a real choice to decide what was best for me. And when I was aware and should have been responsible, it was like too late to apply a quick fix. And if you don't know how to fix it, it's going to stick with you.
This is just a fake of life. If you have cool parents that know how to teach there kids a positive and an awareness for how the real world works, then you'll have cool kids. If you don't, well, you'll get the opposite.
And, I think it's really important that both parents are in control of the relationship. it's not right to raise a kid where only one parent is available to raise the kid. Each child needs to see both perspectives early and often, and they need to see a quality loving relationship so they know what it's like when they have one themselves in the future.
And never, ever have a parent who is raising a kid of the opposite sex unless you absolutely know how to raise them properly. The same applies to a parent who is raising a child of the same sex, but doesn't know how to raise that sex properly. I don't like to put any stereotypes on this sort of thing, but if you have a weak, wussy father, or your mother is raising you and you're a son, then you're more than likely to be a weak and wussy man either way. Mom's especially just love to teach their sons to be excellent husbands - needy, giving, etc. This stuff just doesn't work.
So if anyone is going to have kids, make sure you are aware of all of this and do it right. Having a kid must be enjoyable and rewarding, but it has its consequences and responsibilties. Make sure you're doing it right.