sorry this is so long, I really tried to shorten it but I want to give the whole picture....
At the begining i always turned a blind eye to anything my ex best friend did to piss me off... Such as often leaving me on nights out for guys, or the day i found out I'd have trouble getting pregnant, ironically I was going to get the morning after pill that day and the test results were there, got it just incase, she was goin out with her buddies and said "You can come... if you want to" and i said I didn't want to drink coz incase i took a reaction or something and she turned to me and said in the bitchiest most sarcastic way "Well, its not like you can have kids anyway" I thought it was pretty harsh, as did one of the lads in the house... I just didn't want to fight with her.
Anyway we had our first fight last summer when she left me AGAIN to go to a club we hate with a guy she didn't even like, but used those lovely words "You can come... if you want to" everyone wanted to go to said club but i didn't have the money. So she left me alone, knowing my other buddies weren't in the pub she left me in. I got really pissed off with her, she was staying at my place that night, when we got back she said she'd go home, (she moved home for the summer) she was driving that night it was 4 in the morning and a half an hour drive away, i told her she could stay, i didn't want her driving on her own that late coz she had just started, she said no and left. She went crying to my best male friend, now her boyfriend, telling him i kicked her out of the house and slammed the door in her face.
We had another fight when she promised to help me move but didn't show up and lied to me about why she didn't. If she told the truth i would have understood. Another friend helped me and i told her the story and that i was a bit annoyed that she just left me without an explaination. She accused me of bitching about her. We made up again.
So she got with her boyfriend 9 months ago and has not been happy for 8 of those, she told me repatedly all about it! there is a lot of stuff, this guy is, sorry, was one of my best friends and i started to resent him so much for the way he was treating her. It actually really hurt me to see this once fun, bubbly, outgoing girl turn into a quite, moody shadow of her former self. When the question of breaking up with him arose all she'd say is "But Claire, he told me if i did, he'd kill himself, hes not like other guys, he really would". He accused her of giving him genital warts. I don't know if he actually has them or not. She was devestated. Its true she has slept with a lot of guys, It doesn't matter, i think its a horrible thing to do.
2 weeks ago I got drunk, had a great night, or so i thought... She picked me up the next morning (she lied about why she couldn't stay at my place) and told me I said some very hurtful things but refused to tell me what i had said. It is the only part of the night i cant remember. the only things i could think of were about her fella and that she rarely goes out anymore, which really annoys me! She said she wouldn't hold it against me coz I was drunk. She was fine all that day, then refused to talk to me for a week. I text her to apologise again and said that she didn't have to talk to me, just be civil at work. We made up. Week went by, everything was fine, I went into work last saturday, i was out the night before and found out she had been spreading both lies and my personal stories/problems to anyone who would listen and they in turn were telling people and ripping the piss out of me. I was not impressed. When I was talking to my friend that night, mostly about her, it made me remember all the bad stuff that had happened between us, I haven't even mentioned half of it here.
i was in a bad way the next morning at work. For the whole 20 minutes i lasted in work kept having digs at me about the fight. All of a sudden, we were not talking AGAIN! I text her to say we have to leave whatever problems we have with eachother outside work, she said that was fine but we ended up having a huge fight. i found out that night that what I had said was about her relationship. I don't know in detail what I said but she knows how i feel about it anyway.
Maybe I went too far, i have no idea. Anyway she is telling anyone who will listen her side of the story and possibly playing it up so much they won't even listen to my side. Trust me, she does that A LOT... i've seen the damage she can do with her lies. So 4 maybe 5 of my supposed close friends are no longer talking to me. Who knows how many others! I don't understand why she decide to react this way this time?
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