anyone NOT want children?

[Guest]

Sounds ideal, doesn't it? I hope that you achieve this goal. However, spending as much time at home as at work may not be realistic in this day and age, especially if you give up work. If the partner you end up with is anything like me (for your sake I hope not) he'll work every hour God sends, and more so with (a) kid(s) in the house. When he gets home, he'll want peace and quiet more than noise, nappies and nuissance. Your time together may well be reduced, not only in terms of duration, but definitely in terms of quality. Their is a common view, held especially by women (understandably), that children = better life. My own take is that children = change and that change = {inconvenience, cost, hassle, noise, etc.}

who is willing to spend as much time at home as at work.

[Guest]

(Edit: Corrected by author; more coffee required!)

THERE is a common view, held especially by women (understandably), that children = better life. My own take is that children = change and that change = {inconvenience, cost, hassle, noise, etc.}

Sounds ideal, doesn't it? I hope that you achieve this goal. However, spending as much time at home as at work may not be realistic in this day and age, especially if you give up work. If the partner you end up with is anything like me (for your sake I hope not) he'll work every hour God sends, and more so with (a) kid(s) in the house. When he gets home, he'll want peace and quiet more than noise, nappies and nuissance. Your time together may well be reduced, not only in terms of duration, but definitely in terms of quality. Their is a common view, held especially by women (understandably), that children = better life. My own take is that children = change and that change = {inconvenience, cost, hassle, noise, etc.}

who is willing to spend as much time at home as at work.

[Guest]

Can understand your dislike of crying babies.
The noise is 'engineered' to irritate you into action and so is very successful.

As for the conversation, personally I'd rather listen to Radio 4.
You can hardly have an interested, expansive conversation with children.

I hated every minute of being pregnant...really hated it. Would't go through it again if i was paid. I also can't stand crying babies (why did I ever have kids)

Now they are 7 and 4 and I like this age as you can actually have a conversation with them......and fun

[Guest]

1-4 = annoying, repulsive, loud.
5-12 = perhaps a little better, but increasingly expensive, and still irritating; more expensive.
13-17 = hate you; thoroughly obnoxious, but likely to spend more time away from you (good!)
18-22 = cost you a fortune in University fees, and that's if your lucky.
22-30 = could well still be living with you if you're unlucky. Time to help may for a mortgage and/or wedding.
31 = hopefully you are now clear and free, but invariably you're too old to have much fun.

I hated every minute of being pregnant...really hated it. Would't go through it again if i was paid. I also can't stand crying babies (why did I ever have kids)

Now they are 7 and 4 and I like this age as you can actually have a conversation with them......and fun

It'll all change when they hit the terrible teenage years Basically, they are crap for the first four years because they are always crying and puking. Then they are OK for a few years until they hit their teens and then its all crap again. Shame you can't just hire them between the ages of 4 and 11

[Guest]

You don't really believe this do you?

My experience is that people with kids are often very selfish (firstly by assuming that everyone else gives a damn about their kids).

The kids are put on a pedestal and the parents elevate their rights before that of hard working members of society. The kids are spoilt and become a serious nuissance in the neighbourhood.

I am now 30 and can still remember (just about) the days where children were more disciplined / respectful. The liberal and immoral society today gives children more right than adults who bear financial responsibility. This is complete nonsense.

Parents' lives so often revolve around kids - The results aren't pretty.

At least people with children are able to focus on something other than themselves.

[Guest]

How amusing that people assume that an inclincation to remain childless is rooted in fear rather than choice.

Again this illustrates the children = better life fallacy.

I do want them, someday. Too young just now!

Can I ask why you want them?

why are you sooooooo scared?

Yes, I don't want them because they cost an absolute fortune and are a huge responsibility for a very long time. These days its hard enough trying to pay off student debt, save and be able to afford a house and be able to invest in a decent pension for when you retire without a millstone of your own making around your neck too.

There is massive job insecurity now compared to our parents generation such that you cannot know that you are going to be employed for the next 25 yrs and therefore be able to pay the mortgage let alone support a child.

Furthermore, I like my life to be ordered, structured and planned to the last detail. The idea of a little brat rampaging about destroying everything in its path would drive me insane. I guess I just don't have any parental instinct.

[Starfish]

I couldnt imagine my life without them I would like at least two or three. Oh I will have to tell my boyfriend first give him a bit of warning

[Guest]

That'll really make his day (no, really)

I couldnt imagine my life without them I would like at least two or three. Oh I will have to tell my boyfriend first give him a bit of warning

[toothfaery]

definately no from me!

numerous miscarriages have made me realise that it's not meant to be

[Guest]

If you want kids but can't have them I sympathise with you.

(I posted most of the 'don't want kids' entries above).

definately no from me!

numerous miscarriages have made me realise that it's not meant to be

[jinjin]

No children. Not for the next few years.

[jinjin]

Is Steve adorable or not?

Hello Steve

[jinjin]

By the way, the original thread is at ...

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/viewtopic.php?t=144149

I provided an unbiased, accurate, and truthful response to his question and concerns. It would have been simple to do the wrong thing and by twisting the truth and ridiculing him, something which you have done repeatedly on this forum.

Have a nice day Steve.

[Guest]

Steve is compulsive.

[genekelly]

Me