How girls feel about a guy that is close to his m

[Guest]

How do you feel about a guy that is close to his mother?
Does this threaten you? Do you feel you have to compete for his attention? Or does it indicate that this guy treats women well and
is a turn on?

[Electra]

It depends whether his mother is single or not. If she is single and he is the only child, all her energies will be directed towards him and there is bound to be a competition going on for his time.

With hindsight, I would have avoided this type of man but I have been stuck with this situation for the past 10 years and it has not been easy.

[Guest]

It depends whether his mother is single or not. If she is single and he is the only child, all her energies will be directed towards him and there is bound to be a competition going on for his time.

With hindsight, I would have avoided this type of man but I have been stuck with this situation for the past 10 years and it has not been easy.

I am a divorced man and one of the continual confrontations was my relationship with my mother when I was married. My mother is alone and elderly. And my ex-wife seemed almost cruel in excluding her from everything. Perhaps I crossed boundries that caused this... however, I was willing to go to counseling to work it out but she did not want to do it. Anyway, I feel that I did not understand what I was doing at the time. Sorry to see that you are stuck in this situation. If you can't get him to go to conseling maybe you should go yourself. Don't suffer.

[elliott20]

this is something that I've always wondered about too.

I have a pretty good relationship with my mother and if my parents retire and need me to, I would totally have them move in with me. But the thing is my parents have given me a lot of autonomy in running my life so I don't really have the suffocating mother/son relationship that a lot of other people have.

But of course, every once in a while she does her whole asian mom thing and that does get a little grating.

[Electra]

His mum's asian too!

[Guest]

AS LONG AS HE DOESNT EXPECT YOU TO TREAT AND NURTURE HIM AS IF YOU ARE HIS MOTHER

[elliott20]

ahh, the asian mother in law.

it's quite legendary actually. the Asian Mom In Law is stereotypically very domineering and very nosy. Chances are, the best living condition would be to live right next door to them after you get married, and if possible, she would raise your kids FOR you. That and there's the incessant nitpicking and nagging.

It's a stereotype that has had many many supports. not to say they are all like that, but chances are you'll see some of that in every Asian Mother in Law.

[Guest]

ahh, the asian mother in law.

it's quite legendary actually. the Asian Mom In Law is stereotypically very domineering and very nosy. Chances are, the best living condition would be to live right next door to them after you get married, and if possible, she would raise your kids FOR you. That and there's the incessant nitpicking and nagging.

It's a stereotype that has had many many supports. not to say they are all like that, but chances are you'll see some of that in every Asian Mother in Law.

My ex-wife is asian and I am caucasian man. My ex-wife had a problem with my mother. Which seemed odd becuase my mother did not bother us too much.. hardly ever came to our house to visit. Is this fixation that with a mother in law a cultural issue? Are western women different about this?

[elliott20]

depends on the person, really. I wasn't aware of any cultural stigma about wives automatically hating their mother in laws.

[you have male]

I think it's something that applies across all cultural boundaries.

As a man, I know that when I talk to her dad, certain rules apply. Even though they're unwritten and difficult to define, they exist and we both know what they are. In essence, I think it boils down to keeping in mind that we're talking about his daughter, his little girl. Doesn't something similar apply when she talks to my mother, or is it a whole new game?

One thing is for sure and that is that it augurs well for the continuing health of their relationship if both parties get along with their in-laws.

[Electra]

ahh, the asian mother in law.

it's quite legendary actually. the Asian Mom In Law is stereotypically very domineering and very nosy. Chances are, the best living condition would be to live right next door to them after you get married, and if possible, she would raise your kids FOR you. That and there's the incessant nitpicking and nagging.

It's a stereotype that has had many many supports. not to say they are all like that, but chances are you'll see some of that in every Asian Mother in Law.

This is an exact description of my asian father-in-law. I get it from both sides, mother-in-law and father-in-law.

Believe me, it is not a good idea to live next door to either of them. They are far too interferring. Nice in small doses!