by Guest » Wed Sep 09, 2009 1:56 pm
I used to have a nasty mother in law, then I stood up for myself after 10 years, of gritting my teeth and just getting through her vists by holding my breath, my husband choose me to be his wife, we are perfect for each other, I had two children already, and he loves them to peices, he never wanted children and I didnt want anymore,ever chance she got she would interigate me by saying she didnt beleive her son didnt want children ,of course she never interigated me in front of anyone else, she always managed to find me trying to hide in the kitchen keeping myself busy,my husband new she is interfering as she was partilly responsible for the break up of his and his brothers first marriage, on meeting my husband his cousin stephen strangly said to me have you met his mother yet, i thought she carnt be that bad how wrong I was. She never smiles,is always miserable and negative, she used to say, how she had a breakdown because her sons moved out of the family home and marrid,Its hard for me to remember everything because I have had to block alot out, my husband is so suportive to me and we tried various things like him watching her movements so she didnt trap me on my own to cause trouble,he even cancelled her coming to stay for the weekend because I had a half and hour panic attack, that didnt go well but he had know choice, we had know choice, her behaviour and nastiness was taking its toll on me, we scared us both, anyway Jan 09 was crunch time things had to change, I had to break free form this woman, to save my marriage so she could not do anymore further damage,he wont stand up to her, he tried once when he lived there age 27 she used to pack his luches for work, ham on limp white bread and cheap marg everday of the week, my husband, just simply said probably rather sheepishly as he hates confrontation,could i have something else other than ham, i dont like ham, she slammed the door and didnt speak to him for two weeks, lol....He rang and told his parents that after the last stint of lying and nastiness and dam right over stepped the mark they had better stay away...they were concerned they would loose contact with their son over this but i would never put him in the position he had to choose, we are moving house soon and they are putting my husband under pressure because they carnt beleive they have to stay away and wont see the new house, our daughter is expecting her first child, my husband and i are delighted we are too be grandparents for the first time, he met up with his parents, and told them about the new baby on the way, after i had asked him, not to involve them in our family life and news, she has destroyed alot of peoples lives, my husband told her not to sent me a birthday card or anything, she did it anyway, knowing full well it would rake things up again,i want to swear and her and shout im so angry, i never have done ive always contained it, for the sake of the children and my husband, my father in law had said ive put on weight over a family dinner, i didnt know what the hell to do so i just went into a nother room to think and she barged in pointing her finger and said tell brian you forgive him becasue if he has a heart attack i will blame you, thats the first time I saw her true colours,even though i was the one hurting i hugged brian.so i wont shout swear tell her some home truths in case she is ill, my husband telling his mum our daughter is pregnant, the comment back was babies bring families together, THIS ALONE and the thought of her back in our lives brought on a major panic attack i couldnt breath, shaking, couldnt speak,scared the hell out of my husband and myself, we have a very solid relathionship and we are a rock for one another, he understands now that for the past 6 months she has not been mentioned i havenet had a single attack...i wanted to be a great daughterinlaw and was, but was too much of a push over for her, she wont go in a home when the time comes and expects her sons to look after her, i know this has been discussed recently, because my husband mentioned it and he said he will be taking it in turns to care for them, which is going to be hard when we live over 100 miles away from them, i think he has been bullied into it, i carnt imagin why she does that to her son,tries to control him...she should let it go exept she broke the family up and stop causing trouble, shes a horrible nasty woman with hardly any female friends whch says alot,It helps writing it down in stead of suffering in silience, well done to all those wives out there who have fantastic mother in laws im so envious but for those that dont, DONT accept it stand up for yourself it shouldnt be aloud.
