I have Been trying hard. I still cant get pregnant!

[Guest]

have you tried an ovulation kit?

[SugaMama]

No I haven't tried an ovulation kit, but I've had sex when I've ovulated and still nothing. Does the ovulation kit actually work? I have this thing where you put your saliva in and it tells you when your ovulating but that's all I have. If anyone knows where to get it please let me know, and I heard someone talking about a diva cup, where do you find that? Thanks

[Guest]

OH MY GOD! I so oooosecond that Insane comment. I'm 32, been married 5 years, have a career I love and have had my share of fun. NOW, at 32 I finally feel like i'm ready to start a family. Sweet 16, please just wait a little while to find out who you are and what kind of opportunities are available to you. A year from now you might want to be head cheerleader, student class president, track star...whatever. I'm not saying you couldn't do all those things with a child, but you would definately need a whole lot of help! And maybe you hate high school. I did!! Collage is DIFFERENT!!!! I sware! But make sure you graduate. My best friend in high school got pregnant and stopped going to school in 11th grade. And she actually wanted to be in school! But she was so exausted with the pregnancy and care after the baby was born she just COULDN'T do both and had to drop out of school. And she had help!!! Friends and Family. She came back to school 1 time after she quit. She and the baby came to watch me graduate. And I will never forget how i felt for her when i saw her out in the audiance. And how hard it must have been for her to be in the audiance watching all of us on stage graduate and her wondering "what if...". Heck, it makes me tear up right now. I love her to death and I have a huge amount of respect for her because she has worked hard and struggled to raise her son. But to this day, she still has to struggle. And she would tell you herself that she loves her son more than anything in the worlds but that she knows that if maybe she would have waited just a little while longer than maybe it wouldn't have been so hard to provide a nice things or even the basic things for life for her son. I dont know what part of the world your from but hell it cost a whole lot of money to be grown up and living on your own and paying your own bills and trying to have nice things for yourself when you dont have children. It's a thousand times harder with a child and a million times harder with a child and no education. Trust me. I was a witness. All of my girlfriends have children! Some damn near as old(young) as you and I won't lie to you and say I'm not jelous, because a part of me is very jelous! And eventhough, my husband and I have been trying for over a year to get pregnant, and it seems anybody and their dog could get pregnant but me. I still know I did the right thing by waiting. Not just the right thing for myself so I could experience my life and grow up to find out what I wanted to be, but most importantly, I did the right thing future child. I don't want to have to struggle the way my best friend did or even the way my mother did when my dad decided he didnt want to be a father anymore. The struggled for the basic things in life for their children. That was'nt fair for parent or child. If you love your future baby so much and you want them so bad, then think about this... when you have this baby you'll want to spend as much time and special moments with that "little YOU" right?? Well, it WILL break your heart when you miss out on his 1st step, 1st word, walking him to his very 1st day at school, their 1st slumber party, their 1st anything because you HAVE to go work overtime at DENNY's to keep the lights on in your guys 1 bedroom studio apartment.
And sweet 16, if i'm totally off base and you happen to be a FEMALE version of DOOGIE HOUSER MD. (prob too young to know who that is-ask ur mom)please by all means accept my apology and disreagard any of my response to you cuz you would have to be a genius and I know nothin about who or what you are at 16. But knowing how most 16 year olds are, your probably not a doctor.
But if you dont have a career, a home, and money for a baby on your own. Then wait. Hell if anything hold off on the baby for a year and get a summer job, save and get a convertable, cruise around with your friends or whatever you like but PLEASE just try being 16.
Baby will come. You have plenty of time!!!!!!!!!

me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months im only 16 and we have been trying to get me pregnant and i cant.I told my mom that i think i cant get pregnant. My mom is fine with me getting pregnant.

Sorry did you just say that you are 16 and are trying for a baby after only 6 months of dating your boyfriend?

Are you INSANE? Do you and your fella have a home (of your own) together? Have you saved enough money to provide for your family? Do you have a job? Have you been together long enough to really know & love each other?

If you have answered 'No' to any of these questions then don't have a baby, its NOT fair! and there are too many scroungers around already making life too tough for those of us who really deserve it.

If you answered yes to all of the above then good luck and well done to have achieved all of this at only 16 (still a childs age)

[jamisue]

what about using a diva cup? have sex then slip a diva cup in and go to sleep. it will stop the sperm escaping and with the added measure of a pillow underneath you they should find the egg easy.

What is a diva cup??

[)O(]

what about using a diva cup? have sex then slip a diva cup in and go to sleep. it will stop the sperm escaping and with the added measure of a pillow underneath you they should find the egg easy.

What is a diva cup??

[airaka]

me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months im only 16 and we have been trying to get me pregnant and i cant.I told my mom that i think i cant get pregnant. My mom is fine with me getting pregnant.

umm excuse me but if ur mom is fine with you getting pregnant then thats a sorry mother if u ask me your only 16 years old u need to grow up and not be worrying about a child.. ur a kid ur self

[Guest]

My name is Jodi I had an abortion about 7 months ago and when the time comes when I wanna have a kid I dont know if ill become pregnant. I dont wanna disapoint my bf when were ready to have kids. Its just ive heard stories of people having abortions and then not getting pregnant again when they really want a child. What should i do!! Help me.....

[KweenOnothin]

My name is Jodi I had an abortion about 7 months ago and when the time comes when I wanna have a kid I dont know if ill become pregnant. I dont wanna disapoint my bf when were ready to have kids. Its just ive heard stories of people having abortions and then not getting pregnant again when they really want a child. What should i do!! Help me.....

Help you????

The help you need cant be found here female! You had an abortion and you brush it off with your next comment... "when the the time comes... when I wanna have a kid"........

Are you insane? The gift of being fertile isnt a "if I wanna" deal... it's a gift... and God is a very fogiving soul... good job too cause if it was me I'd kill your eggs now... you speak of abortion like I speak of pouring away the last bits of a coffee.....

And just to add to what you said.... "I dont wanna disapoint my bf when were ready to have kids" .... If you are worried about dissaponting a man when it comes to children then you have a LOT to learn....

I suggest .... whatever your age is now.... wait another 10 years before trying for another child... and think hard about what you are doing... perhaps you might even be blessed with a child from an orphanage... maybe you can (heal) by adopting a child someone else might have killed via abortion....

I wont appologise for being so harsh....... your little post was vile!

[Solea]

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for about the last year or so. Has anyone tried any herbs????

[jess545]

Agnus Castus or Chaste Berry. same thing.

or try moon charting for conception

[hcp66]

my only advice is stop trying. Enjoy sex, stop thinking about whether you are pregnant and it will happen. If not, go to your doctor for help but not within 8 months of trying. It worked for me and I was SO paranoid about it.

[kapri21]

I feel the same way Im 21 and me and my ex was trying to have a baby for 2 years and I just could not and I thought it was me or him and then he ended up cheating and then he got the girl pregnant so now I know its me and im scared to go to the doctors I dont want them to tell me that I cant have children. I am ot trying to have children anymore but its the fact that I think that I cant

[kezzie]

hi my name is kerry and me and my partner have been trting for a baby for neally 2 years im really worried now that i can never hve babies all my friends are all mums and im beginning to think tha il never be a mum im onlt 20 but after 2 years is this not strange

[Niamh]

i know how you all feel, im 19, 20 in may.im married nearly 2 years and me and my husband found out i can have children when i just turned 18 due to burst cysts on my ovaries when i was 11. my husband doesnt understand how affecting it is on me. all he says is he loves me no matter if i can have kids or ot but i cant seem to get him 2 understand how useless n empty i feel now.

Has any1 else had this happen to them? We are desperatly trying for a child even started fertility treatment privately. does any1 else have the same situation?

[rambopeep]

Hi, I haven't read all the threads so I don't know all the advise you may have already received. I just wanted to share that I too felt the same way as you a few years ago. My problem was a bit different though, because 6 months before I met my husband, I took the depo provera shot. I only took it once and enjoyed a full year without a period. But what I didn't count on was that for 2 years after the return of my period I still didn't get pregnant. I worried about my ability to conceive so much that I was totally consumed with it. Sex wasn't enjoyable because I was always thinking "could this be the time?" and another month would go by and it would only build my fears higher. What did the trick for me, was to talk to my doctor about it. She told me that you only have a 2-5 day ovulation window. Before that time, it is impossible to conceive, unless you have sex 2 to 3 days before the onset of ovulation, because the male sperm can survive for 3 days. Basically what did it for me was to calculate when my actual ovulation days were, (roughly 10 to 14 days from your last day of your period). Also having a drink, and some weed (which was my first time) to help me to relax and not think so much, just to fully enjoy the sensations. Next thing I knew, I was throwing my guts out 6 weeks later, and my daughter is now 3.
You could always try the expensive ovulation thingamagiggies, or you use the ovulation beads. They look abit like rosary beads but they are colour coded to your monthly cycle. They can be use for preventing pregnancy as well as planning it. All you have to do is follow the bead according to your cycle and it will tell you exactly what days are your ovulating days. Of course this method only works if you have a regular monthly cycle. I can't remember the website I found it on, but you can find it under birth control methods on Yahoo.com . The main thing is to relax and do whatever it takes to take your mind off of the end result and just enjoy the moment. Hope this helps.