My 10 year old nudist daughter

[Polgara69]

This is a toughie. I agree that usually getting naked is something small children do. (My son was a supermarket stripper when he was 3!) but they do usually grow out of it by the time they are 5 or so. I agree there is nothing wrong with nudity and you dont want her to think there is anything wrong with it but she must know when its appropriate and when its not. If you and hubby are fine then thats ok but when grandparents come? No, she should be made to be dressed when there are visitors even if they are family. (Unless you are all a family of nudists?). The problem seems to be that if she strips off at the drop of a hat and doesnt seem bothered who she does it in front of then yes, she is going to get herself in trouble. You have to teach her the difference. Then again, as somebody already pointed out, once puberty hits you wont see skin for love nor money! My youngest is 10 and while she doesnt mind being naked in front of me there is no way she would be naked in front of others! Even family!

[LC]

hows LESTA

[Guest]

This is a follow-up to my post 31st Jan 2008 @ 3.01 p.m.

Whilst, you can suggest to your daughter that she might care to dress when you have visitors I don’t think that she should be forced, as it would be imposing other peoples’ wishes on her in her own home- I am sure that if she visited their homes should would not expect them to undress! Initially they may feel a bit awkward, but they would soon get to accept your daughter’s life style and hardly notice.

When she enters puberty, she may want to cover up, but not necessarily so, as some children first discover the freedom of being clothes-free at this time, but, because they fear their parents’ reaction, they hide in their rooms or wait till they have the house to themselves. If the urge to go nude is strong enough, whatever you say, she will do so, but secretively and you are very lucky that her relationship with you is so good, she has the confidence to go around nude openly in the safety of her own home and family. Those who have been brought up from an early age as naturists say that the found they went through puberty without the usual problems experienced by their clothed peers. Other surveys have suggested that naturist children become sexually active at a later age and have less unwanted teenage pregnancies. You may feel that she needs sex education at an early stage and aware of the moral standards you hold, not because she cannot be trusted, but rather to ensure that nobody can take advantage of her. I believe that most people are basically good, if they are allowed to be themselves. Saint Francis de Sales wrote:” Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try and be that perfectly.” Moreover, your daughter won’t have the body-hang-ups which blight so many people’s lives.

You are very fortunate that your daughter has such a open relationship with you and your husband and by you both accepting her choice ,it will put in you a good position to put your foot down when it does matter, but, I suspect it will not be necessary.

[Roberta from Brazil]

Dear mothergoose,

I have a friend whose 9 yo daughter has some nudist tendencies. So, I became very interested in your history about your nudist daughter and, after read these posts, I am curious about some points (basically three):

First - You said that, "as the months have gone by, she has been pushing the boundries further and further". Can you tell more "step by step" about how and when these boundries were pushed?

Second - Did your daughter say any reason or excuse for each boundry pushed? (For example, did she say anything about why she started to jump naked in the pool?)

Third - Was this "nudist evolution" fully spontaneous? Could she be influentied in some moment for something she talked with (or heard from) friends, read in magazines or in the Internet or watched in T.V.?

Many thanks in advance for any answer you can give,

Robert

[Guest]

any answer?

[Polgara69]

There wont be an answer cos this is a troll. Obvious. If there is an answer it will be from the original troll posting under a different name. I have to agree with Colonel here. What a load of crap.

[Alf Huckham]

There wont be an answer cos this is a troll. Obvious. If there is an answer it will be from the original troll posting under a different name. I have to agree with Colonel here. What a load of crap.

I agree

[Guest]

I'm a little disturbed by Rob's questioning but will try to answer some of his/hers queries. I would also be interested to know how his/her friend dealt with their 9 year old 'nudist'.

I think many very young children prefer to be free of clothes and my daughter was no exception. During the summer we've nearly always had a paddling pool of some discription in the garden . Like many parents we saw no need to dress her in anything when she used it. She would be naked in the water and would often run about the garden afterwards just the same. She only wore a costume when we started taking her to the public pool or when she had school friends over.

Regarding pushing boundries. I think we all accept it's not unusual to be naked in one's bedroom or bathroom, and maybe inbetween. What I meant by pushing the boundries was that she gradually went further than this and did it throughout the house and garden, and for increasingly longer lengths of time. She came down to breakfast naked, she sat around in the lounge after a bath naked, and she spent more time naked in the garden after being in the pool.

As to why I'm not entirely sure. I'm assuming it must be due to the benefits she felt by sleeping naked during the hot summer nights. She obviously felt more comfortable during that time and wanted to continue feeling that way for as long as possible. She was used to being naked in the pool from an early age and simply pushed the boundries from both ends until they met in the middle resulting in her going from her room, through the house to the garden and back again without worrying about being dressed.

This all started nearly a year ago now and everyone in the household and family are comfortable with the situation. My daughter has decided she is happier sleeping nude and has now given away all her nightwear. She continues to come to breakfast naked, and is naked at other times too which we are happy with. She knows when it is inappropriate to be seen this way and duely covers up when asked. Visiting family members now know what to expect so aren't shocked if she is naked when they happen to turn up unannounced, although we do encourage, but not force, her to be dressed if we know they are visiting beforehand. Summer is nearly here again so it is likely that she will be spending longer amounts of time naked. My daughter has also started puberty which we are dealing with very well. With her being happy to be seen naked she is fine with me helping her out down there, although I do insist she at least wears knickers during those 'special' days.

[Guest]

Hi, many many thanks for this answer.

About the boundries pushed, I think that some barriers were broken in this process. For example:

- Until one year ago, it was unusual your daughter come to breakfast naked. So, I think that, in the very first time she did it, you must talked some thing and she must answer some thing.

- It was also unusual, I think, she watch TV naked in the room in the afternoon. So, again, I think that, in the very first time she did it, you must talked some thing and she must answer some thing.

So, it was about these kind of situations I asked you do tell. How she and you reacted in the very first time she broken some barrier.

I'll be very grateful for anything you can tell me about these situations,

Roberta

[Captain]

I'm a little disturbed by Rob's questioning but will try to answer some of his/hers queries. I would also be interested to know how his/her friend dealt with their 9 year old 'nudist'.

I think many very young children prefer to be free of clothes and my daughter was no exception. During the summer we've nearly always had a paddling pool of some discription in the garden . Like many parents we saw no need to dress her in anything when she used it. She would be naked in the water and would often run about the garden afterwards just the same. She only wore a costume when we started taking her to the public pool or when she had school friends over.

Regarding pushing boundries. I think we all accept it's not unusual to be naked in one's bedroom or bathroom, and maybe inbetween. What I meant by pushing the boundries was that she gradually went further than this and did it throughout the house and garden, and for increasingly longer lengths of time. She came down to breakfast naked, she sat around in the lounge after a bath naked, and she spent more time naked in the garden after being in the pool.

As to why I'm not entirely sure. I'm assuming it must be due to the benefits she felt by sleeping naked during the hot summer nights. She obviously felt more comfortable during that time and wanted to continue feeling that way for as long as possible. She was used to being naked in the pool from an early age and simply pushed the boundries from both ends until they met in the middle resulting in her going from her room, through the house to the garden and back again without worrying about being dressed.

This all started nearly a year ago now and everyone in the household and family are comfortable with the situation. My daughter has decided she is happier sleeping nude and has now given away all her nightwear. She continues to come to breakfast naked, and is naked at other times too which we are happy with. She knows when it is inappropriate to be seen this way and duely covers up when asked. Visiting family members now know what to expect so aren't shocked if she is naked when they happen to turn up unannounced, although we do encourage, but not force, her to be dressed if we know they are visiting beforehand. Summer is nearly here again so it is likely that she will be spending longer amounts of time naked. My daughter has also started puberty which we are dealing with very well. With her being happy to be seen naked she is fine with me helping her out down there, although I do insist she at least wears knickers during those 'special' days.

Whatever

I tried to keep an open mind and not decide you were lying until I read that. What a crock.
My little brother walked around naked until he was about 10 so I know there are some kids who do but I don't believe your story for a second.

[Polgara69]

I agree. What a load of tosh. There is no way a young girl going thru puberty would choose to stay naked when going thru a 'special' day. You mean on her period. Numpty. There is no way on this earth you would have to ask her to keep panties on during this time. Utter hogwash.

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[The Colonel]

I agree. What a load of tosh. There is no way a young girl going thru puberty would choose to stay naked when going thru a 'special' day. You mean on her period. Numpty. There is no way on this earth you would have to ask her to keep panties on during this time. Utter hogwash.

Totally agree with Polly and Captain.

Could be the work of McMum, or Julie H (both trolls).

There is no way that story is true. The perverts we get here is chronic.

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[Rebman]

For those who insist that this does not happen, I recently needed to speak to a neighbour so I rang his doorbell. I was astonished to find his 8/9-year-old daughter opening the front door in the nude. I asked if her dad was in and she went to fetch him. He didn’t bat an eyelid concerning his daughter’s state of undress, and I didn’t mention it. I would certainly not regard this as normal, but it does seem to happen in some families.