What the HELL is he playing at?

[Guest]

This isn't quite as deep as other topics on this forum, but here goes:

I met a guy a few weeks ago at a gig we were both playing at. He immeadiately caught my eye and I his. At the end, we talked for a while and he asked for my number. after that we were flirting like crazy with texts and facebook etc, we arranged to go and see a film the week after. The day before we were scheduled to meet up, he texted me saying "I'm really sorry, I can't come tomorrow. I can't get involved with anyone. I'm really bad in a relationship and I don't want to hurt you" this was a contrary as it is possible to be to his flirty manner only a few days beforehand. But I left it. I then got emailed by the gig venue telling me that I owed this guy some money (they had payed my band too much) I messaged him and told him and we had a very pleasant conversation and he just told me to tell him when I had the money. I now have the money and messaged him the other day telling him this and his exact reply was "Well, I guess cinema tickets are on you then..."
We had yet another very flirty conversation and i'm seeing him next week.
What the HELL is this guy playing at?
Have I made the wrong decision in agreeing to meet up?

[eltel]

He is either

1.Married

2.shy

3. intimidated by you

4.Gay

5. A mass murderer

Or just plain stupid

[yodo]

Run for the hills, if the relationship is this difficult NOW whats it going to be like when the first flush of romance has gone. Do not meet him or give him any money is my advice.

[Guest]

He could just be very shy and now be trying to make up for this shyness by coming on a little strong...

[chris1989]

maybe something relating to a previous relationship happened the day (or day before) he texted you the first time, perhaps a reminder of a bad experience. following this he's realised it was a foolish decision to call it off with you.

[noodles]

Actually what are you playing at? You totally recognised he'd blown cold inexplicably, regardless of this you start flirting with him again and arrange to go out.

I agree it sounds like he's confusing but only YOU can set YOUR boundries on what you'll accept or not. By not confronting it but going with the flow (regardless of your gut instinct) YOU are also playing whatever game it is. If you continue to play then you are just as responsible for where it goes. Stop playing or stop moaning?

[Guest]

hello i got back with my ex recently but i'm not sure im happy i met a guy and i really like him we went out and had fun but now i know i want my ex so i keep blowing hot and cold with the new guy cause hes done nothing wrong and i do like him, so i'd say from reading what you have wrote he has a girlfriend that he doesn't really wanna leave but might not be happy with at the moment or at all

[Guest]

he sounds like a prime candidate for date violence. Don't fall for it, delete his number, I hate people like this

[another guest]

The stupidist form of physological bable, how to win a girl, i've ever seen.

Let's reel her in, then push her away, then reel her in again.

[Jessica08x]

ugh how annoying!!! I wouldnt bother. He's messing you around and he doesn't even know you yet. Imagine how it could get. I would say he just doesn't want a relationship by the sounds of things but it could just be that he's really shy. You obviously like him so I would go on the date, see how it goes but be cautious and do not take ANY messing around if you decide to see him again. xxx