I am attracted to my flatmate!

[beebee79]

Hi to all,

I have recently moved to a new flat which I share with one other guy. We both have long distance relationships but I can't help but feel attracted to him physically. He is constantly on my mind and I can't focus at work. After work, I rush home and hope that something will happen. Until now, he is super nice to me and considerate, we have dinner together, but thats as far as it gets. Oh, he did showed up one day in the kitchen to say goodmorning with just a towel around his waist as he was going to the bathroom and I loved it! I don't want to make a move first as I don't know if he feels the same way as I do.

Help!

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical errors if any

[Raspberry]

Tell him to put his towel around his waist first...putting it around his waste is only going to make it filthy.

[Megan123]

woo that's a hot game. If I were you, I"ll definitely wait and see if he's interested.

[Starshine]

There's no easy answer to this. You have to balance the risk of being direct and being turned down or, maybe, both wondering for ever.

Could you comfortably live there if he turned you down? If so it might be worth going for. Let us know how you get on.

[beebee79]

Hey hey,
Thank you all for your replies.

Ok, here is what happened yesterday night:
Went home, he wasn't there, put on some chillout music and decided to make my first homemade pizza (with my own dough of course). Later on he came and said he would go to the cinema with some friends. In the meantime I was struggling with the dough and made a complete mess in the kitchen. He offered to help so we were together kneading the dough and were kind of playful. He decided to stay home and we ate to gether pizza and watched TV. I was bursting inside, trying to figure out what to do next. It was late, got upset and went to bed. No use, couldn't sleep. Then it hit me! I sent him a text message "David I can't sleep". I heard him leaving the living room and coming towards my room. He knocked on my door and asked if I was alright. I told him to come and sit next to me and spilled it all out! I tried to get intimate with him. He said he was very flattered and although he felt tempted he is serious with his girlfriend and he would feel guilty if he did something.
Me, on the other hand, ok, a bit disapointed but relieved because I finally said it! I think its beautiful expressing your emotions regardless of the consequences. I don't believe I will have a problem living with him, he is too sweat to hold grudges. I'll keep you posted if anything else happens (I doubt it)! Aaaaah!

Question: Should I keep trying? Now he knows how I feel, so I can be myself
or start going to the gym and release the tension, lol!

[YAS]

i wouldn't keep trying, he has told you he is not interested & that he loves his gf it would be a big mistake if you bring it up again

[Verve]

Don't sh*t where you eat!

[beebee79]

Its hard not to think of him. Especially at night, I can't sleep, I want him so bad! His girlfriend is coming this weekend, I am depressed. Will try to sleep over a friend's.
Have you ever seen the movie "Blame it on Rio" with Demi Moore when she was young? The other girl is my idol. She is a hunter. That's how I feel. In the end her victim succumbs to her charms even though he is married. Such a sexy movie!

[Megan123]

Why don't you go and see your bf if you can?

[Bouncy]

Question: Should I keep trying? Now he knows how I feel, so I can be myself
or start going to the gym and release the tension, lol!

No. He's already been polite and turned you down nicely. Don't turn into a psycho room mate.

[beebee79]

Ok ok! Geez! I'll be a good girl and won't harrase him again.

[DipsyTipsy]

Have to agree with bouncy on this one sorry

[MaxtheGaul]

I think Bouncy's right, but hey g/fs don't always last forever and who knows. At least you have poll position if things change.

My only question is about your long distance relationship. Is it OK with your b/f if you have sex with your flatmate?

I had a f/b type relationship with a flatmate over about 18 months once, it worked great, but we were both open with our respective partners about what was going on. If you can do that it's fine, but it's not everyone who can accept that and I suspect your flatmate is not one of them.

[SkeeLo]

I reckon you should have walked into his room naked - with whipped cream over your funparts...

no man can resist that

[Verve]