SarahJane, I have a slightly weak bladder so know what you mean. It has never been bad enough to spoil my life but I do know the problem of being desperate with nowhere to go.
I have never had a problem with wetting the bed and stopped that when I was very young. However, when I was growing up, I found myself quite a few times in a situation where I was very desperate and wet my
knickers. My Mother was always kind about it and didn't make a fuss. When I went to secondary school, I had two bus journeys. There were a number of times when I was bursting on the way home. I managed to hold it while on the bus but the walk from the bus stop was too much on several occasions I wet myself.
I was able to hide what I had done and thought my Mother didn't know. Then, when I was 16, I was coming home with her one day and really dying to wee. My Mother realised I was bursting. She told me just to do my best to wait but not to worry if I couldn't. Well, I couldn't and went in my
knickers. My Mother was really sweet and comforted me because I was quite upset.
When we were home and I had changed, she said that we ought to talk about what had happened. To my surprise, she said that she knew that I sometimes wet myself. She said that I should do my best to plan ahead but if an accident happened it was not too terrible. She said I had obviously inherited her slightly weak bladder. She told me that she occasionally wet her
knickers when bursting for the loo and that her mother and sister, my aunt, did too.
That was more than 20 years ago. I still have to be careful, especially if it is cold or I have a cold. While I do my best not to get into a situation where I am bursting, I still have an accident every once in a while.