Does a potential husband have a right to know?

[Fred75]

Should he be told when you start discussing life and marriage.

[ZiaAries]

I would come clean about anything he wanted to know about me. Lying and secrets is not the kind of relationship I want.

[Fred75]

I would come clean about anything he wanted to know about me. Lying and secrets is not the kind of relationship I want.

Nice.
Thank you.

[ZiaAries]

I would come clean about anything he wanted to know about me. Lying and secrets is not the kind of relationship I want.

Nice.
Thank you.

You are very welcomed Fred.

[Naturegurl]

Yes, I agree with the others. Lying is not a part of a healthy relationship.

[lovealot]

If he asked directly I would tell, but, I think depending on the circumstances surrounding an abortion it may not be nessesary for them to know. If it was thought to affect fertility it would constitute a need to tell them too, it would only be fair especially if they really wanted a family.

[Verve]

A potential husband...... No.
( I agree with lovealot on some issues of him knowing)



A husband ....... Yes.

[Cambridge]

But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife?

[Jaca]

An abortion is a major life decision. If it continues to affect you then it will eventually affect a partner too. It will come to their attention eventually and there will be less hurt if that happens sooner rather than later.

[Fred75]

But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife?

If he were upset at the other woman for killing his child... sure.
It tells a lot to the new one.

[Verve]

But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife?

Excellent question!

[ZiaAries]

But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife?

If he were upset at the other woman for killing his child... sure.
It tells a lot to the new one.

IF? What about him supporting the other woman's decision for abortion? I think the potential wife has the right to know that as well just as you agreed that the potential husband had a right to know. Honesty goes both ways or is this one-side?

[Fred75]

But this begs the question: does a man, who got a woman pregnant, who then had an abortion, have an obligation to tell a potential wife?

If he were upset at the other woman for killing his child... sure.
It tells a lot to the new one.

IF? What about him supporting the other woman's decision for abortion? I think the potential wife has the right to know that as well just as you agreed that the potential husband had a right to know. Honesty goes both ways or is this one-side?

The reason I said IF was to convey the fact the man felt a loss and is mentioning it so he may have a say.

But since a man ULTIMATELY has no say in regards to abortion... it does not go both ways.

[ZiaAries]

Fred, I said if he supported the abortion. There are men that don't want to be fathers and they ask and want the woman to get a abortion or they say they will not be forced to be a father. Now Fred, answer my question about 2-way honesty and revealing past decisions like abortion. Does he not owe her the same disclosure that she owes him?????

[Fred75]

Fred, I said if he supported the abortion. There are men that don't want to be fathers and they ask and want the woman to get a abortion or they say they will not be forced to be a father. Now Fred, answer my question about 2-way honesty and revealing past decisions like abortion. Does he not owe her the same disclosure that she owes him?????

Yes and no.
Yes if he feels he needs to be honest. I can see your position.
No, because he is not the one that actually committed the act.