I HATE MY HUSBAND!

[marby]

[bluelight]

I really feel bad for you! But there´s a second chance in every life!
Get your stuff and leave him as soon as possible! I think it would better for you to make a cut!

[bonzo88]

We've only been married six months. He's a miserable b***** who does nothing but F****** moan. And he has the cheek to call me a fat cow whilst he sits there looking like a budha with his tiny unwashed dick. I hate him. I used to have a life - friends etc. Now I work whilst he sits on his fat shitty arse all day claiming he "hasnt stopped" and I have to listen to him slagging off my kids and whining that he wants a new car or a new house ......spoilt fat t***. I would leave but I have no where to go and he would literally kill me but now, at least tonight, when I'm listening to his nagging and abusive mouth, I can think to myself "Yes, Knobhound, but I've slagged you off to possibly millions of people and you dont even know it!"

Hopefully, he wont be around much longer - he's seriously ill with alcohol problems but refuses to give up drinking! Got to go, must nip out and get him a bottle of whisky for his dinner tonight..............

Well you both sound like thoroughly nasty people. You deserve each other, you hate filled cretins.

Instead of complaining, ask yourself why you are with him and why he has apparently morphed into this completely different man. I know it's a tough task, one precious little girls like yourself avoid and instead aim to pass any blame onto the nearest man but it's worth it as you'll only get what you want when you know what you want. Not that you are particularly owed any happiness.

[zilt]

nice try zo_lou, there may be some truth in what you're saying; but you're just looking for a place to be as bitchy as possible, and are using hubby as an excuse.

[Oran]

lose the weight, and remember its the thought that counts and the work you put on it. Also confront him about it, if he decides not to listen, it means he no longer is interested in holding the family together, or its not on his priority list.

Female they have a way of thinking the worst first.

do some tests, find out how much he wants you and the family to keep up.

its ur life, fix it. u only live once.

pz.

[Bouncy]

Read up on this thread:

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/viewtopic.php?t=172589&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

There was plenty of advice in there, but it went unheeded. Lets hope you're more sensible than the OP in that one.

[chance1]

I can't believe how you are attacking her like this! she only wanted to let off steam and thought she could do it on this forum. everyone is entitled to slag off their partners otherwise you'd go nuts keeping it all bottled up.

[Bouncy]

[cosmicB]

Dear zo_lou..

Your domestic relationship is exactly the same as my mum had it...
There is no cure but to hide your spirit inside your Being somewhere where he can't harm it, till he's gone.. but then it'll take about ten years to get it all back after he's gone... You are one of those who lost at love, like a billion others in the same boat... It's a long hard road, once you let yourself get trapped in it... Usually it happens when some asshole gets a little girl pregnant in early high-school, and she marries him to save face and such... Once in you Can't get out... It's like once the gazelle's throat is in the lion's mouth, that little deer is history...

In dealing with a mindless alkie, it doesn't matter how bad you are to him, or how nice you are to him.. he can only see negatives in everything... He even creates negatives that aren't even there, so he'll have something to anger him...
Actually he is the loser, and you just got stuck to a loser, and he's pulling you down...
With a bunch of kids, and you being chubby, there's almost no way you'll ever attract a new mate, so my advice to you is to start focusing on becoming slim, so you'll be attractive when the time comes to replace the piece of zoo-garbage you are stuck with...

Stop eating the garbage stuff.. like butter, margarine, bread... Oils and fats, and flour, are people killers... Stop buying milk for the family.. let 'em freak over it... Quit the meat, or at least slow down on it... Stop making his favorite meals, and stop going out of our way to please him... He's just not worth it.. Exercise a lot, in all your spare time, if you have any... Feed the kids a lot of fresh veggies and pastas.. Ignore their complaining... Don't buy them anymore junk foods, and stop allowances flat... Tell them if they want money, "WORK FOR IT!"... They will try to complain like their make parent taught them to be... Ignore it.. just walk away...

Most important for you now is to take a Judo and Karate course, so when the time comes that you feel you want to kick the basturdo out, and he tries to hit you, you will be ready to knock him down so fast and hard, that he will have no option but to leave, sobbing... Alkies are absolutely insane.. treat him like he's just a baby nutcase.. but gently...

Important to never get into a conversation with an alkie... Let him speak, and you be silent as a lamb... When it's your turn to speak, just turn and walk away... "I'm not gonna stay here and be insulted!"...
Always let the alkie have the last word, and the sooner the better, is why I recommend total silence always.. That's how I deal with psychotics who are ready to kill me, and are pushing for a reason to start a battle... I used to crash huge biker gang parties, and when things got crazy, I would be silent, but attentive listening, and things always quieted down fast... You could nag him, but you know that gets you no-where... He only hears what he wants to hear anyway...

Get healthy and slim, is your best option now... Get your kids exercising with you... Determine who in your disfunctional family is your friend... If a kid isn't your friend, then just ignore the little monster... Let it fend for itself... Start by cutting out its allowence, Permanetly, and learn how to hide your purse extemely well, or lock it up if you have a place... Don't bring any more money into the house anymore, ever.. just use a bank card, and never ever disclose your passwords to anyone, especially the alkie and his pet...

If you don't want to have sex with him, complain that the doctor told you have vag-cysts, and that they are extremely painful when you have sex... then just maybe he might go to others for his nookie.. and just maybe he might find a new home.. but that's a long shot.. and there is the chance that he could bring a deadly STD disease(s) home with him...

I could write a thick book on your problem... It's a big one, that much of the Race is stuck into... I feel for you, because I had to live in that mess too... I wish I could make things better, but that would mean extincting booze, and there's no way that could ever happen on this planet, till hell freezes over...

Always think of what you are going to say before you say it... Think of what the others reaction will be to it... Say things that only give pleasant reactions, and get healthy, slim, and tough, and strong...

Take a double dose of multi-vitamins daily, the kind with multi-minerals.. Centrum Forte is a good one.. Plus Amino Acid Complex, one every two days.. Plus Omega-3, one every two days.. Plus extra vitamin C, and extra Zinc...
Hide your vitamin pills from the household, or maybe even in a locker at work... Exercise, and practice your Judo and Karate in the livingroom when the family is watching TV... If they bitch, tell 'em, "I LIVE HERE TOO! IF YOU DON"T LIKE IT GO OUTSIDE AND PLAY!"...

It's like the tailgaiter who was following me real close, at a km below the max speed limit... I hit the brakes, and stepped out of my truck, and faces the bully, and yells at the asshole bully, "HeY Bully! I live here too!.. This is My World Too!.. So what if I sometimes go a little slow! It's LEGAL, and I enjoy it this way, it's safer, so BACK OFF!"... He did...


Please don't go taking any of my advice without really giving it a good think over, and getting at least three good opinions on my stuff... And if it sounds like it might work for you, then try it in little bits, and watch the reactions... Go slow and easy... If the guy sometimes hits you, you need outside help from the authorities, and you need to get him the hell out of your life ASAP, cuz with hitter-alkies too often things gets real messy.. but from what I gather from your words, he's just a zombie-wimp who is always complaining about his shidt life by trying to apply ans see his vile personal problems onto others...

If you still have sex with him, you might start by demanding he kiss you with real kisses.. and if he can't, then he gets none... but that one could really set-off a psychotic alkie dangerously... If he's a psychotic alkie, you are in danger hun... Then if there are guns, bows, spears, big knives, and such, in the house, get rid of them if you feel concern over them, or if you've ever been threatened by any of them... You could ask a trusted relative to hold them in secret for you, or you could ask the cops to take them away from the house because you fear for your life...

Good luck with it all hun.. it's a long rough road.. and you are strong, and you might just make it through... Ask your kids to help you through it, if you can trust them... Avoid asking the kid who is daddy's pet... He or she will always rat you out... Boycott that kid if that kid acts like our enemy... I know it sounds mean and rough, but you are in a survival situation it seems... If a bad kid is 18, kick it out of the house, or just ask it to leave... Stop spending your life on assholes...

[Kyuubi]

I agree with the above post. I'm glad I'm not the only one that thinks this way. Cosmic summed up my thoughts pretty well, most of it anyway. Just be stronger then him mentally, and work out. That way, if he ever let's his anger get out of control, then you can defend yourself. It's very important to not submit to people like that. He may think he is superior but he really isn't. If you can see past his anger, you are instantly better then him, because he let the bad things that happened in his life take him over and envelop him. The result is the person you see today.

[cosmicB]

Dear zo_lou..

If you are having nightmares because of nasty things that asshole did to you, work on your mind to get you to instantly rush up to the dark figures in the nightmares, and give them a big warm loving hug, and that will make it freak, and go running away from you screaming in pain... Love deletes evil... Do it about three times in a row, if it's a repeating nightmare, and the nightmare should dissolve into nothingness...

Best thing to do is to try to not recall and of the old hurts... The moment a closet hurt starts to show in your thoughts, do something that keeps your hands busy.. or get into your exercising... If you are chubby, get your MD to check your heart, to determine that you are strong enough to do strenuous exercises...

Again, please don't take any of my advice without getting at least three good second opinions...

[Bouncy]

Again, please don't take any of my advice without getting at least three good second opinions...

Shouldn't that be a second, third and fourth opinion? Or do three seconds make a sixth? Or do three seconds make an orgasm?

She doesn't want advice, she just wants to complain. If she wanted advice she would have heeded it the first time around. This is the Bitchin' section, not the Help Me Out Of A Relationship section. She's been there, tried that, ignored it, now she's bitchin'.

[Kyuubi]

Again, please don't take any of my advice without getting at least three good second opinions...

Shouldn't that be a second, third and fourth opinion? Or do three seconds make a sixth? Or do three seconds make an orgasm?

She doesn't want advice, she just wants to complain. If she wanted advice she would have heeded it the first time around. This is the Bitchin' section, not the Help Me Out Of A Relationship section. She's been there, tried that, ignored it, now she's bitchin'.

There is nothing wrong with a little bit of advice, even if it goes unheard.

[Bouncy]

Again, please don't take any of my advice without getting at least three good second opinions...

Shouldn't that be a second, third and fourth opinion? Or do three seconds make a sixth? Or do three seconds make an orgasm?

She doesn't want advice, she just wants to complain. If she wanted advice she would have heeded it the first time around. This is the Bitchin' section, not the Help Me Out Of A Relationship section. She's been there, tried that, ignored it, now she's bitchin'.

There is nothing wrong with a little bit of advice, even if it goes unheard.

That's true. It may fall on deaf ears with the original poster, but if someone else can gain from the advice it's a good thing.

However...... the original poster is a lost cause. She's not asking for help, she's simply complaining.

[Kyuubi]

Again, please don't take any of my advice without getting at least three good second opinions...

Shouldn't that be a second, third and fourth opinion? Or do three seconds make a sixth? Or do three seconds make an orgasm?

She doesn't want advice, she just wants to complain. If she wanted advice she would have heeded it the first time around. This is the Bitchin' section, not the Help Me Out Of A Relationship section. She's been there, tried that, ignored it, now she's bitchin'.

There is nothing wrong with a little bit of advice, even if it goes unheard.

That's true. It may fall on deaf ears with the original poster, but if someone else can gain from the advice it's a good thing.

However...... the original poster is a lost cause. She's not asking for help, she's simply complaining.

That's also true, but if she ever glances at his posts, she may heed his advice. It's up to her whether to accept it or not. I think cosmicB gave some very good advice.