. wrote:That makes no sense whatsoever horizon.
You can't pick and choose and expect women to put up with no sex. When you find someone willing to put up with this arrangement, do report back and tell us all about it.
They do exist. It is documented. Have you looked up asexuality yet? It is uncommon yes, but they do exist.
"Women are emotional creatures, sex is bonding, i could not imagine going out with some guy that then says, sorry i don't ever want to have sex with you and, um, by the way, i do masterbate thinking of God...
One, i would feel rejected, what's wrong with me? And, two, of my god, (no punt intended), run, quick run.....
I'd be in total shock, working up all these feelings, expectations, anticipations to then be hit with a shocker like that?
I have heard of "better the Devil you know" but truthfully?
Even a Virgin at some point if in love, total lust, will surcum and want to be with that man, what an emotionally bad experience that would be for her..
Frankly, if that's Dreamguy's "Dream", then so be it, but live in your loveless world love, because no woman deserves to feel that form of rejection when you "finally" decide to divulge your inner most secrets to her...
You tell her from day dot.. And, she'll run, so be it... You don't have the right in my opinion to get a woman emotionally involved and then play your card.....
WT?"
Good, I like your argument.
However, what about the people (such as myself), who do not feel any anticipation, expect nothing, Have no feeling when talking to a woman?
Dreamguy wants to find love (albeit a different kind to what your used to).
For me, I do not feel lust or passion etc. I have long since written off finding love seeing as how I do not feel it for any creature on this earth.
I agree with you that he should not string the woman along. He should mention early on that he does not require sex (he will be telling many women this I predict).
Does he not deserve a relationship with anyone?
Can we at least agree that there may be some woman out there who is willing to partner with an asexual?
I understand your point. Please think about the way things are rather than the way things should be.
Remember this isn't you specifically that we are talking about.
There are 6-7 billion people out there, all with different mindsets/priorities.
To say that there is not one out there who has the same feelings as you is statistically very improbable.
I understand that your method of thought may be applicable to a large number of women.
In my position I would never ever deny someone the chance/hope of finding salvation.
If he doesn't believe he can do it, he won't try.
The feeling of hopelessness is a very dangerous thing.
Be very careful what you spawn into peoples minds. These words can send someone down a fatal thought path.
I want you to listen to this music,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_PxTw_azWw
Please don't write it off as soon as you feel scared.
I want you to explore the feeling you get from this song.
Try not to ignore it as your first instinct will tell you.
(I am predicting your reaction will be "this is bollox.. turn it off", a subliminal protection switch engaged to prevent yourself from going through a negative emotional experience).
This is what you could send him to.
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