Caught my teenage kids skinny dipping

[let it be]

i say hell let them do what they want .I wish i had sibling like that.I see no harm in letting them do what ever they want they are going todo it anyway if not at your house at someone elses. mabey even join them if you look half decent i know i wouldh loved it for my mom and sister to help me out at that age

[Mizz lil worriedd<3]

Which would you rather them be doing in your houes naked or doing number of drugs =].Human body is a great thing and yeah she was nude but we are all nude under our clothes =]

[Guest]

...and sex is natural. The human body is beautiful. Kids should never have rules. Respect is highly overrated. Boys get hard-ons. Girls are teases. You have no rights in your own house.

Rock on.

[Realist]

I disagree to an extent with “Guest”. Whilst rules should be kept to a minimum, parents have to guide their children, instil in them moral standards, which you can but hope will stay with them for the rest of their lives. In this instance of teenager’s skinny dipping, you have to consider whether it really matters and be relieved they are not involved in drugs or worse. It is surely better to accept that they are doing no harm and by allowing them to do so, you have some control over the situation and you are in a better position if you have to prohibit something else at a later stage.

[Guest]

So I guess I shouldn't be upset then when I come home and the neighbors and my parents are sitting naked in the hot tub? I mean, after all, it's just a naked body, right?

Not.

My parents respect me enough to be decent around me so I will respect them in the same way and keep my pants on me and my friends when they're around. It's pretty basic.

[bball]

let them be kids and its harmeless nidity. its also important for them to be more open about their body and sex because if they're not it can cause un pretcted sex, which can also lead to stds and or pregnacy

[Guest]

[Suburban Mom]

Thanks to everyone who provided thoughtful, relevant responses to my question. As for those of you who responded with rude, inappropriate, sometimes perverse answers...well you should really seek some help.

My question was an honest attempt to solicit advice about a very real problem within my family and one which engenders true feelings of vulnerability in me.

I am NOT a prude nor am I sexually repressed or bland. Nudity in and of itself doesn't bother me and I am fully aware of the beauty and power of the naked body. Dealing with it within my own family is the problem, NOT any kind of sexual dysfunction on my part.

Sorry for the tirade but this has gotten me rather angry not to mention frustrated at being so misunderstood.

[Guest]

Great post SM.

So what did you decide to do for the next time you walk in on the kids sitting naked in your home?

I'm with the view that if the kids expect you to show them respect, they need to do the same with you.

[Suburban Mom]

Thanks Guest. I'm not sure what I would do. It hasn't happened again. I will say that the initial shock has indeed worn off. I seem to be able to look back on the inciting event with a bit more dispassion and detachment.

Seeing my children together in that light (along with my daughter's girlfriend) was disturbing obviously but lately, I've been in a more "forgiving" mindset. I'm still thinking about how this has really impacted my family though.

[Libertine]

...and how, exactly, has it affected your family? Much? Not much?

[Suburban Mom]

Libertine,

I'm not really sure. I'm thinking that I probably did tend to overreact but who can say? My kids don't seem to have found the experience worthy of discussion. I've since seen my daughter and son using the jacuzzi both with and without swimsuits. They've even invited me to join them which I've so far declined.

My son seeing his mom in a sexy, revealing bikini? Not a problem. That's happened many times. My son actually SKINNYDIPPING with his mom? VERY unlikely! I realize that this may be common in some families but perhaps I'm a bit too traditional for that.

[CiD]

Y'know, I think it wasn't really the fact that they were nude, but rather they were doing something they knew you wouldn't approve of.

Honestly, if there is no harm done, it's all good, and it's good that you've come to terms with it. But best talk to them about it if the case arises when they do something irresponsible.

Nonetheless, having such liberated kids, they're quite lucky. And if you can be liberated with them, you're lucky as well

[Beatrix Bonadea II]

Dear Guest Jun 10, 2008 1:57 am,

I've definitely thought about that and the thought that my daughter actually enjoyed watching her brother get an erection really upsets me. He's a very handsome young man and quite well-endowed. Part of me believes that my daughter who is very sophisticated, was taking advantage of him for her own gratification.

I'm very upset about all of this.

Don´t worry about it. Your children learned a lot without doing anything especially wrong. It is very normal, that a boy gets an erection in the company of naked girls and it is very normal, that girls want to try, if their bare breasts or more ar working on a penis.

If your daughter made him horny, let it be. Maybe he would get a boner, if you are sitting naked near him. He would be no pervert even in this case.

If there was no incestous corporal contact (vaginal), I wouldn´t praise your kids, but accept their teen behaviour.

[Ming]

The children of naturists don't seem to be unduly affected, nor those in Scandinavian countries whose whole families are routinely naked in the sauna. But it does raise the question of boundaries. It's only acceptable behavior if everyone is in accord. You are not, so you should make it clear what is acceptable and what is not. Everyone has to obey rules, whether they see them as fair or reasonable should not be up for debate.