How to confront BF about paranoid jealous thoughts...

[selfconcious]

OK i know at least I think that I am being silly and paranoid but i can't get over it..
I am incredibly jealous and paranoid and suspicious of a girl that my bf is "friends" with....
It all started with them PM each other and then shes on his MSN and his texting her..
and then he was "mistakenly" kissing her..
and whenever he wants anything for his course he goes to her etc
and now next year shes moving in2 his street and they are going to be "lecture buddies" etc
and earlier his friend messged him saying "your bird looks hot in her profile pic" and i have met this friend and he has never been like that 2 me and i look up her profile and there she is looking all HOT!!
i know i sound stupid and paranoid
but i just want 2 know how 2 confront him about it without seemingly like a bitch
i do trust him but there is just that little niggle there...

[MaxtheGaul]

There's nothing to confront!

If you can't handle a guy who is attractive to other women, then choose a complete tosser.

My g/f is really attractive to other men, flirts with them, and yes kisses them. Why should I mind. She comes home with me. Everyone else is jealous!

[Cambridge]

OK i know at least I think that I am being silly and paranoid but i can't get over it..
I am incredibly jealous and paranoid and suspicious of a girl that my bf is "friends" with....
It all started with them PM each other and then shes on his MSN and his texting her..
and then he was "mistakenly" kissing her..
and whenever he wants anything for his course he goes to her etc
and now next year shes moving in2 his street and they are going to be "lecture buddies" etc
and earlier his friend messged him saying "your bird looks hot in her profile pic" and i have met this friend and he has never been like that 2 me and i look up her profile and there she is looking all HOT!!
i know i sound stupid and paranoid
but i just want 2 know how 2 confront him about it without seemingly like a bitch
i do trust him but there is just that little niggle there...

Yer, SC...if you're not comfortable with him then break it off. Not because he's cheating (I don't know) but you and he are not going to work.

That's cool. You're young. You'll survive. What you've got to realize is that you are not just choosing a partner, but a lifestyle. This one is not within your comfort zone. S'cool.

[SybariteGator]

It sounds like he's young and isn't ready to have a mature committed relationship.

Just trust him. If he cheats on you, dump him.

It's that simple.

Good luck.

[Verve]

and then he was "mistakenly" kissing her..

Your not his girlfriend honey... Sorry. You’re someone to pass the time with. Your time is almost up.

[tobinfest]

Two schools of thought here, combining thoughts by others here.
1. Stay on and if he cheats, lose him.
2. Stay on and if you can't handle the emotions that you are feeling, move on.

Know thyself and what you want. You are obviously concerned and unhappy, which is not what a relationship is all about. I would tell you to play the field, but I would first sever this relationship before you do so.

I hope this helps. Good luck

[Babykitten]

OK i know at least I think that I am being silly and paranoid but i can't get over it..
I am incredibly jealous and paranoid and suspicious of a girl that my bf is "friends" with....
It all started with them PM each other and then shes on his MSN and his texting her..
and then he was "mistakenly" kissing her..
and whenever he wants anything for his course he goes to her etc
and now next year shes moving in2 his street and they are going to be "lecture buddies" etc
and earlier his friend messged him saying "your bird looks hot in her profile pic" and i have met this friend and he has never been like that 2 me and i look up her profile and there she is looking all HOT!!
i know i sound stupid and paranoid
but i just want 2 know how 2 confront him about it without seemingly like a bitch
i do trust him but there is just that little niggle there...

sounds like he's two timing, bolt the door on the way out

[Fred75]

OK i know at least I think that I am being silly and paranoid but i can't get over it..
I am incredibly jealous and paranoid and suspicious of a girl that my bf is "friends" with....
It all started with them PM each other and then shes on his MSN and his texting her..
and then he was "mistakenly" kissing her..
and whenever he wants anything for his course he goes to her etc
and now next year shes moving in2 his street and they are going to be "lecture buddies" etc
and earlier his friend messged him saying "your bird looks hot in her profile pic" and i have met this friend and he has never been like that 2 me and i look up her profile and there she is looking all HOT!!
i know i sound stupid and paranoid
but i just want 2 know how 2 confront him about it without seemingly like a bitch
i do trust him but there is just that little niggle there...

What??
You think your married to him or something?
He can do as he pleases.
He's not married to you and has no commitment to you.
Best you shut your trap about the whole thing.

[Bouncy]

I am incredibly jealous and paranoid and suspicious of a girl that my bf is "friends" with....

Dump this guy and find one that is a control freak and utter b*****. You'll be much happier.

[Captain]

There's nothing to confront!

If you can't handle a guy who is attractive to other women, then choose a complete tosser.

My g/f is really attractive to other men, flirts with them, and yes kisses them. Why should I mind. She comes home with me. Everyone else is jealous!

I couldn't handle a relationship like that.

[Winston Smith]

Kill him

[Cambridge]

I am incredibly jealous and paranoid and suspicious of a girl that my bf is "friends" with....

Dump this guy and find one that is a control freak and utter b*****. You'll be much happier.

Yer, get yourself an OJ Simpson. Only don't be seen with other guys and for God's sake don't piss him off.

[Sharin...]

Two schools of thought here, combining thoughts by others here.
1. Stay on and if he cheats, lose him.
2. Stay on and if you can't handle the emotions that you are feeling, move on.

Know thyself and what you want. You are obviously concerned and unhappy, which is not what a relationship is all about. I would tell you to play the field, but I would first sever this relationship before you do so.

I hope this helps. Good luck

i agree

[WhiteTrash]

Am I missing something here?

I can understand why the poster is upset.

IF while he's supposed to be spending time with you and he's on MSN and texting her dump him and move on.

As she'll be moving next door to him that will make you feel even more jealous.

Find a new man who will value you more.