piercing and boys

[Guest]

just a thought but andrew might not be so scared if he sees his brother get his pierced first?

[Jim1]

just a thought but andrew might not be so scared if he sees his brother get his pierced first?

Although I remember someone, think it was an earring shop employee, who said if there
were two kids to be done, always do the younger one first. She didn't explain the reason,
but my take on it is this: If the younger one doesn't cry, then the older one doesn't dare
cry for fear of being babyish. And if the younger one does cry that's OK because it is
the younger one, and the older one won't cry to show how much more grown up he/she
is.

[Guest]

When I get home in a bit I will ask the both of them and see what they say.

Hope the chat goes OK. If they do want it piercing, you'll have chosen a really good time if, like mine, your kids are virtually at the start of the long summer holiday. If you take them reasonably quickly, they should get most of the healing done before they go back to school so no messing about with bits of tape to cover them up for PE, etc.

Surprisingly my wife had already asked them before I got home, even though she was the one who previously said we shouldn’t ask! She got a yes from both Matthew and Andrew; although Andrew was a little scared it would hurt apparently. I’ve asked her if she is really alright with it, and she said the kids were happy about it, so she’d let them get it.

Mark, you raise a good point, it will need to be done quickly before going back to school, although I probably won’t be able to take them any sooner than Thursday this week.

Need to get to bed; I’ve so much work to do it is a nightmare.

Colonel,

don't forget to take a movie of it !
And by the way, you should also have 1 ear done as a family bonding experience.

[The Colonel]

just a thought but andrew might not be so scared if he sees his brother get his pierced first?

Although I remember someone, think it was an earring shop employee, who said if there
were two kids to be done, always do the younger one first. She didn't explain the reason,
but my take on it is this: If the younger one doesn't cry, then the older one doesn't dare
cry for fear of being babyish. And if the younger one does cry that's OK because it is
the younger one, and the older one won't cry to show how much more grown up he/she
is.

I don't know what it would be best to do about that. I think it is best to ask the person doing it to say what they find works better.

[The Colonel]

When I get home in a bit I will ask the both of them and see what they say.

Hope the chat goes OK. If they do want it piercing, you'll have chosen a really good time if, like mine, your kids are virtually at the start of the long summer holiday. If you take them reasonably quickly, they should get most of the healing done before they go back to school so no messing about with bits of tape to cover them up for PE, etc.

Surprisingly my wife had already asked them before I got home, even though she was the one who previously said we shouldn’t ask! She got a yes from both Matthew and Andrew; although Andrew was a little scared it would hurt apparently. I’ve asked her if she is really alright with it, and she said the kids were happy about it, so she’d let them get it.

Mark, you raise a good point, it will need to be done quickly before going back to school, although I probably won’t be able to take them any sooner than Thursday this week.

Need to get to bed; I’ve so much work to do it is a nightmare.

Colonel,

don't forget to take a movie of it !
And by the way, you should also have 1 ear done as a family bonding experience.

A movie? I never took a movie of when my two eldest did. Why would you want to do that?

I won't be getting any either!

[Marky Mark]

Mark, you raise a good point, it will need to be done quickly before going back to school, although I probably won’t be able to take them any sooner than Thursday this week.

Need to get to bed; I’ve so much work to do it is a nightmare.

Hope everything goes well on Thursday. As I've said previously, I think you did the right thing to ask them and the summer holidays is a really good time to get them done.

[The Colonel]

Mark, you raise a good point, it will need to be done quickly before going back to school, although I probably won’t be able to take them any sooner than Thursday this week.

Need to get to bed; I’ve so much work to do it is a nightmare.

Hope everything goes well on Thursday. As I've said previously, I think you did the right thing to ask them and the summer holidays is a really good time to get them done.

Thanks Mark, they are happy about it at least. That is the most important thing.

[Tim_2008]

Are your boys allowed to wear earrings at school Colonel?
Have they said what studs they might like to get?
where are you going to get them done?

[The Colonel]

Are your boys allowed to wear earrings at school Colonel?

Yes, my boys are allowed to wear earrings at their schools.

Have they said what studs they might like to get?

Not to me. It will be something fairly standard. When my eldest got his done he got a gold one, and my second son (who had two done at different times) got diamond ones on both ocassions.

where are you going to get them done?

It's a store called "Claires", that is where my other boys had it done and it was recommended to me by one of my staff when my eldest wanted his done. So far I have been impressed with them.

[Hotel_Whiskey]

All I can say is be careful with Claires... they are not professionally trained, and if getting both done, often misalign them
I always went to professionals until I started doing my own and friends (with correct equipment and training)
Also, if they ever want cartilage done in the future, use a needle not a gun
x x x

[The Colonel]

All I can say is be careful with Claires... they are not professionally trained, and if getting both done, often misalign them
I always went to professionals until I started doing my own and friends (with correct equipment and training)
Also, if they ever want cartilage done in the future, use a needle not a gun
x x x

Don't worry snappy, my two eldest boys had theirs done at Claires and were fine. It doesn't really require much skill to do, and I do look out for hygiene (such as wearing gloves etc) and so far they have been fine.

My boys will only be getting one so alignment wouldn't be a problem. I am also aware that stud guns are only for use on earlobes (my wife is a GP so she knows, and in fact deals with, things that go wrong).

Thanks snappy.

[Tim_2008]

Best of luck to your boys today Colonel as the big day is here

[The Colonel]

Best of luck to your boys today Colonel as the big day is here

Matthew and Andrew each had their ear pierced this afternoon. Following advice from a member who I PM'd I was advised to make sure they were pierced using good quality studs, so for that reason I didn't let them choose their stud, but had them pierced with 9 carat gold studs. Matthew got a 4mm stud and Andrew a smaller 3mm one. (Matthew chose the bigger one of the two, whereas the smaller one was better for Andrew).

I asked the lady whether my older or younger son should go first since Andrew was a bit scared, and she said it would be advisable to do Andrew first so he didn't get worked up or then refuse to do it. However, he was perfectly fine, he sat on my knee and the lady gave him a teddy to hold on to while it was done.

They are both happy with it and have been showing them off to their mum and their older brothers. My parents and my wife's parents will see them tomorrow (as it is Matthew's birthday) so I know they will not be pleased.

[deepwaters]

Matthew and Andrew each had their ear pierced this afternoon. Following advice from a member who I PM'd I was advised to make sure they were pierced using good quality studs, so for that reason I didn't let them choose their stud, but had them pierced with 9 carat gold studs. Matthew got a 4mm stud and Andrew a smaller 3mm one. (Matthew chose the bigger one of the two, whereas the smaller one was better for Andrew).

I asked the lady whether my older or younger son should go first since Andrew was a bit scared, and she said it would be advisable to do Andrew first so he didn't get worked up or then refuse to do it. However, he was perfectly fine, he sat on my knee and the lady gave him a teddy to hold on to while it was done.

They are both happy with it and have been showing them off to their mum and their older brothers. My parents and my wife's parents will see them tomorrow (as it is Matthew's birthday) so I know they will not be pleased.

Well, Colonel, I would simply like to how happy I am for you, and more particularly Matthew and Andrew of course. I have often seen 'the chair' at Claire's in use for daughters with their mothers but never, as far as I can recall, by sons with their fathers. It must have been a tremendous occasion for all concerned.

There is a question now, that I really do wish to put you. Are there any circumstances at all in which you might follow their example. For half a lifetime I wanted to get my ears pierced before finally I did, and during that period I was acutely aware of norms and the feelings of others. I understand perfectly the unwillingness you have had to make it a clean sweep, but hope you will take the plunge one day as I seem to sense that you would really like to if the circumstances were right.

Tomorrow is Yorkshire Day, so a visit to Claire's would be one way of celebrating it?!

[The Colonel]

Matthew and Andrew each had their ear pierced this afternoon. Following advice from a member who I PM'd I was advised to make sure they were pierced using good quality studs, so for that reason I didn't let them choose their stud, but had them pierced with 9 carat gold studs. Matthew got a 4mm stud and Andrew a smaller 3mm one. (Matthew chose the bigger one of the two, whereas the smaller one was better for Andrew).

I asked the lady whether my older or younger son should go first since Andrew was a bit scared, and she said it would be advisable to do Andrew first so he didn't get worked up or then refuse to do it. However, he was perfectly fine, he sat on my knee and the lady gave him a teddy to hold on to while it was done.

They are both happy with it and have been showing them off to their mum and their older brothers. My parents and my wife's parents will see them tomorrow (as it is Matthew's birthday) so I know they will not be pleased.

Well, Colonel, I would simply like to how happy I am for you, and more particularly Matthew and Andrew of course. I have often seen 'the chair' at Claire's in use for daughters with their mothers but never, as far as I can recall, by sons with their fathers. It must have been a tremendous occasion for all concerned.

There is a question now, that I really do wish to put you. Are there any circumstances at all in which you might follow their example. For half a lifetime I wanted to get my ears pierced before finally I did, and during that period I was acutely aware of norms and the feelings of others. I understand perfectly the unwillingness you have had to make it a clean sweep, but hope you will take the plunge one day as I seem to sense that you would really like to if the circumstances were right.

Tomorrow is Yorkshire Day, so a visit to Claire's would be one way of celebrating it?!

Thank you Deepwaters.

It was a good occasion and my boys are absolutely delighted (still showing them off this morning). Matthew is 14 today, so my parents and my wife’s parents will be coming around, so I am not expecting a nice reception from them. However, hopefully they will not air any disagreements in front of them.

I suppose you are right about Claires, I think its feminine façade might be a little off-putting for some. However, before we got served there was another boy who looked a bit older than Matthew (probably 15 I’d say) who was in front of us with his mum. I assume as it is the school holidays a lot of boys and girls are getting it done. I got a smile from his mother anyway!

As I’ve said before, I don’t really have a personal interest in it (other than for my boys who enjoy it – I’m basing that mostly on my eldest two obviously, but it seems it will continue with my younger two). If I was a teenager nowadays then I think I probably would, but my teenage years ended around the time of the last ice age!! The only way I’d ever consider it would be if my wife asked me, which would be the only reason I’d think about it.

I’m not actually “a Yorkshire lad”, I am a “son of Hampshire” born and bred! I have a second home in Yorkshire and a branch of my business, so I am up there a lot of the time. So Yorkshire day I think I’m exempted from!