by Bovine » Fri May 21, 2010 5:08 pm
I need some input. I am a Taurus (with a scorpio moon) and am in love with a Scorpio. We were great in the beginning and I began to believe he was my soulmate. I just needed some time to feel a little more secure in the relationship as he wanted us to move in together. He perceived my hesitancy as I didn't want to moreso just cautious due to he had been married previously twice and important information such as how many kids he had (he initially told me two and then he sat me down and told me three) and that he wanted another child with me (which he later divulged he had surgery eight years ago and is unable to have kids without having it reversed). Then I found out he cheated on me with his ex (his reason was revenge which makes no sense to me). This rocked my core. He said it was a mistake and he won't do it again and although we have been trying to press forward despite the trust issues on both sides (he doesn't trust me because I found out about his affair by his email and phone which I swear to God I have never pried like that before but my intuition lead me there). His jealousy is ridiculous (and mine has flared as well due to the infidelity) as he has no reason and questions whatever I do. We have explosive arguments because we are both stubborn with strong personalities but now we don't argue at all. He is distant because he says I am not stable and will leave him. I am six years his junior, financially capable, ambitious and very independent. I have never been married and haven't any children so my lifestyle is conducive that. I don't have a reason to be stable, as he defines to stay put. As I explained to him, I won't stay put unless I have a reason to such as a job (NEVER a man although I have considered it for him despite I don't like the city I live in) but I can't do it unless I trust the person and am secure in the relationship. His previous relationships were different. From what I've picked up from our conversations and what his friends/family have relayed, the women he previously dealt with were quite dependant upon him - financially and emotionally and weren't as attractive. Most of his relationships even with friends are needy yet it seems he thrives on this. I am not a needy person; well not financially. I may ask for assistance from you but if you don't help me, that's fine. I won't ask again. I am needy person in the sense of attention and devotion. I desire respect, honesty, support, loyalty, open communication and a passionately intimate relationship beyond physical almost spiritual. I see the potential for us to be an extremely powerful and awesome couple but how do we get there when we are hopelessly here hanging on by a thread. Neither one of us wants to let go but I don't want us to end up hating eachother and that's what I foresee.
