Does porn affect a relationship?

[louswain]

Hi,
This is my first post so go easy on me please. I have recently found out that my partnerhas been looking at some dodgy stuff on the net. I have to admit i have found it really upsetting to the point that i am seriously considering leaving him.
Although he means the world to me i don't know what to do. Am i on my own ? or has anyone else found themselves in the same position.
I thought we had a fantastic sex life but i was obviously wrong, we have experimented with all sorts of stuff but i'm finding this a bit much.
Help please.
Lou.

[Mr B]

Whats "dodgy stuff"? If its just porn then get over it. If its weird stuff then that might be a different matter.

[74jax]

Hi,
I have recently found out that my partnerhas been looking at some dodgy stuff on the net.

Depends what the 'dodgy stuff' was. If it was illegal stuff I'd report it and leave. If it was just 'normal' porn and it upsets you, why don't you discuss it? It was obviously on an area on his computer you came across easily so he didn't feel the need to hide it. As for your sex life, you thought it was good but don't now, only you two can sort that out. If something upsets you and you can't get over it together, then move on. However, you cared for him once, then I'd say it worth discussing. I wouldn't carry on as though you're not upset as that will make it worse.

[Sharin...]

u should talk 2 him about it and let him know it upset u

[TwistedMind]

u should talk 2 him about it and let him know it upset u

Yup! That's the first thing you should do. My boyfriend often watch porn way back in the beginning of our relationship, we talked about it and how I feel about him watching weird stuff on the net. He also tried on experimenting on new things but those are just normal things we haven't tried before. Just go and tell him how you feel.

[Hotel_Whiskey]

haha

So he watches porn... get over it

If it's kid porn, get out of it and let someone know.

Anything else... get over it!!!#

x x x

[MaxtheGaul]

gosh Snappy, I so agree with you. You must be fantastic in bed.

[Cambridge]

Wait a minute? You speak of your “partner’ and sign yourself as “Lou.” Am I correct in guessing you two are gay?

If so, I would question what you mean as “dodgy” stuff. What might be dodgy for straights might not be for gays.

[ZiaAries]

Wait a minute? You speak of your “partner’ and sign yourself as “Lou.” Am I correct in guessing you two are gay?

If so, I would question what you mean as “dodgy” stuff. What might be dodgy for straights might not be for gays.

Lou is short often for Louise and Lou Anne, female names.

[Hotel_Whiskey]

gosh Snappy, I so agree with you. You must be fantastic in bed.

No hunnie... that's getting under it
And I've never had any complaints :p
... well only ever one guy... and that was coz he didn't want it as often as me

x x x

[BinoKev]

Hi,
This is my first post so go easy on me please. I have recently found out that my partnerhas been looking at some dodgy stuff on the net. I have to admit i have found it really upsetting to the point that i am seriously considering leaving him.
Although he means the world to me i don't know what to do. Am i on my own ? or has anyone else found themselves in the same position.
I thought we had a fantastic sex life but i was obviously wrong, we have experimented with all sorts of stuff but i'm finding this a bit much.
Help please.
Lou.

You know most men look at porn at some point with or without a girlfriend and if you find out he is, I wouldn't be too hard on him, let him explain why and maybe you could end up watching something together to spice things up.

[under_assertive]

Looking at porn is a form of promiscuity. It teaches the people who use it that men and woman are availiable on demand sexually. It promotes paranoia and the sense that you are 'missing out' if your not doing the things you see in the porn. It promotes promiscuity, which begins in the heart.

I use porn but I'm single and I don't like the stuff thats about swinging or housewives, wives, milfs, orgys ... stuff like that. I don't like the idea of woman being 'easy' and 'availiable', especially if they're already in a relationship. Sex is ultimatly about children and we can't provide for our children if were ffuckking around on each other, abusing trust and sex.

If your guy is looking at porn, then he'll eventually cheat on you using his whole body and not just his eyes and heart.

[Cambridge]

Looking at porn is a form of promiscuity. It teaches the people who use it that men and woman are availiable on demand sexually. It promotes paranoia and the sense that you are 'missing out' if your not doing the things you see in the porn. It promotes promiscuity, which begins in the heart.

I use porn but I'm single and I don't like the stuff thats about swinging or housewives, wives, milfs, orgys ... stuff like that. I don't like the idea of woman being 'easy' and 'availiable', especially if they're already in a relationship. Sex is ultimatly about children and we can't provide for our children if were ffuckking around on each other, abusing trust and sex.

If your guy is looking at porn, then he'll eventually cheat on you using his whole body and not just his eyes and heart.

I use porn but I'm single and I don't like the stuff thats about swinging or housewives, wives, milfs, orgys ... stuff like that. I don't like the idea of woman being 'easy' and 'availiable', especially if they're already in a relationship. Sex is ultimatly about children and we can't provide for our children if were ffuckking around on each other, abusing trust and sex.

Damn. How many people have you murdered, you serial M**********. I want to be in on the SWAT squad that goes after you.

[MaxtheGaul]

... well only ever one guy... and that was coz he didn't want it as often as me

x x x

Real men never complain about their women wanting more. They might die trying to provide, but never never complain

[BinoKev]

Looking at porn is a form of promiscuity. It teaches the people who use it that men and woman are availiable on demand sexually. It promotes paranoia and the sense that you are 'missing out' if your not doing the things you see in the porn. It promotes promiscuity, which begins in the heart.

I use porn but I'm single and I don't like the stuff thats about swinging or housewives, wives, milfs, orgys ... stuff like that. I don't like the idea of woman being 'easy' and 'availiable', especially if they're already in a relationship. Sex is ultimatly about children and we can't provide for our children if were ffuckking around on each other, abusing trust and sex.

If your guy is looking at porn, then he'll eventually cheat on you using his whole body and not just his eyes and heart.

Not necessarily. I know that there are guys that will on occasions have a look at some porn but they won't cheat on their partner. Sometimes they just need something to get in the mood.