husband wants to watch me have sex with another man

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Postby Fck-nSikoSlutsss! on Mon Jul 28, 2008 8:32 am

Bunch of Fk-n LowLifes NOT Worthy
to be considered of Caucasion heritage!
Animals
of lower thought process limitations IMO.

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Postby lovemylife on Mon Jul 28, 2008 3:31 pm

Fck-nSikoSlutsss! wrote:Bunch of Fk-n LowLifes NOT Worthy
to be considered of Caucasion heritage!
Animals
of lower thought process limitations IMO.



what an judgmental ass you are. probably racist too. get back under your white hood. smother yourself.

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Postby new here on Sat Aug 09, 2008 5:13 am

not sure why my husband likes me to do it so much but he does like it.we have only been married a few years and i have had several men already.my husband is wonderful in bed but he just can not get enough of me f****** others. guess i like it a lot too.

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feelings????

Postby lonely_wife on Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:38 pm

My husband and i have talked about bringing another man in for me for at least 3 years now. At first it was just fantasy talk and we used the talk to spice things up. Well now it has went farther we have found someone who is all up for it. we have both known this guy since the 80's now we haven't been close to him just known him that long because of grade school and high school. Well hubby has been around him for the last 12-13 years because of his job. Ok now that i probably have your heads hurting from the rambling here is the real problem the other man is married also and for him it would be cheating on his wife. And as much as i hate to see him cheat i am so excited about being with him and each day get these stronger and stronger feelings like i want to be with him now! I love my husband very much so why am i having these feelings about this other man that i have not even been with yet? We are supposed to be meeting up within the next week and a half to fufill this fantasy but i am scared i will fall for him and i don't want it to be like that. I love my husband to much and don't want to be tore between 2 people. But i want to be with this other man so badly. Oh i am so confused what can i do?

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Postby Guest on Tue Aug 12, 2008 4:45 pm

Your not sure or secure enough to do this, so my advice would be, don't.

I'm not knocking the idea, as it turns me on too to imagine my wife with another guy, but this is a line that once you step over, you can't go back.

Some can handle it, some can't but think they can. Don't let your pussy rule your head until your sure..

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Postby lonely_wife on Tue Aug 12, 2008 5:59 pm

Oh i want to do this and i want to do it badly but only with my husband present and involved to which is the paln anyway. The problem is i do not want to get attatched to this otehr man. The really bad part is i think i already am and nothing has even happened yet. It is hard to now think about him it seems like he is in my thoughts all day long everyday.

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Postby justawifeandmother on Wed Aug 13, 2008 6:45 am

hi lonely wife. don't make it too complicated. meet a guy at the grocery store and if he is hot to you, give him your number. since your husband wants you to feel the joy of sex with other men, he won't mind a man calling you. get acquainted, set up a meeting and have fun. it is easier than you think. i was out last nite and had a good time. i came home with my pussy, all red, squishy and cum filled. if hubby had been awake he could have had sloppy seconds. but he was going to the field (army) and needed his sleep. also i was a bit drunk and was pretty sleepy too. i met this guy at the PX two weeks ago and soon as i saw him i knew i was going to F*** him. he gave me a good time too. just ask somebody. after the first time, it becomes really easy. unless they are cool, it is better to meet and get to know strangers than to try to get old friends to do it.

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Postby Guest on Wed Aug 13, 2008 9:39 am

lonely_wife wrote:Oh i want to do this and i want to do it badly but only with my husband present and involved to which is the paln anyway. The problem is i do not want to get attatched to this otehr man. The really bad part is i think i already am and nothing has even happened yet. It is hard to now think about him it seems like he is in my thoughts all day long everyday.


You have a added dimension of profound feelings for this guy, that will take it further than the bedroom. This is not good for what you and your husband are planning, as he would probably lose interest if he knew. This is more than just sex. Please think carefully about what you really want..

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Postby saxon on Wed Aug 13, 2008 5:01 pm

I have found my sexuality changing over the years... I think this is down to the disappearance of my 'jealousy'. I know when guys make advances on my wife, and I always encouraged her to tell me, not to turn me on at first, as I was possessive and jealous but to know what was going on.
My love for my wife has change in that I am very secure with the knowledge that she loves me deeply.
I have become much more relaxed about any guys that she finds attractive or guys that make it known they fancy her. I have even got her to take me to where she works to show me a guy that she fancies and that she thinks fancies her.
I have now got to the point that because I love her so much I want her to experience as much pleasure as she can get. As I cum quickly, as I seem to get excited quickly, I would like her to enjoy sex more too. I have suggested this and whilst the answer is no she had said that she would consider an ex b/f. Great I thought..... but my wife is here with me in England and she was from Australia.... so no following that one! But I still hold onto the hope that she may change bit by bit.......

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Postby lonely_wife on Wed Aug 13, 2008 5:49 pm

justawifeandmother wrote:hi lonely wife. don't make it too complicated. meet a guy at the grocery store and if he is hot to you, give him your number. since your husband wants you to feel the joy of sex with other men, he won't mind a man calling you. get acquainted, set up a meeting and have fun. it is easier than you think. i was out last nite and had a good time. i came home with my pussy, all red, squishy and cum filled. if hubby had been awake he could have had sloppy seconds. but he was going to the field (army) and needed his sleep. also i was a bit drunk and was pretty sleepy too. i met this guy at the PX two weeks ago and soon as i saw him i knew i was going to F*** him. he gave me a good time too. just ask somebody. after the first time, it becomes really easy. unless they are cool, it is better to meet and get to know strangers than to try to get old friends to do it.


The thing is hubby and the other man are both going to be on me at the same time. I won't be going out alone. And i know this guys is safe and i can also be sure that he will not tell anyone. He can't tell anyone or he would end up in a divorce and have to pay out the yang which he doesn't want to do.

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Postby lonely_wife on Wed Aug 13, 2008 5:51 pm

. wrote:
lonely_wife wrote:Oh i want to do this and i want to do it badly but only with my husband present and involved to which is the paln anyway. The problem is i do not want to get attatched to this otehr man. The really bad part is i think i already am and nothing has even happened yet. It is hard to now think about him it seems like he is in my thoughts all day long everyday.


You have a added dimension of profound feelings for this guy, that will take it further than the bedroom. This is not good for what you and your husband are planning, as he would probably lose interest if he knew. This is more than just sex. Please think carefully about what you really want..


That is what i was afraid of him losing interest if he knew :(. It is just so hard because i see him everyday and he is always making comments to me or checking me out. It is just driving me crazy because i want to do this but then again i don't.

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Postby lonely_wife on Wed Aug 13, 2008 5:54 pm

saxon wrote:I have found my sexuality changing over the years... I think this is down to the disappearance of my 'jealousy'. I know when guys make advances on my wife, and I always encouraged her to tell me, not to turn me on at first, as I was possessive and jealous but to know what was going on.
My love for my wife has change in that I am very secure with the knowledge that she loves me deeply.
I have become much more relaxed about any guys that she finds attractive or guys that make it known they fancy her. I have even got her to take me to where she works to show me a guy that she fancies and that she thinks fancies her.
I have now got to the point that because I love her so much I want her to experience as much pleasure as she can get. As I cum quickly, as I seem to get excited quickly, I would like her to enjoy sex more too. I have suggested this and whilst the answer is no she had said that she would consider an ex b/f. Great I thought..... but my wife is here with me in England and she was from Australia.... so no following that one! But I still hold onto the hope that she may change bit by bit.......



That is how all this happened with my husband. At first he was so jealous but now wow has he ever changed. I send him naughty pics via cell phone every once in a while and he is now showing them to this other man talking to him about what they can both do to me. It is really a turn on for me knowing what it could be like. But also worried about what it will be like :(. I am really thinking that he is not the right one to go through with this with us. But he is the only one that i trust and that i would say yes to.

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Postby saxon on Thu Aug 14, 2008 9:28 am

Lonely_wife I think trust is a the big thing but I always think about what if it all goes sour.... then what? If you play too close to home then things can get awkward... not neccessarily for you but also for your husband. In my case I am not very far along this path. We have gone to the first step of signing up with a site but someone showed an interest in the town where my wife works and she feels that this is too close to home for her. We are just taking things step by step. No photos as yet but we have taken some to put on... when she's ready. It's all about trust.

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Postby davian on Thu Aug 14, 2008 1:47 pm

Lonely wife, it’s up to yourself in consultation with your husband how you proceed. But if you think the emotions are complicated & the temptation hard to resist now, it will only get worse once it happens the first time & you are well & truly on the rollercoaster. As you have heard from others, it can be very rewarding but it can also lead to disaster. And certainly it’s best if you are both sure you want this before you start, if you want your marriage to survive & thrive, because it will be much harder to stop later & if it goes wrong your marriage could well be in ruins.

Whatever you do, please let us all have the benefit of your experience by sharing it. Good luck!
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Postby lonely_wife on Thu Aug 14, 2008 11:20 pm

Thanks Saxon and Davion for the great advice. I thought i had decided to call the whole thing off but then i seemed to have gotten pulled back in when i started talking to the other man well he started talking to me. Another reason other than the feelings and just wanting to be with him well and not to mention he is the only one i am confortable in joing in. I want to know what he is like in bed. I know that sounds silly but i have never had a orgasm with my hubsand. He is wonderful and i enjoy sex with him but i never have climaxed. He tries so hard and does everything i tell him i like and we are very open about it but i just can't seem to get there with him. It did used to be more enjoyable i do have to admitt. He was 6 inches before the big weight gain he had now he is oh i would say 5 and he doesn't reach the places he used to. I have never in my life had a large cok never anything over 6 1/2 and always moderate girth. The other man is said to have a pretty nice big round one and i would love to know what the difference will feel like. Ya i have had toys that were larger but i didn't like it i hate the rubber plastice feeling i want the real thing. I want to feel him and my husband inside me at the same time and yes they are both okay with this. That is a huge fantasy of mine and i would love to see it come true. I just have to get past these feelings or find a way for myself to allow someone else instead of him someone i don't have feelings for. I just have problems with strangers i always have had :(. And i don't want a drop dead hottie i am looking for more the farm boy/country boy type and he even fits that description.

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