Is it wrong pay for sex

[Guest]

My wife has no sex drive and despite discussing why for a number of years my only relief was through self m*sturbation which my wife was aware but wouldn't join in and I have oten asked.
Several months ago I answered an advert for massage and have been visiting the same place every week where I receive a short massage followed by oral sex. I do not want an affair as I enjoy being with my wife and we continue to live as we have for years. Having read a number of post on here condeming the use of sex workers I would like to know how and why people think what I do is so wrong.

[TonyRockyhara]

If your wife has no interest in sex, I see no problem outsourcing the job to a pro. It definitely beats having an affair.

[Guest]

No need to pay for sex try here:-

http://nostringssex.shagdirect.co.uk

[getup3]

With affairs you get emotional tie up, jealousy and confusion. With no strings you get more danger of disease, because of the number of people your lady is with. Also many times a prostitute is not as good looking or in as good of shape as someone you would have on the side.

[aintavirgin]

don't pick up hookers from the street. i am a prostitute and have been one for a long time now. i am married, have kids and don't do drugs. my customers all tell me how nice i am and i try to be nice. i like men and i like sex and it works for me. what you need is to find a good escort service with serious women. they will want to please you and have you come back time and time again. you will find a girl you like and then you will be her regular. i think the bulk of my clients now are regulars. i have one gentleman that i have seen once a week for almost five years. he is a lovely man and i make special efforts to make him happy. he brings me flowers every time. i take the flowers home and my hubby will see them and say, " I see you had Mr. Pennington again." it is nice, really. yes, i do often cum with clients. after all it is sex. many escorts are married women and a lot of men feel more relaxed if their escort is a housewife type. if that is what you want, be sure to ask for it. actually, i think a married escort has a tendency to treat her men with greater skill and they get into it more. just a feeling, not a fact. but, no it is not wrong. you need to take care of your needs.

[donna31]

i wish i could help. i feel so sorry for you. i have been enjoying the best sex of my life the last three weeks and it saddens me to read how you have no sex life. could you get her to sex therapy?? if she refuses to go, then i think you could follow aintavirgin's advice. she seems wise to me and the advice seems sound. but to answer your question, no there is nothing wrong with it.

[Guest]

Can I thank those who have taken time out to reply to my OP and the none condemnation of my chosen method of obtaining sexual relief. All of you have eased my guilt following my short periods of infidelity. A married escort does sound very appealing, however, I would worry that my emotions would take over if I visited the same lady every week. With massage I may be relieved by the same woman on many occasions but there is little conversation and, to be honest, I am not attracted to the vast majority of them as we have nothing in common. I have no worries about STD's as they always use a condom and is one of the reasons I do not want intercourse.
Just to respond to donna31, I have discussed my sexual frustration with my wife many times and suggested discussing it with a professional therapist, however, the thought of speaking about why she does not want sex, or anything to do with sex, with someone else is unthinkable.
She is a wonderful caring person and I know that her problems stem back to her childhood. She was a virgin when we married and remained so for several months afterwards as she had a fear of the pain of intercourse, induced by her mother. She did her best to please me but my enjoyment was minimal as I wanted to make her enjoy it as well. I have tried everything the books recommend, foreplay without intercourse, reassuring her that intercourse was not necessary for me and encouraged her to talk to me about what she would like. I am in my 50's now and have accepted my life as it is.

[Valmarg]

I pay for sex To start at a local massarge parlor but my sister was passing one day when I came out . She asked me all about what I did with the girls and how much it cost. She then said she would do thoes things with me for half the price. So I noe get regular cut price sex in my own bed.

[Guest]

I pay for sex To start at a local massarge parlor but my sister was passing one day when I came out . She asked me all about what I did with the girls and how much it cost. She then said she would do thoes things with me for half the price. So I noe get regular cut price sex in my own bed.

In a Word "SICK"

[Guest]

My wife has no sex drive and despite discussing why for a number of years my only relief was through self m*sturbation which my wife was aware but wouldn't join in and I have oten asked.
Several months ago I answered an advert for massage and have been visiting the same place every week where I receive a short massage followed by oral sex. I do not want an affair as I enjoy being with my wife and we continue to live as we have for years. Having read a number of post on here condeming the use of sex workers I would like to know how and why people think what I do is so wrong.

I don't know, man. If you ain't getting it, someone else is. Go get yourself some. At least with a pro you don't have to cuddle or tell her how you feel after.

[The Chairman]

Only certain members of society should be allowed to pay for sex these days... physically disabled people and people over the age of 50...

[under_assertive]

Depends on how you pay for it. Spending £90 on drinks and food throughout the evening and ending up in bed together is kinda paying for it. Taking weeks of personal abuse and biting your tongue is another way of paying for it. Handing cash over to a stranger for a specific act is obviously paying for it.

Prostitution can be the most moral way of getting sex in some circumstances.

But yes, it is wrong. But thats OK ... apparently.

[Guest]

Times are hard i think they need to be paying us

[Mr B]

I dont see a problem with it, its nobodies business but yours.

[Ivan Diederhoff]

Times are hard i think they need to be paying us

Will leave us alone afterward?