I am trying to work out if I am attracted to one of my friends.
I have never had an experience with a woman. This friend is my first bi friend. We have not known each other very long, but we have gotten to know a lot about each other very quickly. We both agree that we have a very strong connection.
She thinks that I am confusing my friendship feelings with her just because she is bi.
I see that this is a possiblity, but I having trouble figuring it all out.
As far as men are concerned, I am not one to ever just want to shag someone for the sake of it. I need to be very mentally attracted to them. I am very mentally attracted to her. So I do not really see what difference it makes that she is a woman.
She has asked me if I would have felt this way if she was straight...and I feel like the answer is that we will never know. I think a lot of my attraction to her at first was that she was so open. I want to hear from her all the time. I do not feel that my other friends are open to the degree that she is (in terms of many things, not just sexuality) and I certainly don't yearn to hear from them as I do her.
There are lots of elements to my attraction to her. But the 2 very significant ones for me are that we laugh a lot when we are together! Extremely so. Real belly laughter. And secondly, we relate on a very deep level in terms of life experience and sprituality.
As far as the sex part is concerned,I do want to have sex with her. But more so I just want to be intimate with her...like just laying naked holding each other.
How do I know if I am getting carried away with the feelings of just a very good friendship?? It seems like such a fine line to me.
Any help would be gratefully appreciated
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