Have You Ever felt as if you want to hug her?

by **jess08** on Sun Aug 17, 2008 8:15 am

I am a 17 year old female. I'm really having a hard time sorting my feelings out recently. It's not just confusing but heart-felt. Whenever one of my girl friends touches my hand or sort of get really near to me, I feel something deep down my inner self. But sometimes, I hate her for no real reason whereas sometimes, I really want to hug her. But she doesn't seem to be the kind of girl that I like. I don't like her character very much too but what am I actually feeling now? We ever slow dance once recently and I can't even look her in the eyes directly. I feel the need to get over the dance as quickly as possible. Does anyone have opinions on why am I having this weird feeling? *_*"

by **stevie666** on Thu Aug 21, 2008 3:02 am

i think you are a little confused about your sexuality

by **secretsally** on Thu Aug 21, 2008 10:51 pm

First off Jess and forgive me if I am wrong but I am assuming that you identify as gay.

Secondly, attraction can inspire all sorts of feelings in a person. Strong feelings, that are uncomfortable to deal with and will make you often want a break from the desired one. You are feeling over stimulated by your feelings for her and often become frustrated in her presence, wanting to push her away.

Take a step back from the situation and give yourself time to sort out your feelings. She excites you and you are attracted to her, perhaps a little obsessed with her? Work out which it is and then when you can deal with your feelings, you will be more balanced around her and who knows, may be she is even feeling the same way about you and trying to work things out for herself?

by **cuddlyyorksgal** on Fri Aug 22, 2008 11:02 am

It sounds like ur just completely confused about everything concerning ur feelings.

Like Sally said, take a step back, think about things but try not to over analyze them in the process.

Given time you'll sort out what your feelings are, and what is right or wrong for you. There's no rush, it will all come in time.

Hang in there x

by **cuddlyyorksgal** on Fri Aug 22, 2008 11:04 am

It sounds like ur just completely confused about everything concerning ur feelings.

Like Sally said, take a step back, think about things but try not to over analyze them in the process.

Given time you'll sort out what your feelings are, and what is right or wrong for you. There's no rush, it will all come in time.

Hang in there x

by **jess08** on Mon Sep 01, 2008 4:18 pm

Hey...thanks for your comments.....I'm really trying hard sorting these feelings out...but I'm quite sure I don't like her seriously or obsessed with her or anything.....even if I'm gay, I don't really think that she will be my type....maybe...I'm doubting everything now anyway....I guess I could be treating her as someone that I could experiment my feelings with....and I hate myself for having this feeling because after all, she may be just an experiment to me....I don't want to hurt her...

by **cuddlyyorksgal** on Mon Sep 01, 2008 8:29 pm

Whatever u do, don't hurt her. She'll never forgive u for that and you'll probably never forgive urself either. Friendships are to be treasured as they almost always last longer than most relationships.

by **cuddlyyorksgal** on Mon Sep 01, 2008 8:30 pm

Whatever u do, don't hurt her. She'll never forgive u for that and you'll probably never forgive urself either. Friendships are to be treasured as they almost always last longer than most relationships.

by **jess08** on Wed Sep 03, 2008 2:09 pm

ermmmm...hmmmm.....okay...okay....."Jess, she's no experiment to you and you are not to hurt her, she's your friend!".....that's what I keep telling myself.....

by **jess08** on Sat Sep 13, 2008 12:47 pm

cuddlyyorksgal wrote:Whatever u do, don't hurt her. She'll never forgive u for that and you'll probably never forgive urself either. Friendships are to be treasured as they almost always last longer than most relationships.

Help....I can't understand why this gal that I said I dance with....she loves holding my hand ALL the time.....is it just a friendly gesture? I sort of give her some hint on if she's gay...but she gave me this "ewww" expression....could anyone be gay but act like so straight? the body contact that she gives me all this time doesn't make me think she's that straight at all....but when she heard the word"gay", she's reacting negatively....

by **classielady2** on Sat Sep 13, 2008 5:32 pm

Maybe she is not gay maybe she just wants to play.You know just have a little fun with girls. :oops:

by **jess08** on Sun Sep 14, 2008 2:57 am

classielady2 wrote:Maybe she is not gay maybe she just wants to play.You know just have a little fun with girls.

how come there is a shy smiley at the end? haha.... :wink:

by **asaifuln** on Sun Sep 14, 2008 8:26 am

Jess..u have same feeling with me

by **jess08** on Mon Sep 15, 2008 11:10 am

asaifuln wrote:Jess..u have same feeling with me

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really? sigh...but I think I'm slowly getting over it these few days...without any known reason though...it's just like getting so normal to me already all these feelings till I start to lose them.....hmmm.......that's good, right? Because seriously, there should be nothing happening between us....it's just we know each other too much for anything to blow us up.....great...I should celebrate for getting over her....haha....