Am I wierd

[Guy w/ suggests/comment]

For those having this Psychological based prob:

An efective treatment involves *SelfStimulation,
- at 1st privately until orgasm is accheived or;
-at minimum some eXcitement, then:

*Key item here; - 2nd:
In front of; -*AND `On Display` 4 your partner.
- 'Rabbits'(or other aids) are
*VERY! Beneficial in both stages.

Until this activity `reTrains` varios synapse circuts in brain, -and co-ordinates the `cross-talk` between Physical Pleasure Centers and Psychological regions, a high probability exists that little(if any) improvement will occur.

The comment part is that:
I High prefer oral activity nearly always.
That said:
As long as I receive head to
*SWALLOWED CUMpleation;
-I care little if 'enter'action needs to wait while improvment happens, or fails to improve quite honestly, provided:

*Desire to Please ME,
and some enjoyment is happening for MY wench.

[Guest]

Posted: Fri Jul 07, 2006 1:07 pm Post subject:

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ITS CALLED YOUR HYMEN! OH MY GOD I CAN'T BELIEVE YOUR 26 AND DON'T KNOW THAT. HAVE SEX BUT TAKE IT SLOWLY IT MIGHT HURT THE FIRST TIME HE FULLY ENTERS YOU AND YOU MAY BLEED BUT YOU WILL BE FINE AFTER THAT...BLOODY VIRGINS! I DON'T KNOW!!



lol yes it is your hymen silly. take the pain you pussy!

[dimples4u2c]

Hi I am in the same situation as Paula except that I am married 5 months.
We were both virgins when we got married. When I realised that he could not penetrate..(because of hitting a wall that when pressed would cause extreme pain)...I started reading on the internet about it. I read about the vagisimus etc..and I went for 2 gynae exams. On the first visit my doctor did a thorough exam and he said everything was fine. He gave me a cream called xylocaine to rub on the area 10 mins before intercourse to numb the pain but no matter how much we put I still felt pain. I was bearing it alot but still the hymen appeared to tough. So the doctor called me in again. He checked again and said that I may have to do surgery to cut the hymen because of the situation. That was 3 weeks ago...and i don't want to do the surgery. I haven't called the doctor back with a date yet for the surgery and its going to cost me US$300 to do it. I don't know what other options there are. We have tried so many positions. It is frustrating.

I had that surgery, no pain, when you wake up you will not know the difference

[Guest]

I have had 3 children vaginally but have terrible vagismus, it's a nightmare!

Since our 3rd everytime my husband comes near me I feel myself tighten. I can however masturbatevibrator.

[shrimper]

When I was younger and single I met a young woman of about 24 who was a virgin. As things developed she decided to have sex with me but when we tried I could not enter her. We tried a couple of different things but nothing seemed to work. One evening we were trying again and she seemed to be tense so I decided to ease up. I pulled out my porn stash and started showing her some of the pictures and talking about what was going on in the pictures. As we went on she started to relax and when we got to the part where there were women with women she not only relaxed but got turned on to the point I was finally able to enter her. After that we were able to have sex as much as we wanted but it also made her aware that she was attracted to women. That voyage of discovery is another story.

[donna89]

Hi, im 19.. Im a virgin and one time i tried sex and it just was'nt entering at all, i realised it was because i was physically tensed. But then another time i tried and i was more relaxed with him, but then only the head of the penis was entering. we tried every position, and realised missionery was the only one wher a tiny bit would be inside. i cant even use a tampon, iv been fingered once but i would like to try it again just to ease my muscles down below, although i find it unpleasant. its making me very depressed and i have seen all these stories about 27 year olds being unhappy, i feel at the point wher i really want to experience it, and it took me a while to be relaxed about it but now since ive tried so many times its making me doubt if i will ever be able to have sex now, or in the future when i want children. please help me somebody, iv tried lube also.. it made a slight improvement. ???

[Guest]

Hi ive been married for 6 months and i have been having difficulty having sex with my husband. I dont have any problems having an orgasm. I feel my virgina is so tight that nothing is able to go up it. I have never used tamponsand have been a virgin for 26 years. My husband has tried to use his finger and he manages to get one finger fully in but 2 fingers has been impossible. When he tried to enter 2 fingers i get this stretching sensation and a burning affect. Is this normal the first time you do this? My husband has told me that he feels a hard wall around the entrance of my virgina. Is this normal? Can anyone help?

mayb he just has a massive penis. Whatever the case, it sounds painful.

[Guest]

I have been married for 1 year and 7 months. We were both virgins when we got married (we're 26 and 25 now). To this day, my husband still cannot get his dick in me hardly at all!! I have no problem having orgasms as a matter of fact very quickly the second he starts rubbing my clit, so thats good. We've tried KY, but nothing seems to work. Its not that its just tight, it just seems like he hits a wall inside me as he gets just the head in. We've tried me on top and I love it!! the problem still is that he cannot get inside.
Could it be the problem is that I always try to get him to enter toward the front of my vagina, and I think the largest portion of the hole is toward the bum, I'm afraid though that he will put it up my bum.

I do not like him putting his fingers feeling around up there.

I tried to us a tampon up there twice before, but it hurt too much so I use pads.

Any ideas????!!

I've never heard anything like this, maybe you have a short vagina or something. Unless he has a really long penis. It just must be a short vagina, but even then they usually stretch to accomodate, so I can't think why.

[Guest]

" know that this may not sound very helpfull and you may not want to use this road but have you tried amill nitrate as it relaxes the muscles in that region or either put aside a couple of hours and really spend alot of time on each other first so your really relaxed"

This is a stupid thing to advise. This controlled drug is a dilator which opens up arteries etc. Its not a muscle relaxant.

Lots of good advice here. My wifes vagina is at an odd angle so much so that rear entry is almost impossible unless she hangs almost vertically down in front of me. Go to the doc and get checked out!

[loadsa]

I have been married 28 years mostly happily
We have 2 children both grown up and left home. We started having a problem about ten years ago. she had a coil fitted after the birth of our 2nd child and everything was ok. Then about 10 years ago she started to copmplain thatit was hurting at the same time as I sometimes could feel something digging in the end of my Penis (I am not that well endowed)
Numerous checks that everything was in order but it continued to happen, so in the last ten years we have not performed the act. The trouble is now she will do her utmost to not put herself in the situation where I might try. I cant remember the last time I saw my wife naked etc. She will perform handrelief for me and I have brought her to an orgasm probably twice a year in the last 5. But it is not just the sex its the other baggage that it brings. She has gone completely over possesive even though I constantly tell her I love her she doesnt trust me. As she believes if I am not getting it from her its only a matter of time before I look elsewhere. I have to spend 1 night a month away with work and she will phone me up to 12 times in the evening. I have a boat which I fish from and she will constantly question why I am late in. She has been known to rip pages out of FHM etc if my lads left them around the house when they were home. Constantly logs onto my computor to see where I have been etc.
She has now been in therapy for a year and its still an uphill struggle but at least she goes.
So all I will say is if you have a problem please go and see a DR straight away as it will only fester in your mind.
People say I should leave her but I cant i think to much of her and just wish we could get back to normal
Sorry its abit long but its good to let it out now and again

[funseeker]

Ive been with someone who i couldn''t enter as it feels just like a brick wall..... i was only 17 at the time and she didnt like the thought of me performing oral on her so never actually got to see what was... I''ve never slept with a virgin (although ive been offered didn't find them attractive and wasn't going to sleep with them just cause they were virgins, cause i think its a special thing for a girl, you can only lose it once) so i dont know what its like to break a girls hymen. Does it break easy or do you have to really force yourself? I couldn't force to hard as sex is ment to be fun

So know i know what it was now.. thanks people

[orange]

ask your doctor to give you dialators