Caught my teenage kids skinny dipping

[Ming]

The children of naturists don't seem to be unduly affected, nor those in Scandinavian countries whose whole families are routinely naked in the sauna. But it does raise the question of boundaries. It's only acceptable behavior if everyone is in accord. You are not, so you should make it clear what is acceptable and what is not. Everyone has to obey rules, whether they see them as fair or reasonable should not be up for debate.

[STIPSKIMAFIOSO]

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE???

I'm 15 and would rather LOVE to get naked with two very attractive 17 year old girls, bathtub or not, sexual or not, anytime, anyday, anyplace that's not public, for as much as possible. You should see this as a blessing that your son is actually getting this oppertunity, not a curse...

Sheesh.

[Fred76]

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE???

I'm 15 and would rather LOVE to get naked with two very attractive 17 year old girls, bathtub or not, sexual or not, anytime, anyday, anyplace that's not public, for as much as possible. You should see this as a blessing that your son is actually getting this oppertunity, not a curse...

Sheesh.

This is liberalism at its best. You children should be in bed by 8 pm. Anything else commie! A liberal mother, without her husband, letting the children be naked together. Try praying and being judgmental of others for guidance.

[Sympathic Voice]

Wow! This really is a pretty fascinating thread. Fascinating because it's obviously heartfelt and sincere (not like some of the obvious fakes here).

Suburban Mom seems to have her head screwed on straight in my opinion. Her feelings of anxiety are both appropriate yet misguided. She needs to be less hard on herself. It sounds like she got a rare (and unexpected) glimpse into the lives of her kids as they approach adulthood.

It is perfectly natural for such young people to be curious about their bodies. Nudity is not something to be feared between brother and sister but rather, something to be cherished. It seem clear that they weren't upset so Suburban Mom shouldn't be either.

I understand full well the ambivalence she experienced, particularly at seeing her son naked. Such ambivalence was even more understandable given that he apparently had an erection if I read her posts correctly. Again, there's nothing wrong with this. It's reality. It's natural. It's human.

Who here can judge the boy given the setting of seeing two young, beautiful equally nude teenaged girls? And who can judge the mother's reaction herself? A young man with a glorious manifestation of his masculinity? What mother WOULDN'T be struck and awed by such an experience.

Suburban Mom needs to relax, accept her humanity, understand her family's dynamics, and not feel so ambivalent (or guilty). The best thing she can do is confront the elephant in the room and talk to her kids. This family needs to confront each other.

Perhaps recreating the scenario in the hot tub with just the three of them is in order. They need to see each other naked. Mother needs to let her kids, particularly her son, to see just how beautiful the mature woman's body can be. The three of them need to touch each other, hold each other, truly RELATE to each other.

Only through the stimulation of the senses; both visual, tactile, and yes even with taste can this family truly heal!

[GuRU]

It would be weird if your son got hard. you should watch them though they maybe fuckin each other also

[Guest]

It would be weird if your son got hard. you should watch them though they maybe fuckin each other also

It would be weired if the boy did not get hard.

[Guest]

[Guest]

You know the answer to this SM.you should have stripped of and joined them, and then see who has a hang up about nudity!

[Guest]

You know the answer to this SM.you should have stripped of and joined them, and then see who has a hang up about nudity!

Oh hell yeah! That's the best idea yet. If nudity was simply no big deal and there was no underlying sexual tension going on in that tub, mom could have figured it out right quick when she stripped and joined them. After all, it's only skin.
ROFL

[Sailor Barsoom]

If one of those awful Americans can get a word in...

First, I respect that it is indeed your house, and thus indeed your rules. So if I tell you that you should rat on the friend and ground your kids until they move out, or if I tell you you should host teenaged skinny dipping pool parties every week, well, you can consider it, but I at least know that you don't have to do either.

Still, you did ask us for our opinions, and guess what, I've got one. All jokes about what else everybody's got will be ignored. So, here's what I think you should do, and you take it for what it is or is not worth.

The first thing you need to do is to ignore those who are simply trolling. You seem to be doing that already. The next is to ignore those who say that you should or should not let the kids walk around the house nude. The kids aren't doing that, they're skinny dipping. Unless they start walking around the house nude (which is unlikely), you don't have to deal with it.

Finally, you need to get together with your son and daughter, and the friend too, if possible. Now, as soon as you call this meeting, they will know what it is about (if you think your daughter didn't tell her brother and friend about "mom's prudish rant," you're fooling yourself), and will come into the meeting united against you. You can defuse this in a very simple way: apologize for overreacting.

At this point somebody is going to jump up and say that you can't do that, because that would be showing weakness. But you aren't a bull ape trying to take over the tribe of Kerchak, and you aren't an ally cat defending your garbage can. You are a mom dealing with kids who are damn near adults, and who will reject being treated like toddlers. So apologize for overreacting and suddenly, you've killed the whole "united front against unreasonable prude" attitude. Tell them that you were caught off guard, you were surprised, you were confused and, well, you said some silly things.* Then ask them to explain it to you. Tell them that you don't want to assume or guess what this is all about. You need them to tell you. If they don't want to talk about it, then go on with what your understanding is. If they tell you at some point that you've got it all wrong, then ask them to set you straight.

Of course, what you do will vary based on what they tell you. A big difference between "A month ago she came over, she forgot her swimsuit, so we decided the hell with swimsuits and we've been skinny dipping ever since. It's no big deal," and "the dating game is such crap that we've formed our own little triad. We're having threesomes every chance we get. I never knew incest could be such fun!"

If they give you anything like the latter, note the tone. Sarcasm is not a dead art.

So, if it's just skinny dipping, should you tell them "have at it" or "this has to stop, and I'll have the pool drained if I have to?" Well that's your decision, of course. Me? If it's just swimming sans clothing, I'd let them. You can still set some limits, of course: not when Grandma is visiting; don't walk around the house nude; that sort of thing.


* Not that you need to give examples, but the thing about your son was probably embarrassed certainly qualifies. If he was embarrassed, he could simply refuse. But hey, if I had a dime for every time I said something silly in a moment of confusion, fear, or anger, I'd be running my own space program.

[I love buttons]

You know the answer to this SM.you should have stripped of and joined them, and then see who has a hang up about nudity!

Oh hell yeah! That's the best idea yet. If nudity was simply no big deal and there was no underlying sexual tension going on in that tub, mom could have figured it out right quick when she stripped and joined them. After all, it's only skin.
ROFL

I agree.

[DGD]

To SM

as much as it threw you off when you came across that scene, you probably were too emotional and possibly did over react.
your 15 year old son getting an erection being around two naked girls isn't at all surprising, i myself have skinny dipped with friends when i was 15 and at that age, even the slightest wind can cause a hard on, especially in the presence of girls.

it would appear your son and daughter have accepted and enjoy being nude and they can only really do it in the hot tub, if they are confining their nudity there and you're okay with it, there shouldn't be any harm at all.
i think you'd only really need to be concerned if they're nude in each other's room with closed doors.

addressing the concern you have that your daughter seemed like she enjoyed seeing her brother's hardon. perhaps she did, but it doesn't necessarily indicate much else.
if you have reason to believe that she's attempting to seduce her own brother, then you need to step in. if just enjoying the view, there's no harm there.

with the two of them being the hot tub nude, as they do it more and more often, you should find that your son's erections will become less and less frequent. frequent erections will happen when being nude is a new thing.

good luck with them.

[LBK]

I did the skinny dipping thing when I was younger too, with my cousins, othnig sexual in at all, just a bit of fun. Dont worry about it.

[Aussie in Tas]

Libertine,

I'm not really sure. I'm thinking that I probably did tend to overreact but who can say? My kids don't seem to have found the experience worthy of discussion. I've since seen my daughter and son using the jacuzzi both with and without swimsuits. They've even invited me to join them which I've so far declined.

My son seeing his mom in a sexy, revealing <A HREF='http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/catalog/default.php/cPath/23_176' target='_blank'>bikini</A>? Not a problem. That's happened many times. My son actually SKINNYDIPPING with his mom? VERY unlikely! I realize that this may be common in some families but perhaps I'm a bit too traditional for that.

Surburban Mum,

You say that your kids have since used the hottub without swimsuits and you are aware of it. What was the initial problem then? Was it that your son was in the tub with two young women? In mean let look at it this way, he is still using the tub with his ister, you are aware of it and that is not a problem from what I gather. Why was it the first time? Maybe your initial shock at the realisation your kids are happy, healthy and have open minds to nudity. I would say, let them be, they were doing nothing wrong. The fact they are still using the tub nude proves this and they obviously see no reason to stop.

I agree, you probably shouldn't get in naked, being Mum and all, but there is no reason why you cannot get in the tub with the kids in your bikini, even if they are naked. They are your children, if they are not embarassed, then why are you trying to ut shame on them now. They are at an age where they are vulnerable and are also exploring.

Your daughter is 17, aware of male anatomy and I am sure has had sex ed at school or from you. I suspect you bathed the kids as littlies together, so let it be.

As for the friend, obviously she is open minded and comfortable with nudity.

The kids were simply enjoying the hottub. They were not doing anything untoward, so don't let it be an issue.

Aussie in Tas

[Guest]

nudity is nothing to be ashamed of within reason i won't say that your kids aren't doing somethings wrong but being a young male i stumbled on this thru google blame them i feel that you did overreact a little much ok so it's a little creepy that your kidz were in the hotub together but they weren't doing anything right ..... since you didn't type anything near as weird as that i am assuming thats a no . so basically no harm no foul if your kids are interested in being nude try to arrange a trip to some nudist colony or something remotely like that or like the people above said jump in with them how ever at the same time i say this could be scaring to all three kids and could get u into trouble as well just suggest it if there is a next to gauge their reactions if they are like me they'll be pretty grossed out by that image or maybe not sorry for the flipp flopping on this i swear i am not a troll i reall found this by looking on google for ways to get skinny