Age Gap.

[Chrissa]

My mum was 47 when she had me and my dad was 26. here I am now at 48 and seeing someone who is 29. I pass easily as mid thirties so dont know whether that has any bearing on this working. Sexually and emotionally this is the best relationship I have ever been in. My last bf was even younger (24 when we met and I was 45)and we were together for over two years. The only reason that came to an end is because I met someone else....I dont go out looking for younger men...it just seems to happen. I wouldnt change it for anything!

In my honest opinion age really doesnt matter....if you are into each other and you work at it...just as with any relationship you have to keep working at it....then I dont see why age should ever be an issue.

[FemalefromUK]

Do you think 19 years is too much of an age gap ?

[Chrissa]

No...when I was growing up there never seemed to be any difference in my mum and dad.....my mum looked good and even when she died...I remember saying to someone who knew her..."well for her age she was amazing" and this other woman said...what do you mean "for her age".....Im nearly 67 and I dont consider that old....and I replied..."yeah but mum was 86...the woman was completely gobsmacked....she had always assumed my mum was a similar age to her...
Age is just a number..if you make it an issue then it will be. I swear if you saw me and my bf together you would not know that I am 48...we dont really talk about it and people always just assume we are an ordinary couple...in fact when I met him I didnt tell him my age...so he was stunned when I did tell him...but it makes absoloutly no difference...trust me
Make yourself look good...take care of your skin...dress nicely...be happy...and anyway when you are older and more confident you are way more sexy. (thats what he says anyway..)

[mary huff]

Do you think 19 years is too much of an age gap ?

19 Years is nothing. Age is irrelevant.

[Cambridge]

Do you think 19 years is too much of an age gap ?

19 Years is nothing. Age is irrelevant.

The biggest difference between older women and younger men is the money...whether it's her fear or his greed. And forget prenups. They foredoom the relationship before it begins.

[Cambridge]

Ok, I've been playing around on the fringes of this thread, and I realize that’s unfair. Here’s the real way I feel.

I love women. I don’t mean sexually or to look at, but the whole package. I have been 16, 22, 30, 44, 50 and I am now 52. So, let me state my philosophy.

I would take a woman from 50-65 years of age any day, over some 18-22-year old. Women are at their most beautiful (to me) when they partner with you. You have skills: you can make money…you can back down the other guy. But the woman makes it all meaningful. And that’s not just saying she’s pretty and supportive. What I'm saying is that in your partnership, she discusses (not tells) with you what to make money for…what to back down…and what not. She could be all-powerful too, and that’s no problem. I don’t care if she makes more money than me (although that’s unlikely) cause that’s not the point. Not if you’re partners.

I've been (actually, lived) with 22-year olds (when I was 43) and they don’t hold a candle to the so-called cougars. A 22-year old doesn’t know what she wants, and that is sure as hell a danger signal that chances are she will not provide you with what you want. Tits and ass are a quarter inch deep, but love and support—and orientation—are a mile deep.

So, I realize nobody asked the question of me (52 years old). But if some young man asked me about an older woman, I’d say, “do you want quartz or a diamond?”

[noodledoodle]

it's funny, i have just posted a question about age gaps before i had even seen your post (sorry)!!

I'm 22 and really like this guy who is 17.

what do people think of that? As some previous posts have said younger people don't know what they want and are still growing?

[Cambridge]

it's funny, i have just posted a question about age gaps before i had even seen your post (sorry)!!

I'm 22 and really like this guy who is 17.

what do people think of that? As some previous posts have said younger people don't know what they want and are still growing?

Hon, if you're 22, you don't even know what you want. Why are you worried about this kind of question?

Oh, and if you're US and he's 17, it could be a felony depending on which state you're in.

[noodledoodle]

i'm from the UK cam

[Cambridge]

i'm from the UK cam

So, if you guys can jump the bones of young children, go for it. In this country it would be a felony.

[sevensisters]

i'm from the UK cam

So, if you guys can jump the bones of young children, go for it. In this country it would be a felony.

Why are the laws in the US so prudish? Here in France it's OK at 15, our neighbours in Germany can go for it at 14. Europeans don't have a problem with young people experimenting with sex.

[Joyofsox]

It's only a problem when the older partner has even older friends and vice versa.

[Cambridge]

i'm from the UK cam

So, if you guys can jump the bones of young children, go for it. In this country it would be a felony.

Why are the laws in the US so prudish? Here in France it's OK at 15, our neighbours in Germany can go for it at 14. Europeans don't have a problem with young people experimenting with sex.

Donno…I think it has something to do with the women...the mothers. But this country was born during the English Puritan Civil War, so Puritanism was and is in our roots. Look at the abortion debate…it’s inevitably entwined in religion.

I hardly ever drive…I walk everywhere. I am opposed to the internal combustion engine. After my fire in Sausalito, I bought a house in an up-scale part of Marin County, which happened to have a day-care center near the stores where I go in the morning and get a paper, etc. Think of it, a single guy walking, not driving his Mercedes, down a street in this neighborhood…within a week of moving in I had police cars following me. Where did that come from? Mothers. The American idea of this kind of activity is: shoot first, ask questions later. It’s classic Puritanism.

Fortunately, I was not without resources. I paid a visit to the District Attorney (who thought I’d be a good cash supporter for his next campaign ) and told him that if he didn’t want a lawsuit that would cost him in the tens-of-millions, get his goons to back off. They did… and they told the bec-pancé hens to shut up. America…you gotta live with some things.

So if they’ll play Wyatt Earp with a guy just walking down to get a paper, what kinds of laws do you think they’ll pass regarding statutory r****…and how vigorously they will enforce them? You get caught doing that kind of stuff and it’s a felony, five to fifteen years in a hard place and permanent registration for being a sex offender. Oh, and forget ever getting a job or having a place to live after you get out of prison. Once you are a registered sex-offender, the mothers of the neighborhood will picket in front of your home or your workplace and hound you out. America is not France.

[boingo]

I'm 37 The Guy I'm Seeing Is 25 Can This Relationship Work Or Is The Age Gap Too Big We Are Taking This Really Slow.

Whether or not it works out is dependent on the people in question. Age doesn't determine a relationship, the people in it do.

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[Sistergurl]

I'm 37 The Guy I'm Seeing Is 25 Can This Relationship Work Or Is The Age Gap Too Big We Are Taking This Really Slow.

Whether or not it works out is dependent on the people in question. Age doesn't determine a relationship, the people in it do.

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Agreed