I can't get over my ex-girlfriend

[Glenn]

Hey guys, This forum is such a reassurence, just to know that im not alone with this heartache. Basically me n my ex broke up recently and its been about a month now and im totally devasted about it, she is my first love, even tho i have had other girlfriends, i now realise that when i thought i was in love i really was not. I feel so hurt that its like a physical pain, im very proud that i have never cheated on any girl and i really have strong morals about it. To cut a long story short i found out that she was seeing someone else while with me and it killed me to find that out. Even tho it hurts im not gunna lower myself to her level. Im quite a forgiving person and i would if im honest give her a second chance and she knows that, but she simply has started to hate me and i swear i have done nothing to hurt her in anyway, iv sat for hours rattling my brains thinking of anything that i have done to hurt her and there is nothing. I had a future with her and to me she is perfect and even now i want her back, i know it sounds sad and anyone that reads this will probably just say get a life but the only way i can see to get rid of this pain is to back with her. I just cant seem to get on witmy life, iv always been proud of my body and have hit the gym alot over years its kinda been my escape, but i no longer can be bothered going and im putting on weight fast, i honestly fall asleep thinking of her and wake up thinking of her, My friend describes it as a slow death and i think he is right. this pain is somehting that i really would not wish on my worst enemy. i feel like im in a spiral of love torture that i cant get out ov. I just cant believe someone can be suddenly so cold and hurtful especially when she is the one girl i once totallt trusted and opened up to her, she is evil i know its a strong word to use but its like she changed over night, I feel so angry, upset just a lot of emotions mixed up, i feel like il never meet someone like her again. How can she get over it so easly and quickly while im left heartbroken. Thnks for listening guys, i hope you all find the girls that you all deserve. Glenn 20

[Guest]

to anybody reading this forum who wants there girl back (sorry bout the grammar, i cud never get the hang of this n ma ex always picked me up on it ). anyway, i wanted her back i knew it and i did try to get to her, but i didnt try hard enough! i didnt manage to get to her and now she's moved on!! and if i would have got to her i kno i cud have got her to chnage her mind! i'm sos tupid! i don't know how i let myself not get to her n make things rite! dont get me wrong i wanted to, and i did try, but i didnt actually ever touch her again from the day she left. and i only seen her in her car once, no physical contact, no actual speaking where i could explain things and make her see. i did get close to her work, but i didnt go in and ask for her, i didnt actually see her. so if u want her back, make sure u do get to see her!!

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[Guest 12345]

my ex girlfriend and i broke up about a month ago because i used to b an as to her...i changed and she saw that but the last 2 months of our relationship she wasnt happy...we didnt sleep together much but wen we did it wasnt very good. so she broke up with me and the night after i got drunk and slept wit a girl i had no feelings for. my ex girlfriend found out so i tried lying about it but i couldnt take it i had to tell her the truth...so she hated me for awhile then about 2 weeks later a day b4 my 18th b-day i found out she talking to one of my rly good friends. he is the class jock good at everything and good looking. i was so mad i punched a very large door and broke my hand and i ended having surgery on it haha. but i find myself almost begging for her to come back and all she tells me is that i need to move on because itll make things easier for me. ive tried moving on and its so hard i just wish i had a rebound g/f like she does wit my good friend. at 1st i hated him but then i told him i loved him no matter wat and i wasnt about to let a girl get between our friendship. of course our friendship hasnt been the same and wen i go to soccer games or baketball games they are both there together. i see her always looking at him, having the biggest smile ever. i dont remember that wen we 1st started dating but im sure it was like that. im still in love with her we dated for 1 yr and 4 months we spent everyday together we were best friends. i knew everyhting about her. wen we tlaked on the phone after we broke up i could even tell her wat i thought she was doing at the time and i knew exactly and this made her cry.. now i guess shes moved on and i havent idk wat to do...?

[Guest 33333]

My girlfriend left me 2 months ago. I didn't see it coming. We had a few conversations since but mostly she seemed angry with me and didnt really show any emotion. We had been together 18 months and she had left her marriage for me. I've struggled immensley since, I miss her so much. She hasnt really contacted me at all and although she lives close and is on instant messaging and facebook, she doesnt contact me. The reason she gave was wanting space and to breathe. Though a week before she told me how much she loved me, that she was so happy and that she had waited for me all her life. The worst thing is that she obviously feels no need to contact me, no desire. We were always so close and seemed to have found such a bond that this really has devastated me. She included me in a fun email recently and it had the name of a guy from her work on it ( it was about 'friends' and to my knowledge they were never friends). I can only guess that this was maybe the reason she left me and didnt need any contact. I'm devastated at the loss, I just keep crying. What I have learnt though is that perhaps I am sad for what I thought it was, it can't have been right or else she wouldn't have left and wouldn't leave me to deal with this on my own. She has shown that she couldn't really have loved me and surely doesn't miss me. It's hard to accept. I hope for better times ahead and some kind of release from the feelings of rejection and hurt. I hope soon I will feel better. I have deleted all contacts, it hurts so much to thnk she will never be in my life again, but it hurts more every time I look at facebook or something. Best wishes to all in finding a way to cope.

[daystrom]

Cowboy up mate. Really. It could be worse, loads worse. Nobody is shooting at you, your family has not been raped/slaughtered, etc., nobody has died.

Does it suck? You bet! Deal with it, move on. It is called life. Good luck man.

Ray

[ARGHHH!]

Wow this is crazy. This post was created 4 years ago and it's still going! I'm glad that i found it though. Made me feel a lot better about my situation. But I will share my story and continue to update it and hopefully someone will find it useful or can relate. I will try to make it short.

I met this girl a little over two years ago. She was a sophomore in high school and I was a senior. At first I had no desire in going out with this girl, but she kept putting tons of effort into getting with me. I eventually gave in thinking that it would be a short fling and maybe I'll get "lucky" (She was a really innocent kind of girl) Little did i know, I would fall in love with this girl. For the two years that we were together, we talked on the phone almost everyday. We hung out AT LEAST 3 times a week. We did break up a couple times though, but we made up which actually made a relationship stronger. Well...a couple of days ago, she wanted to break up. I was shocked because everything was going so well! It just came out of blue. She said that things weren't just as exciting anymore and that it's her senior year and she doesn't want anything holding her back.

Anyways we broke up and the past two days feel like months. My heart aches. I can't concentrate on school. I barely eating anything. I can't sleep. I find myself being very down and always thinking about her. I hope I feel better soon and i will keep whoever is reading updated

[jtippy]

Well me and my girlfriend broke up last saturday. She did it over the phone which I thought she would of been able to do it to my face. Im so confused though as she said she still loves me (but in a friend way) but then again she said she still fancies me alot and may be a chance for us to get back together in the future. Then on the sunday we met to give each other a few things back we had, anyway 30 seconds after parting she rings me and ask me if I want to come down to her house for a while and chat and have a cup of tea etcetc, one thing leads to another and we end up kissing alot and telling each other we till love each other and once again she says we'll get back together in a few months in the future. So im thinking there is some hope for us. The next day monday evening Im on the phone to her and she says she loves me but in a friend way and only fancies me a tiny bit. This completely baffles me as to what she said on the sunday. She also says she broke up with me because she didnt want a boyfriend at the moment which is fair enough but adds that she wasnt happy being with me but shes not happy without me. To add insult to injury she goes to my school and lies down the road from me. We were practicly best friends and saw each other everyday. Its now Wensday and I havnt eaten since saturday,I cant sleep,Cant concentrate at school,cant be bothered with friends,cant be bothered going out, and all I can think about is her.

Help?!?!

[mikel153]

wow..so im not the only one. my story is alot different from some of yours. me and my ex split up after a year. im 38 she was only 21. i also have four children from previous relationships. i believe at first this wasnt an issue. we were both excited to be dating each other, she is a model extremely sexy and beautiful. im an artist who has become pretty popular within recent years. we started an entertainment company together that is still having success. i found her to be extremely mature and motivating. she was good with my kids, and seemed to enjoy being around them. my kids were a bit clingy to her and i believe after a while this irritated her.

we spent every day together. i didnt go out with friends, i just wanted to be with her.we went on alot of dates,even after she moved in with me. about 9 months into our relationship, we would have small arguments that she would blow out of proportion. one day she moved out, but we continued to stay together. she only came over when my kids were not around, and this bugged me. i told her maybe we should take some time apart. thats when we broke up.

a week later i started missing her and wanted to get back together, but she told me it was a tough decision to make and she wanted to stand by it. i tried to reason with her, but nothing i said worked. eventually after a month of not calling for a week and then calling and wanted to talk about the relationship, i can see that i was only pushing her further away. when we did speak, she would say that she was too young and she wanted to experience life. she said it was tough being in the relationship because she felt that too many other women were trying to pursue me. she said she was afraid to leave me alone because she thought i would cheat on her. personally i think these were all excuses. she tells me she feels we can work it out one day, just not now. she's not ready yet. what do you all think? i love her very much, but am i fooling myself by thinking a girl this young could love me back in the same way?

[Guest]

i know ex's can be hard peole bot my ex took my kids from me i did not do anything roung i'm a good mom he was out to hurt me & he did but i still stay stronge i just try to get in touch wiht my kid's

[Guest]

i know ex's can be hard peole bot my ex took my kids from me i did not do anything roung i'm a good mom he was out to hurt me & he did but i still stay stronge i just try to get in touch wiht my kid's

i hear you i'm a mom hwo love's her kid's but my ex has stopped that wiht the older kide's
are you there ??????

[LyriKal]

Hey I've been reading alot of the post and decided to post mine...
I am totally deveastated. My ex bf broke up with me last november, one day after my bday. We were officially together for jus over a yr but have been really close for about 3 yrs we just didnt put a label on it. We both was very much in love with each other; well i know i was but now I'm doubting his. For the year we were offically together it was long distance. I live in Barbados and he moved to NY with his family and for school. Everything was going great better than ever we called each other we never argued we viewed webcam everything just was great. Probably to good to be true. Until the lasst 4 months when he left NY for university in maryland. At first he was still behaving loving and caring calling as usual nothing felt out of place. Then suddenly he stopped calling and stopped telling me he loves me. The day after my bday he left a msg on msn saying we have to talk. I was at school when i got the msg so i didn't reply. When i got home he left another msg saying it was important. We finally talked and he said he thought he would be able to do it but he can't and that his love was fizzling and thats how it ended. Just like that. I was crushed I couldn't sleep that night, i didn't cry but i was tossing and turning and i actually felt like sudden chest pains. I asked him if there was someone else he said no, but two weeks later he already had pictures of him and another girl who goes to the same school he does. I asked about her he said its nothing serious. But she leaves messages on his facebook saying missing you and loving you and thinking of you and all of that but yet on msn his personal status reads I love My Boobie (Boobie is what he use to call me) so I'm wondering is he really still in love with me or is he calling her what he use to call me? And he been talking to me saying all these nice loving things as if we're still together so I'm extra confused. I talked to my best friend and he told me that he ended it probably based on the 80/20 rule and that he'll come back. But lately i had to face the realisation that she has the upper hand in this one because shes there live and direct and im in Barbados hoping. I really love him. I love him so much that i hate him for what he did. And it has crushed me so deeply that i refuse to open up to anyone else. Simply because i never use to before and i would get dump for not opening up in a relationship and the one time i gave the relationship my ALL this is the outcome. I dont know what to do. We still talk and each time i see his personal msg i get butterflies thinking theres hope but then i go on facebook and all the hope turns to doubt. I really want him back. I cant stop thinking of him wondering if hes thinking of me to. Im not going crazy but i am drowning in hurt and confusion.

Can ya'll help?

[LyriKal]

Hey I've been reading alot of the post and decided to post mine...
I am totally deveastated. My ex bf broke up with me last november, one day after my bday. We were officially together for jus over a yr but have been really close for about 3 yrs we just didnt put a label on it. We both was very much in love with each other; well i know i was but now I'm doubting his. For the year we were offically together it was long distance. I live in Barbados and he moved to NY with his family and for school. Everything was going great better than ever we called each other we never argued we viewed webcam everything just was great. Probably to good to be true. Until the lasst 4 months when he left NY for university in maryland. At first he was still behaving loving and caring calling as usual nothing felt out of place. Then suddenly he stopped calling and stopped telling me he loves me. The day after my bday he left a msg on msn saying we have to talk. I was at school when i got the msg so i didn't reply. When i got home he left another msg saying it was important. We finally talked and he said he thought he would be able to do it but he can't and that his love was fizzling and thats how it ended. Just like that. I was crushed I couldn't sleep that night, i didn't cry but i was tossing and turning and i actually felt like sudden chest pains. I asked him if there was someone else he said no, but two weeks later he already had pictures of him and another girl who goes to the same school he does. I asked about her he said its nothing serious. But she leaves messages on his facebook saying missing you and loving you and thinking of you and all of that but yet on msn his personal status reads I love My Boobie (Boobie is what he use to call me) so I'm wondering is he really still in love with me or is he calling her what he use to call me? And he been talking to me saying all these nice loving things as if we're still together so I'm extra confused. I talked to my best friend and he told me that he ended it probably based on the 80/20 rule and that he'll come back. But lately i had to face the realisation that she has the upper hand in this one because shes there live and direct and im in Barbados hoping. I really love him. I love him so much that i hate him for what he did. And it has crushed me so deeply that i refuse to open up to anyone else. Simply because i never use to before and i would get dump for not opening up in a relationship and the one time i gave the relationship my ALL this is the outcome. I dont know what to do. We still talk and each time i see his personal msg i get butterflies thinking theres hope but then i go on facebook and all the hope turns to doubt. I really want him back. I cant stop thinking of him wondering if hes thinking of me to. Im not going crazy but i am drowning in hurt and confusion.

Can ya'll help?

[caitlin_7]

you know what they say the way over an old girlfriend is with a new one

[Guest]

can anyone help...
well i was in love with a woman for 2 years then i got the bomb shell that she dosent think she loves me so anyway i moved on and got a new gf then she conracted me and we ended up getting bk together. then we were together 3 years got engaged and was happy we did have a few problems. the thing with me i have no friends since my wee boy was born cos they didnt want to know me anymore so i lost my job and then after christmas we had a silly argument and she walked out on me. now we have been split up for 2 month now she has went out bought a new car goes out clubbing and buying new clothes etc. im unemployed just now and its hurting she can go out and do all these things and im stuck with nothing. the worst is she stays in my street so i always see her. she said she wants to be friends but im madly in love with her and i cant think about nothing else i have tried to forget her but she is everywhere and i feel sick and just cant take it anymore i have now found out she slept with another guy. im so hurt but i just want her back. dont know what to do.... please help

[cupid101]

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