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What is an 'ok' age gap to have between couples?

Postby noodledoodle on Sun Aug 31, 2008 4:02 pm

Hello all,

What age gap do you think is ok to have between your partners?
I have met this guy and he is just lovely and we get on so well, the thing is he is 5 years younger than me. I'm 22 and he is 17. Do you think this is ok?

My friends have already made fun of me and think it is weird. Please help.

What do you think? Thanks

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Postby Verve on Sun Aug 31, 2008 5:06 pm

Well um... in the US he is considered an adult at age 18. So I can't classify him as a man. He's a boy. Um as soon as he turns 18 I say go for it but your going to have some issues. Some men really don't mature at a normal rate as us women. That's why you might have some trouble. He might turn out to be too immature for you in the end. It's your call though, no one can make it for you. The only positive to this situation is the sex, but that's just my opinion. Step back and wait until he's 18. I think if men can do it so can women. But don't your dare b*tch and moan at him when he doesn't live up to your expectations. He's a young child.

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Postby Cambridge on Mon Sep 01, 2008 2:26 am

It's your call though, no one can make it for you.


Erm, the law will make the call. If he’s underage, it’s a felony to even look at him in most states. You might call Debra LaFave in Florida or Mary Kay Letourneau in Washington.

Most the time, if it’s a woman on a man, the sentence will be light, US law being a double standard. But, if you’re caught, you will go down as a sex offender in the computers, for posterity. Forget about ever getting a job again, passing a bar exam, getting your teacher’s credentials or ever becoming a physician, an engineer, a license to sell securities, real estate, etc. You will become persona non gratis for the rest of your life.

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Postby MaxtheGaul on Mon Sep 01, 2008 8:06 am

But if you live in the UK or many other places, it's perfectly legal. Certainly at 17 the age gap is quite big, but when you're both in your thirties you won't even notice it.

I would enjoy the sex for the next five years (assuming you're in legal land) and then start working on the rest of the relationship when he's grown up a bit. :)

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Postby noodledoodle on Mon Sep 01, 2008 4:58 pm

live in the UK and so 16 is the legal age

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Postby elainefr on Thu Sep 18, 2008 6:19 pm

LOVE has no age good look in your life together

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Postby Salsito on Fri Sep 19, 2008 10:08 pm

I think age gaps are more significant in younger couples rather that those 30 plus. Five years is nothing. If you like the guy stick with it and ignore your friends, make your own decisions.

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Postby Bouncy on Sat Sep 20, 2008 6:04 am

elainefr wrote:LOVE has no age good look in your life together


She didn't say 'love' and she didn't mention a life together.
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Postby MaxtheGaul on Sat Sep 20, 2008 6:32 pm

I presume the sex is good and he's not too embarrassing. In which case stop fretting.

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Postby SimonStef on Sat Sep 20, 2008 7:46 pm

Between myself and my boyfriend there's a 7 year gap. We started going out when I was 18 and he was 25, 3 years later we're living together and extremely happy :)
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Postby kissycat on Thu Oct 16, 2008 12:19 am

There's a 13 year gap between me & my g/f she 25 im 38! We get on realy well & i could'nt wish for any better!

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Postby TwistedMind on Thu Oct 16, 2008 10:20 pm

Hello all,

What age gap do you think is ok to have between your partners?
I have met this guy and he is just lovely and we get on so well, the thing is he is 5 years younger than me. I'm 22 and he is 17. Do you think this is ok?

My friends have already made fun of me and think it is weird. Please help.

What do you think? Thanks

Have already posted this on members but think it would be better here!



If it's pure love, so be it. To he** with those people who curse about it ;)
I have a female friend who's 9 years older than her bf, and this year they're getting married! 8)

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Re: What is an 'ok' age gap to have between couples?

Postby FFFCaroline on Sat Oct 18, 2008 6:21 pm

When it is right you will know it....Ignore what people say....Have fun and enjoy life....It is far too short to start....
I used to think that I would be sexually dead at this age.....Boy, was I wrong.....That's why I write my site...

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Re: What is an 'ok' age gap to have between couples?

Postby shrimper on Sun Oct 19, 2008 4:01 pm

Results may vary. The only caveat is that both must be adults.

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Re: What is an 'ok' age gap to have between couples?

Postby sm68 on Thu Oct 23, 2008 8:19 am

as long as both parties are legal age, age does not matter.


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