I did something stupid...

[stevie666]

its prob just a pic of his new girlfriend who dosent open his emails

[Bouncy]

Any ideas?!? xxxxxx

Say nothing. Change your desktop to the pic of this girl. When he starts it up and sees it, the fun begins.

Updates would be nice, although with your post count currently at 13 after 2+ years as a member, I'm not hopeful.

That's not nice.

Nobody said I had to be nice.

[sisi00]

Oops sorry bouncy, glad to know you care though! Still mulling the whole thing over, not sure what's the best plan yet, bear with me and watch this space! Thanks for all your help though guys, mucho appreciated as I don't really want to talk to my friends about it. xx

[WhiteTrash]

Come clean.... Say something like "I have a question - and I want the truth, I'm not going to judge you... but I ask for the same respect back - don't judge me." Admit you know you're in the wrong for looking, but that part can be discussed second. Decide what you are going to do with the truth (if you get it).

There must of been a reason why you looked, a sixth sense that he was cheating maybe?

Good luck!

[Confused Chick]

... There must of been a reason why you looked...

good point.

[ladylumps]

What happened then?

I agreed with the suggestion of saying my email was not playing so I tried yours and found this girl - WHO THE F*** IS SHE?!????????

[Bouncy]

What? Who are you?

[ladylumps]

Who am I?

[marcluton]

I think everyone has given you advise from pretend it never happend to lie to confessions!
For you to read his emails there must be more than a reason "you just like to do it" or you would have told him you read his emails a long time ago?
Do you have fears of jealousy worry?
The only way to handle the situation is to be out-right honest as with any situation hiding will only make it worse! Pretending this picture isn't important will only eat away inside you. You must already have WHAT-IF going round in your mind.
We all make mistakes the important thing is we are honest about them and learn from them.

[Cambridge]

Come clean.... Say something like "I have a question - and I want the truth, I'm not going to judge you... but I ask for the same respect back - don't judge me." Admit you know you're in the wrong for looking, but that part can be discussed second. Decide what you are going to do with the truth (if you get it).

There must of been a reason why you looked, a sixth sense that he was cheating maybe?

Good luck!

It's kinda hard to say don't judge back. She did something dishonest. If it turns out he's screwing around, that's a second story...a second wrong, but two wrongs don't make a right, eh? The whole thing begs of judging. That's what makes a long thread.

[elsa73]

Hi sissi00,
I hope u get everything sorted...I would have just said ' i thought it was weird you sent yourself mail, so i opened it!'
If there is nothing to it he wont mind...if he is hiding something im sure you will see the reaction...thats when you need to talk it over.

Again, best wishes. Let us know how you got on.
xx

[Cambridge]

Great Elsa...let's resort to deception. There's a significan percentage of the human population that thinks that deceiving is a legitimate means of manipulating the situation. Only, it always backfires.

And what is the divorce rate? Fifty percent, eh?

[elsa73]

Great Elsa...let's resort to deception. There's a significan percentage of the human population that thinks that deceiving is a legitimate means of manipulating the situation. Only, it always backfires.

And what is the divorce rate? Fifty percent, eh?

deception...erm no...thats just being honest isn't it??
As i read it thats exacyly what she thought....the deception would be lying about how she accidently opened it, as suggested by alot of other members!!
I was not implying she lie about why she did it .

[Cambridge]

As i read it thats exacyly what she thought....

You know as well as I do that that’s not why she opened the email. She’s admitting it, for God’s sake. Stop playing games. The issue isn’t how we take it; it’s how he takes it. So you want to pound a certain point home and I'm saying he’ll see right through that. It’s not an issue that you should argue with me about it’s an issue that she will have to face when/if she takes that tactic.

[kissyx]

Any updates on how this went?