Just popping in so as to introduce myself proper. I came across this site while looking about on the net trying to find some information regarding women and miscarriage. You see, my girl recently miscarried and we took it rather badly. I have been concerned for her and decided to do a bit of research to see if I could better support her through this rough time. Well, I must say that I am glad that I found this site because I met some very nice, supportive people thus far who have been incredibly helpful with my particular situation. So thanks in general everyone for such a great site, and special thanks to those people who have reached out and taken the time to offer insight and kind words of support. It is a fine resource, has been for me.
Right then, on with the introduction. My name is Ray. I am a Canadian male
in his early 30s. I am a professional soldier, have been most of my adult years, except for one small period during my mid 20s when I left the forces for a spell and backpacked around for a couple of years. I currently serve in the infantry, in a para company attached to my battalion. I have been a para for a while now and I love it. Prior to that I served as a sniper, in a recce platoon and initially in an ordinary rifle company.
Jumping from airplanes is not just a part of my job, it is a hobby that pursue outside of work. I have been skydiving for 6 years now and I own all of my own gear (it is quite an expensive hobby - rigs are pricey). Other hobbies include boxing, hunting, fishing and competitive shooting. I like alcohol but I do not drink everyday or anything.
Just socially. I enjoy other people and am a bit of a "clown" when I have an audience.
I am currently in a relationship with a girl who is nearly 10 years my junior, in her early 20s. Strange yes, it was a bit odd at first but not for long; at present there is nothing that feels more natural. I first met her at a fellow soldier's family "get together"; she was the younger sister of a fellow soldier's wife's mate if you can follow that, and her tagging along that night was a total chance happening, a decision that she said she made at the very last minute as her earlier plans for the night had fallen through. She made me believe in the concept of love at first sight as that's exactly what I did, I fell in love with her the moment that I laid eyes on her and I knew right then that she was The One. As you can imagine, it all made for quite a moment. I immediately walked up to her and told her that I was going to marry her someday and we have been together ever since that night. One day very soon I am going to marry that girl. Her name is Pam by the way and she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Actually, I believe that she is the best girl that has ever graced God's green earth and I am the luckiest guy in the world to have her love. I live for her and for the way which she looks at me, a look that makes me feel like I am the only guy that has ever mattered. I never want to lose that look. I vow that I will never let Pam down, not ever, no matter what.
We are both currently planning to have a baby, something that we want very much. She proposed the idea about six months ago and I immediately agreed; there is nobody else I would rather have a family with, supposing that I lived for ten lifetimes. While gender is not terribly important, for some reason I want to have a little girl, and I hope that she is as pretty as her mum, with her beautiful blue eyes, red hair and clear, creamy porcelain complexion. I hope to have 2 or 3 kids eventually, but I am open to any and all family configurations as long as she is game. As I mentioned earlier, unfortunately our first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage. This event has hit us both quite hard. She has found the whole thing particularly difficult and it pains me to no end when I see my Pam hurting inside. I would do anything for her, anything to end her suffering and to make her happy. I wish that I could just snap my fingers and take all of her pain away.
OK, so that is me in a nutshell. Again, I would like to take this opportunity to thank the very kind and understanding people I have met thus far. You have been very supportive and great. This site has been a very pleasant surprise to me. I am glad that I stumbled across it. Thanks again everyone. It has been great making your acquaintance.
Warmest regards,
Ray
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. But seriously, that is all fine by me, whatever she wants. The details seem more important to females. I mean, she has every little detail already planned. She tells me that she has had most of them worked out since she was 7. 
I also suspect that she is trying to figure out how to arrange this so that a few of my friends are on deployment someplace really far away at the time of the wedding. 
