Babysitter giving bath

[Tracy D.]

If he had to pee before going into the bathtub, he would just do that, wether me or my mother were already in the bathroom or not.
He still is not embarrassed about that, now that he is 14. I often tell him to close the bathroom door when he is peeing, but he doesn´t care much about it.

Tracey D.
I was okay being naked around Mum until around 16 when I became shyer and would keep my undies on around her. But, like your brother I sometimes went for a pee naked just before getting into the bathtub and it never bothered Mum at all. Now maybe if I had a sister it would be different. Do you think that's the reason your Mum tells your brother to close the bathroom door when he pees. Are you embarrassed seeing him pee?

Its not just my mother who tells my brother to close the door. I tell him that too but I am not embarrassed seeing him pee.

[Tracy D.]

When you said you were giving him a bath two weeks earlier did you stop at any point or was that the last bath you gave him yourself?Let me ask you. What was it that you noticed about him that made you realize he wasnt washing well? My 15 year old foster son was his body odor.He is into sports and thinks he can just quickly wash and thats that.I have tried all kinds of things like taking away his TV,Video Games,scooter and anything else that means something to him.To no avail his poor hygiene continued.We dont have a shower just an old style tub and I guess bathing is too boring for him so he takes about 5 mins to wash and done.When I have to step in I scrub him. No not the delicate parts!However I do make sure areas like his bum and crotch are clean.He is sometimes apprehensive but for the most part he is ok with it.I will continue this until he gets it right.I presume he will straighten up soon. And if not I will be in there until he is old enough to leave home.

He is your stepson so you are not bathing him since he was born. How old was he when you started to check him in the bath? Depending on the boy´s age, the first time a stepmother goes into the bathroom to check her new stepson in the bath may not be easy. The boy may not like it.

[Robert b]

My mom check me at least untill i was 16 not every night but may be 2 or 3 times a week. She would follow me to my beddroom after my bath sit on the bed and then i would take my robe off and she then would check me all over my penis as well the later years i got erect when she check me but i was not shy so it was ok. I think she liked doing the checks.Some times She sent me back to have a 2nd bath

[ben12380]

Tracy do you or your mother ever examine him down below to see that he is keeping him self clean and would he let you touch it with out being embarrassed boys of 14/15 and even 16 need to be checked

He still is not embarrassed about that, now that he is 14. I often tell him to close the bathroom door when he is peeing, but he doesn´t care much about it.

If you were giving a boy a bath and he purposely peed on you, how would you react?

Ben, I agree with you whole heartedly about checking boys bathing until 16 years of age. I have a 15 year old foster son that I do check when he is bathing himself. Especially at puberty I encourage parents or guardians to check boys hygiene if they become complacent and think a quick wash is adequet.The reason I check is because when I don't check he has a tendency to still have a body odor.Its not because of any hormonal problems.It is sheerly because of laziness! So I remedy it by keeping a very close eye on his bathing habits. I have had to step in from time to time and wash him myself. There is no objections because he understands our agreement,that being, he can do it himself if he shows he is responsible enough.His full blown pubescent state is of no concern to him. Why? I guess he is secure or just passive.

BTW; this is a very educational topic!

[attentive mom]

My mom check me at least untill i was 16 not every night but may be 2 or 3 times a week. She would follow me to my beddroom after my bath sit on the bed and then i would take my robe off and she then would check me all over my penis as well the later years i got erect when she check me but i was not shy so it was ok. I think she liked doing the checks.Some times She sent me back to have a 2nd bath

I`m a mother of teenage boy too and fully agree with your mother`s treatment. I think 16 yo is a little bit old for mother to check his penis in that way , but for boys until 13, 14 that it is to be quite wished. Indeed, every child must to have built healthy habits but I don`t think a boy at age 10 – 12 yo is old enough to care alone for his health and hygiene. In my opinion quite a lot of boys at that age are a little negligent about that mater. It is no chance that the society concedes to a parent authority to make decisions instead the underage child and to assess what is good and what is bad for him until come of age. That applies to the health to a great expect.

[ben12380]

My mom check me at least untill i was 16 not every night but may be 2 or 3 times a week. She would follow me to my beddroom after my bath sit on the bed and then i would take my robe off and she then would check me all over my penis as well the later years i got erect when she check me but i was not shy so it was ok. I think she liked doing the checks.Some times She sent me back to have a 2nd bath

I`m a mother of teenage boy too and fully agree with your mother`s treatment. I think 16 yo is a little bit old for mother to check his penis in that way , but for boys until 13, 14 that it is to be quite wished. Indeed, every child must to have built healthy habits but I don`t think a boy at age 10 – 12 yo is old enough to care alone for his health and hygiene. In my opinion quite a lot of boys at that age are a little negligent about that mater. It is no chance that the society concedes to a parent authority to make decisions instead the underage child and to assess what is good and what is bad for him until come of age. That applies to the health to a great expect.

Boys privacy needs to be respected just as much as girls privacy.

[Robert b]

Hi ben12380

I did not mind my mother looking at my private bits I know she ment well. I am sure it is better that your mom looks at your private bits than a babysitter she allso check for lumps in my testicals she said it was the best time to do that just after a bath

[ben12380]

Hi ben12380

I did not mind my mother looking at my private bits I know she ment well. I am sure it is better that your mom looks at your private bits than a babysitter she allso check for lumps in my testicals she said it was the best time to do that just after a bath

Hi Robert B, I got your message and I partially agree that it is best to be checked like you said but I find it more like a task for your family physician than your mother. My mother only checked me for things like that when I was very little. After I reached a certain age like 9 or so and she stopped giving me baths, she left checking those things for my doctor to do.

[Robert b]

Hi again ben12380

I would sooner my mother check me than have a doctor put is or her hands on my bits and with her doing it it was done 2/3 times a week if i had gone to the doctor it would have been 1 or 2 times a year and we have a lady doctor and if she had done it i would not have liked it if i had got hard then

[ben12380]

Hi ben12380

Boys do not grow up as fast as girls do if i was baby sitting a boy of 14/15 or 16 it is only right to check that they are washing clean. And that dose allso mean looking at the forskin. If i were seeing the same boy every week and every time i check he was clean every were then i would only have to check him every 5/6 weeks. None of the boys i have sat for as minded me checking them. A lot of boys when i check there forskin have only washed the top if you look on the under side they still need cleaning.
And as for the peeing that as never hapened.

Hi June 19,
I am well aware of the truth that boys do not mature as quickly as girls but besides the point, boys privacy needs to be respected just as much as girls privacy. How would you like it if you were being given a bath by a male babysitter? I have had almost as many male babysitters as female and hardly any of the babysitters ever gave me a bath. Like I said before, my mother stopped giving me baths when I was 9 years old and stopped checking in on me at the same time as well. When I reached the age of 12 I moved into a group home and was never given a bath while living there. I would have refused to undress in front of any of the staff who worked at my group home and if my mother found out that the staff had given me a bath, she would have been very angry. Like I said before, boys privacy needs to be respected just as much as girls privacy. A number of females have no regards for the child's feelings about being given a bath when he happens to be male. June 19, if you wouldn't have felt comfortable undressing in front of a male babysitter as a child, then you should consider vice versa feelings of the boys you babysit for. This is the second time I will repeat this, BOYS PRIVACY NEEDS TO BE RESPECTED JUST AS MUCH AS GIRLS PRIVACY.

[Guest]

When you said you were giving him a bath two weeks earlier did you stop at any point or was that the last bath you gave him yourself?Let me ask you. What was it that you noticed about him that made you realize he wasnt washing well? My 15 year old foster son was his body odor.He is into sports and thinks he can just quickly wash and thats that.I have tried all kinds of things like taking away his TV,Video Games,scooter and anything else that means something to him.To no avail his poor hygiene continued.We dont have a shower just an old style tub and I guess bathing is too boring for him so he takes about 5 mins to wash and done.When I have to step in I scrub him. No not the delicate parts!However I do make sure areas like his bum and crotch are clean.He is sometimes apprehensive but for the most part he is ok with it.I will continue this until he gets it right.I presume he will straighten up soon. And if not I will be in there until he is old enough to leave home.

He is your stepson so you are not bathing him since he was born. How old was he when you started to check him in the bath? Depending on the boy´s age, the first time a stepmother goes into the bathroom to check her new stepson in the bath may not be easy. The boy may not like it.

He is not my step son because he is not related to me through a marriage.However he is a foster son than I am caring for. He was 11 when he was asigned to me.His hygiene was horrendous and so was his manners.In any case he was a bit uncomfortable at first but I did put him at ease about it.After that he has no problem with me checking him at the age of 15.Believe me when I tell you that I am no one for a 15 year old boy to get excited over.If he does get an erection it isnt because I am in there with him. I dont really care about seeing a boys private bits for any reasons other than hygiene.He has gotten better but still has those days where he just doesnt wash well enough.

[june 19]

Hi ben12380

If I was 14 or 15 or even 16 and a male babysitter was looking after me I would think because a female dose not need looking after like a boy dose he would not bath me as you know female genitals are partly self cleaning you do not have a forskin to look after like boys do. And boys do not wash that well. I never had a boy that minded me washing and checking there genitals and as Robert said the testicals can have lumps on them and the sooner they are delt with the better

[Guest]

Hi ben12380

If I was 14 or 15 or even 16 and a male babysitter was looking after me I would think because a female dose not need looking after like a boy dose he would not bath me as you know female genitals are partly self cleaning you do not have a forskin to look after like boys do. And boys do not wash that well. I never had a boy that minded me washing and checking there genitals and as Robert said the testicals can have lumps on them and the sooner they are delt with the better

Well put June. Me and my foster son have an understanding and he feels there is no intrusiveness on my part any longer.If he did feel like I was being intrusive I would definitely back off and try to figure out a way to deal with his hygiene. Not to be too descriptive but when we first met he seemed to have been like any other self reliant teenager when it came to cleanliness.It was not until about a week or so later that I noticed he wasn't bathing properly.His hair was always greasey and the bath towels would always have an odor to them when he was done.That in and of itself didnt stand to reason because why would a fresh bath towel stink after a bath.? I explained to him what my findings were and yes he was a little embarrased at first but understood. Ever see matted pubic hair?How about briefs so dirty at times you could stand them in the corner? Enough said on that note.
I gave him many chances to correct the issue but the problem continued for about another week. I couldnt take the smell of old sweat and grunge.After catching him not taking bath but twice a week I had to do something because of health issues. I discussed it with a few people and the case worker.They were all pretty concerned.It was the old saying.."You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink". However,they can be pursuaded if you try hard enough. Well needless to say he has made a 180 degree turn around with just a few minor issues but those are being worked on.

[june 19]

Did you wash him every were and check his tesicals for lumps like Robert said his mother had done
The boy I was looking after got very unclean down below when i first started bathing him i pulled back his forskin and it had a lot of like dead skin there it was not very clean at all

[mum2mum]

Did you wash him every were and check his tesicals for lumps like Robert said his mother had done
The boy I was looking after got very unclean down below when i first started bathing him i pulled back his forskin and it had a lot of like dead skin there it was not very clean at all

I did reply but it didnt get posted. What I replied with was,he is circumcised. Thank goodness for his sake.Smegma can be a serious health issue. I didnt do the inspections myself but instructed him how to under my supervision. I wanted him to become aware of what to look and feel for. As for washing I did and do but that has tapered off a bit.I only get involved when I see there is an issue.