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Should I wear a skirt to please my boyfriend?

Postby Mixed_up_Miss » Wed Sep 17, 2008 4:06 pm

Should I wear a skirt to please my boyfriend? Some of my friends say ‘wear a dress what’s the problem’ and the rest say ‘wear what you like what’s the problem’. I’ve never contacted this group before but I'm hoping that someone out there will understand the ******* problem!

My boyfriend wants me to wear a skirt because he says it’s more feminine than trousers. All I have are a couple of beach sarongs and a pair of culottes I hardly wear. Skirts are just too dressy and old-fashioned. They are just not me so what do I do?

I’ve never had much luck with boyfriends before. He is kind and funny and I love the way he treats me like a lady. He’s done lots of things to please me like shave off his beard and watching less football. But haven’t I got the right to wear trousers if that’s what I prefer? Isn’t a man being sexist if he tells a girl to wear a skirt?

I’m a bit of a tomboy and I’ve never taken much interest in my appearance but I don’t think I’m unfeminine. I’ve broken the habits of a lifetime and started doing my boyfriend’s laundry. I’d love to end up as a full-time housewife (marriage and kids).

He’s asked me to wear a skirt several times and teased me a bit about showing off my legs but I’ve treated it as a joke and ignored him even when he’s taken me to some glitzy places. We went to a gorgeous restaurant recently with 3 other couples. I put on more makeup than usual and a frilly blouse but the other girls were all in beautiful cocktail dresses and I did feel a bit embarrassed and, well, envious. He didn’t say anything but I’m sure he was disappointed. I just feel awkward about wearing dresses or skirts although he says I’d get used to it and probably start to enjoy it.

Any advise please!!!
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Re: Should I wear a skirt to please my boyfriend?

Postby Guest » Wed Sep 17, 2008 4:41 pm

Mixed_up_Miss wrote:Should I wear a skirt to please my boyfriend? Some of my friends say ‘wear a dress what’s the problem’ and the rest say ‘wear what you like what’s the problem’. I’ve never contacted this group before but I'm hoping that someone out there will understand the ******* problem!

My boyfriend wants me to wear a skirt because he says it’s more feminine than trousers. All I have are a couple of beach sarongs and a pair of culottes I hardly wear. Skirts are just too dressy and old-fashioned. They are just not me so what do I do?

I’ve never had much luck with boyfriends before. He is kind and funny and I love the way he treats me like a lady. He’s done lots of things to please me like shave off his beard and watching less football. But haven’t I got the right to wear trousers if that’s what I prefer? Isn’t a man being sexist if he tells a girl to wear a skirt?

I’m a bit of a tomboy and I’ve never taken much interest in my appearance but I don’t think I’m unfeminine. I’ve broken the habits of a lifetime and started doing my boyfriend’s laundry. I’d love to end up as a full-time housewife (marriage and kids).

He’s asked me to wear a skirt several times and teased me a bit about showing off my legs but I’ve treated it as a joke and ignored him even when he’s taken me to some glitzy places. We went to a gorgeous restaurant recently with 3 other couples. I put on more makeup than usual and a frilly blouse but the other girls were all in beautiful cocktail dresses and I did feel a bit embarrassed and, well, envious. He didn’t say anything but I’m sure he was disappointed. I just feel awkward about wearing dresses or skirts although he says I’d get used to it and probably start to enjoy it.

Any advise please!!!


You could wear an elegant long dress and a bolero, but don't be pressured into dressing up in a mini skirt in stilletos, spilling out of your top if that isn't your style. You can still wear trousers and look sexy. Some guy pressured me into wearing a dress to a dinner party and when we got there I was overdressed and he made me feel like sh-it for looking out of place, so tell him to feck off, he can't change you.
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Should I wear a skirt to please my boyfriend?

Postby Mixed_up_Miss » Wed Sep 17, 2008 6:05 pm

You could wear an elegant long dress and a bolero, but don't be pressured into dressing up in a mini skirt in stilletos, spilling out of your top if that isn't your style. You can still wear trousers and look sexy. Some guy pressured me into wearing a dress to a dinner party and when we got there I was overdressed and he made me feel like sh-it for looking out of place, so tell him to feck off, he can't change you.

Hi thanks,
He’s never suggested I wear anything short or tarty. I’m not sure how I feel about billowing long skirts but maybe I’ll think about getting a long dress - if I wore one on an evening date I guess he’d like it.
I don’t agree with your closing comment. If we are committed to a relationship then we may have to change and compromise – I just can’t decide what to do about trousers / skirts!
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Postby glidewest » Wed Sep 17, 2008 6:08 pm

you don't have to change yourself, perhaps if you do it 'every once in a while' it'll have more impact on him and there's no harm in giving him a treat every now and then. But if you don't feel comfortable with what you're wearing it will show.
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Postby Guest » Thu Sep 18, 2008 8:36 am

Skirts can be funky. Dresses are fun. You can wear them with a vest or jean jacket and feel dressed up or casual at the same time. Belt it and it's like a skirt without looking for a blouse that matches, which is the hard part for me.

This guy shaved his beard for you. Looking feminine isn't going to kill you, as a matter of fact, you might like it. Just ask yourself, is the man worth it?
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Postby Mixed_up_Miss » Thu Sep 18, 2008 1:32 pm

. wrote:Skirts can be funky. Dresses are fun. You can wear them with a vest or jean jacket and feel dressed up or casual at the same time. Belt it and it's like a skirt without looking for a blouse that matches, which is the hard part for me.

This guy shaved his beard for you. Looking feminine isn't going to kill you, as a matter of fact, you might like it. Just ask yourself, is the man worth it?


I want him, I want him, I want him!!! I go mental waiting for him to call and ask me out. Thanks for the fashion advice and the plain speaking!

I guess you’re right – wearing a skirt can’t kill me. Millions of other girls enjoy skirts and dresses – it’s just all the hassle of being a girly girl that I can’t face – tights, heals, makeup, shaving my legs etc etc. Jeans and trainers are so much more comfortable and convenient! I’ve been like this as long as I remember – I was so p****d off as a teenager when I had to start wearing a bra! But maybe I’ve messed up with previous boyfriends by not being feminine enough?
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Postby Guest » Thu Sep 18, 2008 1:35 pm

Jeans and trousers are NOT sexy no matter how well the magazines and adverts may try to convince us. They are worn for comfort and practical purposes only, guys know this, and a lot of women have no idea how much this pisses off the guys, who are too embarrassed to suggest that a lady might change her look and once in a while wear a dress or skirt, and subsequently incur the wrath of the feminists!

My ex-wife would never wear dresses or skirts despite her superb, size 10, 36C figure. Even her friends would comment upon it. She would say it only made her a sex object in the eyes of men and it was her body to do what she liked with. I could like it or lump it.. So I lumped it with one of the aforementioned friends after 15 years of jeans and black trousers.
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Postby Mixed_up_Miss » Thu Sep 18, 2008 1:35 pm

glidewest wrote:you don't have to change yourself, perhaps if you do it 'every once in a while' it'll have more impact on him and there's no harm in giving him a treat every now and then. But if you don't feel comfortable with what you're wearing it will show.


That’s what worries me so much. If I’m uncomfortable I won’t be good company will I? I think I’ll have to try it and see what happens – I’m not happy just to refuse outright. Maybe it’s a good plan just to wear a skirt once in a while as you suggest. He can’t expect me to wear skirts all the time – I don’t currently own any and I’m not made of money!
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Postby Guest » Thu Sep 18, 2008 1:50 pm

. wrote:Jeans and trousers are NOT sexy no matter how well the magazines and adverts may try to convince us. They are worn for comfort and practical purposes only, guys know this, and a lot of women have no idea how much this pisses off the guys, who are too embarrassed to suggest that a lady might change her look and once in a while wear a dress or skirt, and subsequently incur the wrath of the feminists!

My ex-wife would never wear dresses or skirts despite her superb, size 10, 36C figure. Even her friends would comment upon it. She would say it only made her a sex object in the eyes of men and it was her body to do what she liked with. I could like it or lump it.. So I lumped it with one of the aforementioned friends after 15 years of jeans and black trousers.


Complete tripe, oads of women can pull in trousers and jeans.
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Postby glidewest » Thu Sep 18, 2008 2:00 pm

. wrote:

Complete tripe, oads of women can pull in trousers and jeans.


agreed!!
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Postby glidewest » Thu Sep 18, 2008 2:02 pm

Mixed_up_Miss wrote:
That’s what worries me so much. If I’m uncomfortable I won’t be good company will I? I think I’ll have to try it and see what happens – I’m not happy just to refuse outright. Maybe it’s a good plan just to wear a skirt once in a while as you suggest. He can’t expect me to wear skirts all the time – I don’t currently own any and I’m not made of money!


can you get him to go shopping with you and help make a choice of what's working and what isn't?
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Postby Guest » Thu Sep 18, 2008 3:51 pm

. wrote:Jeans and trousers are NOT sexy no matter how well the magazines and adverts may try to convince us. They are worn for comfort and practical purposes only, guys know this, and a lot of women have no idea how much this pisses off the guys, who are too embarrassed to suggest that a lady might change her look and once in a while wear a dress or skirt, and subsequently incur the wrath of the feminists!

My ex-wife would never wear dresses or skirts despite her superb, size 10, 36C figure. Even her friends would comment upon it. She would say it only made her a sex object in the eyes of men and it was her body to do what she liked with. I could like it or lump it.. So I lumped it with one of the aforementioned friends after 15 years of jeans and black trousers.


that's probably why she's an ex.
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Postby Mixed_up_Miss » Thu Sep 18, 2008 4:00 pm

glidewest wrote:
Mixed_up_Miss wrote:
That’s what worries me so much. If I’m uncomfortable I won’t be good company will I? I think I’ll have to try it and see what happens – I’m not happy just to refuse outright. Maybe it’s a good plan just to wear a skirt once in a while as you suggest. He can’t expect me to wear skirts all the time – I don’t currently own any and I’m not made of money!


can you get him to go shopping with you and help make a choice of what's working and what isn't?


Um...I guess I could try to drag him along. To be honest I'm not too keen on shopping and I expect he hates it as much as most men. But if I go shopping for skirts and dresses to please him then it makes sense to check that he likes what I'm buying doesn't it? He might even offer to pay...I just do lousy temp secretarial jobs so I could do with some help!
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Postby FMJ » Thu Sep 18, 2008 4:35 pm

. wrote:Jeans and trousers are NOT sexy no matter how well the magazines and adverts may try to convince us. They are worn for comfort and practical purposes only, guys know this, and a lot of women have no idea how much this pisses off the guys, who are too embarrassed to suggest that a lady might change her look and once in a while wear a dress or skirt, and subsequently incur the wrath of the feminists!
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Right on!! Totally agree with that..

Ever heard this old lame comment?.."..she looks good in jeans" well thats a contradiction in terms, as REAL women DON'T look good in jeans!

Ask a UK nurse. They would much prefer to wear those sexy dresses once more, but can't, due the constraints of the job.
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Postby Guest » Thu Sep 18, 2008 5:03 pm

FMJ wrote:
. wrote:Jeans and trousers are NOT sexy no matter how well the magazines and adverts may try to convince us. They are worn for comfort and practical purposes only, guys know this, and a lot of women have no idea how much this pisses off the guys, who are too embarrassed to suggest that a lady might change her look and once in a while wear a dress or skirt, and subsequently incur the wrath of the feminists!
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Right on!! Totally agree with that..

Ever heard this old lame comment?.."..she looks good in jeans" well thats a contradiction in terms, as REAL women DON'T look good in jeans!

Ask a UK nurse. They would much prefer to wear those sexy dresses once more, but can't, due the constraints of the job.


Skirts are sometimes practical for work, but female doctors often wear trousers. Men only want women to wear dresses so they can have sex easier.
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