What should I do

[Goya]

I have come across a lovely young lady half of my age (32:64) in my new job. She complements me and comes to my office with smiles and talks nicely to me. I am attracted to her (who would not).

I am confused and do not know whether or not something can happen between us.

Can you please give me some clue in what I could do to know if she is serious or is having fun with an old man.

[Mr B]

In the middle of a conversation say something along the lines of "If I was 20 years younger........." Don't finish the sentence. Its cheeky and doesnt cross the line. Gives you a chance to see her reaction.

[glidewest]

Nice one Mr B!

I know several people who are in long term relationships where their significant other is in excess of 20 years older/younger.....seems to work for them!

[ladylumps]

Pu the age aside, unless she was illegal of course!

If you feel an attraction, then invite her out for a coffee, dinner etc...if she refuses thinking you are after more than she wants, just say don't worry its only as friends....but if she says yes I would love to then you may just be what is technically known as 'in there'.

[Goya]

Thank you Mr. B
an excellent line, but I have to get the guts to do it. Thank you

[Goya]

Thank you glidewest,
Yes I also know some people wth age difference, but this lady acts so close but yet she is so far ....... I am simply lost ..... but will give it some time and try to follow the recomendation of my friends in this site.

Thank you

[Goya]

Dear ladylumps,
I am really attracted to her and her words and comments makes this attraction stronger. Believe me even holding her would be out of this world. I am sure I can satisfy her (older men have their ways smile) but that first step is difficult. I will follow your advise ...... when I get the guts. Thank you

[glidewest]

it's lovely to see at what ever stage in life you are, it holds all the same excitement and trepidation

good luck Goya, let us know how it goes

rooting for you!

[borealis]

Hi Goya
How are things going with your younger lady? I am thirty and many of my friends and I are attracted to older men, so I don't think you should worry so much about your age. If the feelings are there, they are there, regardless of your age difference. Age is the last thing that concerns me in a potential partner.

[Guest]

"If I was 20 years younger........."

That is such a cheesy line for an older guy to use, and will only court derision.

I am 56 and was in the same situation with young rep (early 2wenties) who would call on me at work. We seemed to click really well but I was under no illusion of what she would say if I tried it on. It took three years, until I lost my mind one day and stroked that lovely rounded bottom as she bent over her bag in front of me. She stood up, I was terrified, but all she said was "..is that the best you can do?" Married or not, I was going to have her and I did. We had an ad hoc affair for months. She had no problem with the age gap.

Just be yourself. Don't try chat up lines, try and achieve a little mature sophistication, and best of all, make her laugh and feel relaxed around you.

What have you got to lose.. Your virginity?? HAHA! Only kidding.. Best of luck..

[Goya]

Dear Friends,
Thank you so much for all your wonderful advice. Just to let you know that for time being I am putting the issue aside. I do not think I can go though with it. I am just giving myself a little break. I came to this decision because I think she is more interested to be just a friend. That we are and I guess nothing more. We could have had a nice relationship.

Now a days, if a man steps on the line in the work place, it could be consider harrasment and I do not want that. I will wait for some moment in the future that might or may not come.
Thanks again for all your sincere advice

[Guest]

Faint heart never won fair lady..

Don't give up... work on the relationship you have. Find out what she likes and buy a couple of tickets for something she'd like, then ask her if she'd like to join you as you were given them and have no partner to ask.. get the idea?

Do you reall want to wake up one day much older, and kicking yourself you never took that leap of faith? Go fo it!!

[Goya]

Dear All,
Thank ytou so much for your lovely advices.
I did not proceed and I am glad I did not do it, as she turned out to be selfish and erogant. I am had younger friends but this onewas different and I am glad I did not express any interest. We are now separted from oneanother and I have no regret of not saying anything. I guess time was on my side.
Thank you again

[Guest]

I have come across a lovely young lady half of my age (32:64) in my new job. She complements me and comes to my office with smiles and talks nicely to me. I am attracted to her (who would not).

I am confused and do not know whether or not something can happen between us.

Can you please give me some clue in what I could do to know if she is serious or is having fun with an old man.

I reckon she's probably interested. When I worked in an office as a young temp, I was interested in the boss because he was kind unlike the male staff my age who were complete egotistical wankers. Being a few years later, I wouldn't give any males my own age a second glance because they are morons, dating older men is the way forward.

[Goya]

Dear All,
Thank ytou so much for your lovely advices.
I did not proceed and I am glad I did not do it, as she turned out to be selfish and erogant. I am had younger friends but this onewas different and I am glad I did not express any interest. We are now separted from oneanother and I have no regret of not saying anything. I guess time was on my side.
Thank you again

Dear Guest,
Thank you for your input. Although I am glad that I did not go further with this lady as I explained above, being with a younger person is really a dream. It is easier to adore them and say yes to their wishes, also it is easier to satisfy them sextually ...... I look forward to meeting one if she is willing to spend time with an older person.
Thank you