Affair?

[Denise]

Iam a girl of 23 who lives with my mum. She has been divorced for 11 years now and in that time has had a few bf's. 2 months ago she introduced me to her current bf. I have 2 admit to being impressed. He is 6ft, drop-dead-gorgeous and muscular. As i got to know him i got very jelaous and began to fantasize about him.

He stays over a lot and his bringing a cup of tea into my room in a morning only served to strengthen my feelings for him. A couple of times he brought it in wearing nothing but his underwear., showing off his rippling body. The other week when mum was working nights him and me spent an evening alone. We watched tv, talked, laughed and after larking about got intimite. We kissed and it was the best snog i have ever had! Before long we were making love on the floor. I came time and time again!

Since then we keep having sex at every opportunity. When i am with him i feel no guilt at all but purely love and excitment. But when alone i am racked with guilt. Mum loves him and i feel arwful. The thing is that i love him too and the 17 year age gap between us is nothing. I want to be with him. I can't hurt my mum like this though, Help me.!

[Harry]

Saying don't go there doesn't sound too helpful, but he's a bad lad, if he really cares for your mum he wouldn't be doing this. I'm afraid this is going to result in pain however it turns out.

I think you should get out and find someone else pronto before it all turns nasty. Sorry but that's how it seems to me.

[Jo]

What are you doing??? It's your mother, if he does that to YOUR MOTHER what kind of man is he!!! You must have very little respect for your poor Mum. For crying out loud!

[MissJackie23]

What are you doing??? It's your mother, if he does that to YOUR MOTHER what kind of man is he!!! You must have very little respect for your poor Mum. For crying out loud!

I agree, what the hell are you doing, this will tear you family apart and wreck you relationship with your mother. You have to stop or get out of the house quick! Otherwise you will be in deeper trouble!

Please get out now!

[Fatlisa]

You will end up with nobody if this carries on.

[MissJackie23]

You will end up with nobody if this carries on.

andy your mother will hate you for the rest of your life, christ do what you can and get out of this situation!

[Salli]

Denise, I thought I was pushing it, but you have gone way over the top. Like everyone else says, stop this now. If you don't, I hate to think what will happen. Go out get drunk and screw everyone in sight, but not this guy. You are creating problems that can never be repaired.

[Chas]

I agree, stop it. Everyone will get hurt by what you are doing Denise. But you must be confused. In a different topic a while ago a mum wanted to make love to her son's 'enemy'. a man who bullied him at every opportunity. The advice there, from women, seemed to say 'follow your heart' and take the opportunity to f**k the guy, because she wanted to. Women are very strange with their double standards. I wonder why the women here are not saying follow your heart.

[sharyn]

i think u'll find, if u read that topic again closely, that not all of us told that woman to go for it, personally i said the same as im gonna say here - stop!!!! before u tear ure mums heart out

[Demesha]

your mother will be devastated when she finds out what is going on. and don't think that she won't. he has no respect for you or her because he's very likely having sex with her when he stays over and then turning to you for sex. he must think he's got it made two women in the same house. no matter what though, i doubt that he is worth the destruction of trust that will occur when your mother finds out, and she will. you need to end it now. move out if possible, remove yourself as far from the situation as you can get. show that you respect your mother and yourself.

[SukiSoo]

You say that he has a gorgeous body and is tall and good at sex - how can you love him? You dont once mention his personality, conversations between you two - if physical attrraction is all its about, stop it now. Anyone can be sexy, its the perosn ionside who you fall in love with and not the packaging. He is obviously not a nice person because of what he is doing - I bet he is sleeping with your Mum while all this is going on as well isnt he? He has no decency, loyalty - and if you confess he would do the same to you with someone else. Don't wreck your life for a fling, get down to Ann Summers if you want some excitement! At 23, there are hundreds of nice blokes who would appreaciate you more. You're going to need your Mum a lot in the future, and because of this stupid man you wont have her there. End it, move out, get a new bloke - get him out of your head. And try to get him out of your Mums so that nobody gets hurt too much.

[Eileen]

If you love him then go for it!

[Guest]

If you love him then go for it!

Eileen - you are joking right???

[Eileen]

If you love him then go for it!

Eileen - you are joking right???

No, the man is obvoiusly using her let her go ahead and get what she wants.

[Guest]

Denise, have you called things off yet?
This man is obviously a born cheater, if you where to try and make things work with him I suspect he would cheat on you too; he has already crossed unacceptable boundaries.

At 23 you really should know better, like one of the replies said, you speak of love but not of his personality. You also mention in your original post that you where “very jealous” and I think this is part of the problem. Do you not want your mum to be happy? Can you not cope with slightly less attention from your mum because she has a boyfriend?
If the answer to these questions is no then you need to see a counsellor and work through these feeling, not steal your mum’s chance of happiness and get yourself some attention.
What an insult to her that you are doing this in her own house.

Please, please end this. I know some of the replies may have seemed harsh, but I think people are just trying to impress on you that this situation is not a joke or a game; it’s very serious with very serious consequences.