Ear piercing and boys

[Jenna3]

The custom in my mother's family has always been that each daughter's ears were pierced at age three (my sister and I had our ears pierced by my mother at that age). So when my daughter was three I pierced her ears. Then at age five she "wanted more earrings like Mommy" (I was double pierced in each ear at the time). So I pierced her ears a second time with her three year old brother watching. He had begged for earrings since he could talk.
After thinking about it I really couldn't think of a good reason why he shouldn't have his ears pierced so I pierced both his ears. He has never had any adverse reaction from anyone since as far as anyone outside our family knows "his ears have always been pierced". I believe this is a good age for boys to have their ears pierced if they want it done as it allows an adjustment period prior to beginning school and more than adequate time for healing.
My son is now sixteen and is very much "the jock" (football, basketball, baseball, etc.) and wears earrings 24/7. His girlfiends think he is so cool and purchase earrings for him on special occasions.

[Guest]

The custom in my mother's family has always been that each daughter's ears were pierced at age three (my sister and I had our ears pierced by my mother at that age). So when my daughter was three I pierced her ears. Then at age five she "wanted more earrings like Mommy" (I was double pierced in each ear at the time). So I pierced her ears a second time with her three year old brother watching. He had begged for earrings since he could talk.
After thinking about it I really couldn't think of a good reason why he shouldn't have his ears pierced so I pierced both his ears. He has never had any adverse reaction from anyone since as far as anyone outside our family knows "his ears have always been pierced". I believe this is a good age for boys to have their ears pierced if they want it done as it allows an adjustment period prior to beginning school and more than adequate time for healing.
My son is now sixteen and is very much "the jock" (football, basketball, baseball, etc.) and wears earrings 24/7. His girlfiends think he is so cool and purchase earrings for him on special occasions.

WHAT A LOAD OF S***, THIS POST IS BY JULIE H, YOU CAN TELL BY THE "So I pierced her ears a second time with her three year old brother watching. He had begged for earrings since he could talk."
QUOTE, ITS JUST SO CRAP...THE SAD THING IS JULIE H IS OBVIOUSLY A MAN ACTING OUT HIS FANTASYS ON HERE BECAUSE A WOMAN HAS BETTER THINGS TO DO.

[Guest]

Men have fantasies about piercing ears too? That's pretty pathetic, isn't it?

[GP]

Many men have both fantisies and desires about piercing ears, but there is nothing pathetic about it. Some men act on the desire and have their ears pierced while others only fantasize about it. Of course there are some men who would have their ears pierced except that it would be detrimental to their job or their wife would be horrified by it. Just as young girls want to have their ears pierced and wear earrings like their mothers, as young boys see their fathers wearing earrings they are going to ask to have thier ears pierced so they can wear earrings "like Daddy does."

[Guest]

gp is julie h or maybe gulie p

[Guest]

wow people have been busy on this forum.

[The Colonel]

The custom in my mother's family has always been that each daughter's ears were pierced at age three (my sister and I had our ears pierced by my mother at that age). So when my daughter was three I pierced her ears. Then at age five she "wanted more earrings like Mommy" (I was double pierced in each ear at the time). So I pierced her ears a second time with her three year old brother watching. He had begged for earrings since he could talk.
After thinking about it I really couldn't think of a good reason why he shouldn't have his ears pierced so I pierced both his ears. He has never had any adverse reaction from anyone since as far as anyone outside our family knows "his ears have always been pierced". I believe this is a good age for boys to have their ears pierced if they want it done as it allows an adjustment period prior to beginning school and more than adequate time for healing.
My son is now sixteen and is very much "the jock" (football, basketball, baseball, etc.) and wears earrings 24/7. His girlfiends think he is so cool and purchase earrings for him on special occasions.

WHAT A LOAD OF S***, THIS POST IS BY JULIE H, YOU CAN TELL BY THE "So I pierced her ears a second time with her three year old brother watching. He had begged for earrings since he could talk."
QUOTE, ITS JUST SO CRAP...THE SAD THING IS JULIE H IS OBVIOUSLY A MAN ACTING OUT HIS FANTASYS ON HERE BECAUSE A WOMAN HAS BETTER THINGS TO DO.

True, it doesn't add up really.

For a start, it looks like the poster is trying to be American (mentioning baseball and basketball) but fails when they write "football" as it isn't known as that in most cases.

If the boy is 16 then he would be almost the same age as my second son, and I can certainly say that very few boys had it done at all at the time she is claiming - and certainly not both ears!

And on top of that, as the guest points out - it stinks of Julie H/McMum/Mary24. She is the only person here who wants her children to look like they had an accident in a nail factory, and that's how the guest and I can sniff this poster out as Julie H!

[cheetos905]

hey everyone
whats your opinon of a guy with an industrial in the left ear and boths lobes done? i ahd this doen recently and im wondering what everyone thinks. thanks supportive feedback is greatly appreciated.

[Pierced Guy]

hey everyone
whats your opinon of a guy with an industrial in the left ear and boths lobes done? i ahd this doen recently and im wondering what everyone thinks. thanks supportive feedback is greatly appreciated.

It depends on how old you are. I have seen guys with industrials and they have always had some lobe piercings. As long as you are in your late teens or older, get whatever you think looks good on you.

[Lewi-D]

I thought Dane asked for all mention of JulieH etc etc. should be banished from this thread -

we see enough accusations already on the previous thread. One has to wade though page after page of quotes and irrelevant comments.


Just for the record - I don't have my ears pierced - too much comment from my family - no sisters to compare against and now neighbours know me without earrrings. I do agree with Louise (of Claires) that children should be pierced age 4 or 5. Once it is normal there is nothing to point at and jeer because near enough everyone is pierced.

[azraelle]

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[cheetos905]

just to answer our question. I am sixteen and live in the bay area, california, usa. its been a week and day since i got the industrial done and love it thanks for your comment. btw, ive seen guys with only industrials and no lobe piercings but its more common the way you put it. anyone else got any recent stories about ear piercing?

[The Colonel]

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Understood - but I'm not clear on what message you are trying to convey to me?

[azraelle]

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Understood - but I'm not clear on what message you are trying to convey to me?

I guess it would be that had it not been for people with male-female prejudices like you so proudly proclaim (even though you seem so open-minded to other, arguably related, ideas), and my sensitivities to the feelings and prejudices of those around me, I would have had it done when I was 25 or 30. Not your fault--definitely my own--it still torques me off that it took me 55 years to get to a point where I can live with what others may, or may not think, and not let it bother me too much. You seem to still be working on it.

[The Colonel]

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Understood - but I'm not clear on what message you are trying to convey to me?

I guess it would be that had it not been for people with male-female prejudices like you so proudly proclaim (even though you seem so open-minded to other, arguably related, ideas), and my sensitivities to the feelings and prejudices of those around me, I would have had it done when I was 25 or 30. Not your fault--definitely my own--it still torques me off that it took me 55 years to get to a point where I can live with what others may, or may not think, and not let it bother me too much. You seem to still be working on it.

I find this quite interesting.

I think to say I have "male-female" prejudices is rather harsh. I am open-minded about many things, but everything has a limit, and I must draw the line somewhere. I do believe the line I draw is much further on than most people's! For example, I am not a sexist. I do not believe a woman's place is "in the home", or that it is a woman's primary (automatic) responsibility for childcare, cooking, cleaning etc. I am not opposed to a man taking on those roles - and I do - even if it is not (historically and/or presently) the "norm".

However, I cannot accept males wearing dresses (or other female attire), make up and nail polish. For me, that crosses the line. It's not to do with prejudice - it's to do with what I strongly believe to be unnacceptable. I have posted my reasoning on this before, and why for example, it is acceptable for females to dress in male attire but not the reverse. I believe the sociological basis to be rooted in capitalism. (I will not develop that further here, it is not the place).

However, you might be unaware that my four eldest boys all have a pierced ear (one of them ears, plural). Therefore, I am not closed-minded or unsympathetic to changing societal norms, fashion trends etc. Now, while I do agree that it is important what others think of my children (mostly those in authority, teachers for example), I am not worried to the extent that some individuality and self-expression can (and I think should) be shown by my children. I haven't in the past (referring to my eldest two, who are no longer at school) even enforced their uniform regulations. However, in case I may be accused of sloppy parenting, I believe it not only provides them with the chance to be a bit more "themselves", but also that the responsibility resides with them at the decision making level and with any consequences. Usually it was a non-regulation form of footwear that was the issue.

I believe I provide my children with reasonable limits to express themselves within - and in contrast to my father - I know I do. They can choose their clothing, their hairstyles, some items of jewellery, and how they wish to "much around" with friends (by that I mean, party's, activities etc - although naturally I specify within the law). Some of this at times has met with my personal disapproval, but I have not mentioned it. The best example of this I can give is when my eldest son a very short while ago dyed his hair blond. Fortunately it didn't look silly, but I didn't think it suited him. However, he is entitled to express himself and especially with his age he must make his own decisions.

So, I am slightly confused about your statement of "male-female prejudice". I do not feel I have any, at least to a great extent.