I'm bringing my H2B home for the 1st time. We have decided to get married and I plan to tell my parents when we visit them for Easter. The problem is that my mum has already formed a firm opinion about my bf without having met him- she hates him.
Her reason for hating him is:
He is a musician and therefore will not have earning potential. She told me that she has always dreamed of me living like a princess and she wants me to marry a City Wizz with supreme education. She said, she spent 1000s of pound for my education and raised me for the "good life" I date a penniless bum?"
Iattended public school, went to boarding school, finishing college. I am now studying to be a lawyer. I know it sounds bad but I am not a spoiled brat and am not materialistic.
I tried to convince her that he is an awesome person. When I told her how smart he is, he reads my textbooks for fun, she said, it's not the kind of smart that counts! I told her how understanding, accomodating and loving he is, she says, he has to be, I'm too good for him and he knows it."
I don't know what to do. It breaks my heart to hear these things but I also know that she means well. She said that she doesn't want me to worry about basic necessities in life and she wants me to be able to afford things I want such as a house, car, holidays, etc.
Am I being naive? is she right? I love this guy and he is everything I ever wanted in a man. The only flaw is (if it is a flaw), he doesn't have a real job besides part time tutoring and he doesn't know what to do in terms of making money.
Please help. Both perspectives of parents and daughters would be much appreciated.
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