mother in law problems

[Guest]

I have a real problem with my boyfriends mom! She's always in our face! when i go to the house she waits for him to go out the room and is really quite nasty with me ,when i tell him he never believes me and he ends up going back home.

he pays for everything in the house and i dont think he'll ever move out. He gets everything done for him.he basically gets run around after anything he asks for gets put at the side of him and he doesnt have to move!

Any clothes i have brought for him for presents have all got ruined somehow, i really dont think i can go on with th relationship i feel like she hates me because one day i'll take her little boy away.

[Sandy]

Could be very true, plus you have a boyfriend that does not seem to fend for himself, but when his mother gives him everything he wants and doesn’t allow him to be his own person then he as not reason to either.
But at the same time, he should still take some pride in wanting to contribute and be capable at things.

The thing is that it will create problems for you both, if you did get a place together do you really think he’d be able to do the basics?
I think the mother does resent you. I don’t know what you can do except ask her why she is always so unfriendly to you, sometimes an outright question is what it needed.

Best of luck

[Guest]

That's very true. Plus the other thing that will be very hard when we move in together is he always pays for everything in his household so who knows what will happen if we had our own place whether our bills would get left.

I really love him very much but i dont think it will work out for us.He's always been very cool with me, he's one of these who never contacts me and does his own thing to much. But i spose if he has his mother doing so much for him then there is no need for a girlfriend.

[Noddy]

Be very careful, if your partner will not defend you from their respective relatives you are in for years of misery. This is a problem that must be solved up front.

[Bishette]

i'm very sorry, but i feel if he can't (or won't) see any problems with his mother's behaviour, and in fact allows it to continue, and cannot show you any support or at least believe you, then i can't see that its gonna change any time soon.
maybe he feels responsible for his mother, seeing as how he pays for everything, but honestly if he's not willing or able to stand on his own two feet and encourage her to do the same then i don't see any hope for you.
being so deep in his mother's thrall i don't think it's likely any woman could outdazzle her.

[Guest]

He's been trained to be helpless by his mum.

Why is it that women are so controlling and then have the nerve to say that men dominate?

And women dominate and screw up other women too.

[Noddy]

Big Problem!

I know how bad this really can turn out. My MIL has done everything to poison our marriage and unfortunately the PIL has played the game as well.

It is now about 14 years that my MIL has effectively never ever spoken to me. Even when I used to go -I am always the third person, that is, does "he" want if mentioned at all. Better still, my wife is still blind to the fact that it is her mother that wants to poison our marriage.

So, it becomes my "problem". Very important to get professional advice right up front in these cases other wise there is no hope.

My MIL screams abuse at me whenever my wife is out of the room. Sometimes it is even set up, the wife is sent out the room to ring the Aunty or do some chore and then the abuse starts.

WATCH OUT BIG TIME!!!! ESPEIALLY WHEN IT IS DONE AS AN HIDDEN AGENDA!!!

[lorij]

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