Question regarding Lesbian Fantasies

[Straight Male]

Okay,

First off, I am going to say that I am a 20-year-old man who lives in NYC. Also, I have respect for anyone and their decisions (even if I do not personally agree with them).

I totally agree with the girl who said:

“[Sapphic desire] stems from being surrounded by a culture of
advertising/pornography/films and TV that fetishises the female form.”

I agree with this because environment definitely has a powerful impact on our development. We learn from picking up cues from our physical environment, and one that is currently saturated with sexuality, especially lesbian sexuality. Also, in ancient Greece, the male body was seen in a more sexual light and, therefore, homosexuality between men was encouraged. Very different from today!!

I, personally, like watching lesbian porn (But I'm a male). But the idea of my girlfriend getting off to lesbian porn upsets me. I wouldn’t mind her being attracted to other guys, but with other girls it bothers me. Also, I am talking about internal desires, not cheating (which I disapprove of).

It bothers me because I feel that if my girlfriend finds women more attractive, then she would enjoy sex with a female more and, therefore, I am not totally fulfilling her sexual needs. Also, I know that most women enjoy oral sex more than sexual intercourse, and I am proud to say that I am a pro in this field. Many sensitive men who care about pleasing their women have studied the art of pleasuring the g-spot and how to give great cunnilingus, so why would women say something like:

“You guys are just amateurs when it comes to giving us real deep
intense pleasure.”

NOW FOR MY QUESTION:
If you were truly a straight woman, then why, would you enjoy watching girls more than guys? I understand getting turned on by watching girls, but what bothers me is that you all say you enjoy it MORE than men. Is it true that straight women find women more attractive, and if so, what makes you straight? What is it about guys that turns you on and prevents you from putting a pink triangle on your sleeve?

Any honest help would greatly be appreciated!
Thanks you and good luck with any decisions you make!
Straight guy.

P.S. Do women find a vagina more attractive than a penis? Another curiosity I have.[/i][/u]

[Straight Male]

Can someone post? Anyone feel like helping or shedding some light on this topic?

[ans for SM]

Can someone post? Anyone feel like helping or shedding some light on this topic?

wow... he waited a whole 27 minutes...

maybe women like women because women are more patient

[Janet]

I agree with The guest. I happen to enjoy the gentilness of a woman and soft lips and body. My husband seems to understand that!

[Straight Male]

More patient....hehe

I posted, because I was on my way to 2 classes! I was in a bit of a hurry, sorry to post again so soon...I just saw that around 20 people read it, but no one had posted a reply.

Thanks for the reply Janet! Since you are married, it is interesting to hear your response. I just want to know: do you find the appearance of a female sexier than your husband?


Also, this is a bit off topic, but I don't agree with people who say that a woman having sex with another woman isn't cheating. What if your boyfriend or husband slept with another man? Wouldn't that be cheating?

[Daviemac]

From a guys bluntted point of view I'm going to tell you what u may already suspect, Could you're wife be gay?
If this is the case (she is truly gay) then no man (including you) is going to be able to satisfy her urges.

Obviously you know her more than me(!) but you might just wanna look out for that!
Let me know how it goes,

Davie Mac

[Janet]

Straight male. I love my husband very much. No I dont find the appearance of a female sexier. But there are times when I feel the need of a woman and I will get more pleasure out of it. But I do enjoy my husband. You can always PM me if you would like.

[straight lesbian]

Some women like watchin lesbian sex bcoz there is lot of licking shown, and as u kno..women love being licked

its hard to find men licking women on the internet..usually lots of non lesbian sites just show blow jobs...which can be boring sometimes for a female to watch...

[Capricorn2005]

Well I wouldn't think anything of it. I am in a committed straight relationship and lesbian porn is better than regular straight porn. Why?? Well because I know that women know what other women want, it's the whole care and nurturing aspect of it all, plus who's know's a girls vagina better than another girl, and who would know all the spots better than a girl? Not saying I would prefer to have a girl go down on me either. Cause my man is great, I tell him and he knows what to do visa versa. I just know when I watch lesbian porn that's it's more "real". I can tell they enjoy eachother and that's what gets me turned on, the fact that it's real and they are both enjoying themselves. When I watch straight porn, alot of the time, it's just seems like the girl is more in pain, cause the guy doesn't take the time to pleasure her, so what's exciting about some guy only getting himself off (you can tell when it's real by the lubrication of the girl)? With girls it just seems more mutual. You can think I'm bisexual, or she may have lesbian tendencies, but my man is all I need, and he is very attentive and if he was anything like the guys on "staight" porn, we wouldn't be together. Hope that helps. I wouldn't worry, she's with you for a reason and you should be honored that she is open enough to watch porn with you and tell you how she really feels, cause that's the start of a good sexual relationship, knowing what the other wants and likes.

[Susie from London]

Why is everyone so obsessed with this straight/gay/bisexual question.

I'm a married woman who also enjoys sex with females. I don't think that makes me gay or even (perhaps) bi. Its a matter of sexual pleasure that's all.

Asking if I prefer having sex with men or women is like asking whether I prefer gin & tonic or rasperies & cream. You aren't comparing like with like.