my son found my vibrator

[Isla]

I came home from work the other evening to this buzzing sound and when I went upstairs my son is playing with my vibrator. I nearly died and told him to get out and leave my things alone, he is 15 I live by myself and now I feel so uncomfortable about him finding it I dont know what to say and I cant use it cause I think he will be listening out for it

[Louise43]

You shouldnt be in the slightest bit embarrassed. You just need to talk with him and make it clear that he should not be snooping around and invading your privacy. Tell him that you do not snoop around his room and respect his privacy.

Be open with him and dont be afraid to disuss masturbation with him. It is more than likely that he also masturbates too, probably more than you imagine. Explain to him that you also have sexual needs and that you are entitled to privacy when you pleasure yourself. If you are both comfortable and open about sex, him hearing you using your vibrator once and a while should be no problem at all.

Lighten up and continue to to enjoy your vibrator. masturbation is a wonderful gift and being open about it will make you both feel far more comfortable about it.

LOL

Louise

[Isle]

Thanks for that Louise43 you have made me feel loads better I will try and have a talk to him over the weekend. Cheers

[Leana]

It should be him who feel awkward, he should never have been in your bedroom in the first place and shouldnt be going through your personal things.

[chocolate chip]

Definitely have a word with him about it. The sooner you discuss it, the sooner you will feel at ease.

The talk probably won't be that bad. From his reaction to finding it - him staying in your room and mucking about with it - I would say he isn't as grossed out by the idea of you having a vibrator as most kids would be. I think a more expected reaction would have been for your son to have been disgusted, thus putting it back where he found it right away.

The only embarrasment (and needless to say regret) that he probably has, is due you finding him with it!

You must let him know that he shouldn't invade your privacy. You don't want him taking liberties again. But as for the whole fiasco... don't worry about it. Put it out of your mind, as he probably will be as well.