CYBER SEX...

[chick]

Hi everyone,

Has anyone on this forum ever had cyber sex?

I am happily married and yet I did this for the fist time the other day and now feel guilty as if I have cheeted on my husband. I would never have an affair for real as I love him dearly but the cyber sex was very erotic and exciting.!!!!

Let me know your feelings on the subject.

[angelbabe]

I think it's a form of cheating IMO but a male friend on the net he see's no harm, is happily married and wouldn't mind his wife doing it

How would you feel if your husband was doing it? This is not a getting at you question just would you be happy with it or would there be hell up?

[camfman]

Hi Chick

I regard the cybersex bit as pornography that stimulates the mind. In your own privacy, you can explore your own sexuality, indulge in fantasies and express yourself freely. It can be a bloody good tool for masterbation.
Personally, if considered in this way, I really don't see it being any more harmful to a relationship than .... say..... the guy watching porn.

Now I can imagine many people finding that unacceptable within a relationship but I don't. What I would consider unacceptable is when the 'activities' interfere with the 'real' relationship.........ie.....tiredness due to late nights _ or a guy neglecting his wifes desires to stay up and look at porn. I cannot understand anyone who would turn down the chance of 'good' sex for the fantasy bit - (note the 'good')

I have done the cybersex bit quite a few times but with very few women - though not for a while now. For me there has to be a real sense of chemistry and passion. As a result, I have had many mind blowing experiences which have kept me aching with raw passion right through the night until 5.....6 am!!!

As it happens, I am married but......the 'good' sex is not an option.....infact bad sex is not an option either so I find I have to make do with what's left......(until our separation is final..LOL)

??...Looks like I'm wandering off the subject here....Sod it! I'm tired.

I wouldn't feel guilty about the cybersex .....it's a case of 'Where do you draw the line'?.......How late?......How often?....Does it leave you disappointed / annoyed with your parnter???
And what about Phonesex?......as well as......meeting that incredibly passionate lover?

If you're happy with your boundaries then go ahead and enjoy yourself!
Consider it a treat.....a Cadbury moment!!.......LOL

Have fun anyway.

X

[bella]

Camfman l agree with you...

And it definately is a 'Cadbury' moment...!!

[ronnie2004]

Hi Chick,

I have tried cybersex from time to time and I too found it really erotic and exciting.
I don't like to think of it as cheating and I think I would like it if my wife tried it too.
There have been times that I have been so aroused by _ sex and roleplaying that I have gone to bed and had rally passionate lovemaking with my wife.

[little^goth^girl]

Cyber sex is great!!! I totally get off on it coz u can imagine what the guy's dick looks like and how it feels.. mmmm...

[ronnie2004]

Has anyone ever pretended to be something that they are not in cyber sex eg someone of the opposite gender or prentending to be gay?

[hi_there]

Has anyone ever pretended to be something that they are not in cyber sex eg someone of the opposite gender or prentending to be gay?

Yes, I'm male and thought it would be funny to pretend to be a girl. Turned out that I found the guys to be shockingly abusive verbally, self-centered, and posessed of poor communication skills - not to mention BORING (I ended up doing most of the typing while they occasionaly interjected with orders and calling me names!) I'm not sure what would be in it for a female unless she happened to connect with someone a little more giving.

Oh and incidentally, I'm all for my girl flirting _ or not, don't see any harm in it at all. Whatever makes her happy.

[JoanneNYC]

I have had cyber sex several times too. Although there is mental intimacy its a way to get off on a fantasy without the physical connection. You can pretend to do things you really wouldn't do (for me, lesbianism, threesomes, S/M). I have done it late at night when my husband was asleep and I was feeling horny. One nite I simply put o my 4-inch F*** me heels and chatted _. I couldn't keep my hands off myself. Don't worry, I'd always get my hubby the next nite...

[leasam]

Now I can imagine many people finding that unacceptable within a relationship but I don't. What I would consider unacceptable is when the 'activities' interfere with the 'real' relationship.........ie.....tiredness due to late nights _ or a guy neglecting his wifes desires to stay up and look at porn.

this is sooo true.

now ive never really experienced cyber sex, i think i'd feel like i'd cheated because another man/woman would have turned me on and i'd have had an orgasm because of the other person, and then for me not to want to tell my partner, i'd be feeling guilty, why???? because i'd had a sexual experience with someone other than him!!!!

i think the difference between a porn film clip video etc is that you dont interact with the person you can see them, but you cant tell them what to do, you cant do what they ask for etc etc,
is cyber sex classed as not cheating because there's no physical contact????

i dont think theres anything wrong if your both happy doing it, if your othert half knows you do it and is ok with it, but if you feel guilty now, why is that, what would your husband say if you did tell him???? if you know that he'd be pissed off and angry and upset then you have to think again about it otherwise each time you will feel like you've cheated, if he's ok with it then go for it, get as much as you can........... and good luck

[Lola]

Has anyone ever pretended to be something that they are not in cyber sex eg someone of the opposite gender or prentending to be gay?

No,but i was mistaken for a guy once or twice,when chatting with bi women.How mad is that ! I think it has to do with me having a very direct sexual attitude.They thought i was a man pretending to be a woman ! lol

[ronnie2004]

Has anyone ever pretended to be something that they are not in cyber sex eg someone of the opposite gender or prentending to be gay?

No,but i was mistaken for a guy once or twice,when chatting with bi women.How mad is that ! I think it has to do with me having a very direct sexual attitude.They thought i was a man pretending to be a woman ! lol

They can be very suspicious some of those women in lesbian and bi chat rooms, lol.

[Lola]

Has anyone ever pretended to be something that they are not in cyber sex eg someone of the opposite gender or prentending to be gay?

No,but i was mistaken for a guy once or twice,when chatting with bi women.How mad is that ! I think it has to do with me having a very direct sexual attitude.They thought i was a man pretending to be a woman ! lol

They can be very suspicious some of those women in lesbian and bi chat rooms, lol.

I don't doubt that men pretend they are bisexual or lesbian women (to fulfil kinky desires etc) but to accuse a woman of being a man ? HA HA

[ronnie2004]

I don't doubt that men pretend they are bisexual or lesbian women (to fulfil kinky desires etc) but to accuse a woman of being a man ? HA HA [/quote]

Do any women go in to chat rooms and pretend to be men?

[Reger]

Is just completely stupid- get a grip

and do yourself a favour and dont do it again,
you wouldnt like your man W**nking over some woman off the net with a sexy story , or what he/she would like to do. Or if she was more attractive than you or was easy to talk too as well...

some people !