by grinforgrin » Wed Dec 29, 2004 8:17 pm
True Vaginal orgasms were kinda invented by Freud, and he isn't (and wasn't) the world's foremost expert on anatomy. Many movies help perpetuate this myth by showing limited foreplay, and then a wonderful (read unlikely) simultaneous orgasm from penetration alone. While some people may experience this from time to time, it's really not the norm.
Extended foreplay (I reccomend 30 mins to an hour, or more!), clitoral stimulation (either with the fingers, mouth or a position that provides significant clitoral stimulation), and G-spot stimulation are all excellent ways to bring a woman to orgasm. Note: the G-spot (according to some sources) is not present in all women, normally it presents as an area of slightly raised bumps on the upper wall of the vagina (when the woman is lying on her back). Caressing and/or pressing on this area is enjoyed by many women.
If you're really feeling adventurous, try for the A spot. It's even further along the upper wall of the vagina, almost to the cervix. You'll need long agile fingers, a long sex toy, and/or a long penis that you know how to use to hit this spot. A partner who I found the A-spot with said it was like I was putting a finger into her soul. Needless to say I visited this spot whenever the situation presented itself.
You can stimulate the lower ends of the clitorus from within the vagina, as the nub that you can see/feel when the woman is aroused is only a small part of the entire organ. Where the nub joins the rest of the body, it angles down and splits into two arms, which straddle the vagina. Thus gentle thrusting towards/along the upper wall of the vagina (upper wall if she is lying on her back) can put pressure on the lower ends of the clitorus and provide pleasure. The first third of the vagina has a very large number of pleasure nerve endings, which are stimulated during penetration. Girth rather than length is your friend when stimulating this area, although a circular motion can help you to take full advantage of the nerves in this area. A regular in-out motion should only be a starting point if you want to please your woman.
Here endeth the lesson.