Mistletoe

[Miserable Christmas]

I have been married for 9 years and we have two great kids. My wife has always been the focus of my attention and I provide as best I can.

We had a chritmas party and several neighbours came, along with a lot of family members from both sides. At one point in the evening I found my wife under the mistletoe with a neighbour. They were in a deep and passionate kiss that she made no attempt to break free from even after a minute. He was clearly touching her up and she had her arms wrapped around his neck, rubbing her breasts against him.

I tried to break it up with humour but as the evening went on she escalted it into a row and I seemed to get the blame. I had no sense of humour it seems. I should have expected a bit of light play at christmas it seems. I am a spoilsport it seems. Now, I don't kiss like I should it seems.

I am distraught and she says I am just too sensitive and should get over it.

I am sure she would have been very angry if I had passionately kissed and groped a woman neighbour but she seems to think that she can and I should see it for what it is - a bit of fun. She is making out it doesn't mean anything and refuses to see how hurtful it was.

WHATS THE MATTER WITH WOMEN THESE DAYS. ARE MEN'S FEELINGS JUST SO MUCH OF NOTHING TO THEM.

[ali_mon_x]

God, the cheek of it...that is truly shocking behaviour, she sounds awful!

[Raymond-Bergman]

God, the cheek of it...that is truly shocking behaviour, she sounds awful!

get rid

[firefly]

I think you should sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her it hurt you to see her kissing someone else, and say that it hurt you because you love her.

Try to keep it all calm if you can. I don't think it's grounds for a divorce, but you need to talk it over as adults. She needs to understand that that sort of behaviour is not acceptable, at any time of year.

Maybe you did overreact at the time, which could have caused the argument, but maybe she should try and understand that you only reacted in that way because you love her.

Try and get her to see that if you hadn't reacted at all, then it might have seemed like you didn't care about what she did, and that sounds like a far worse relationship to be in.

[23MissJackie23]

talk it over is the best policy otherwise you will have guilt on your mind one way or the other

[Sickofit]

Talk it over calmly, yes. But hold off saying he will feel guilty otherwise. Its SHE who should feel guilty, but she is passing it onto him. This is a typical female ploy. Make him the guilty party.

Firefly has the sound rationale. The wife has to understand that she just can't do that sort of thing and just ignore the hurt she causes. It is grossly disrespectful, unloving and false but so common these days. Women seem to have bought the malicious arguement that men have no feelings and that women can do what they want with impunity.

[Guest]

Christmas before last my wife had sex upstairs at a party with a man she had just met an hour before. Another guest told me she had seen her going into a room with him. I went up and found them in the middle of it. She had her dress up and her panties off and he was f*cking her on a bed. She just carried on even though I was telling her to stop and screamed at me to get out.

It broke up our marriage of course, but the really bad thing was she tried to make out it was my fault. She 'couldn't help it'. I 'should have stopped it'. I 'should have paid more attention to her'.

We had been married for 11 years and had never had a cross word or fight about anything. I was always attentive. She took the children and everything she could. I lost my house and home. For what? A quick, dirty f*ck with a stranger.

I have lost all faith in marriage and women.