My Boyfriend Hates my Best Friend

[Skylar2012]

I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 ½ years now. About 6 months ago I met this guy and we just really clicked and became close friends quickly. It is just that we have so much in common and get along great. We have fun just hanging out together. The only problem is that my boyfriend really cant stand this guy. I do make a lot of time for my boyfriend so he doesn’t feel left out cause I’m hanging out with my best friend. But it has gotten to the point that whenever I mention my best friends name even my boyfriend gets all mad and we end up getting in a fight. I don’t really know what to do about this any advise? I don’t want to lose the relationship that I have with either of them.

[StraightMale]

I have yet to know of a case where a situation like yours can work. If your boyfriend isn't your best friend then you have the wrong boyfriend or the wrong attitude in not making him your best friend. Your best friend will almost certainly have designs on you and your boyfriend is justifiably jealous.

[Skylar2012]

My boyfriend is my best friend, but you have to have another best friend too I think. I understand being jealous, but nothing is going on with me and my best friend who I don’t spend much time with at all. So I don’t see why it is such a big deal all the time.

[cowgirl2]

In that case I would just make sure that my boyfriend knows for sure that nothing is going on and that I only care about him. If that does not work than I would either stop hanging out with my friend as much or tell my boyfriend that I still want to hang out with the friend and hope that he could understand and that everything would be fine with that. If your bf cant help but to be jealous you have to think if the friendship is really worth losing a good relationship over. If your man is too jealous maybe you can talk to him..it depends, is it just this friend or is it any guy that you are friends with? If that bothers you a lot maybe its time to move on. Hope this helps.