porn makes my husband more excited than I ever did

[jewelcatme]

Hi there,
i have a little problem.As I don't have somebody to ask,I decided to come and tell my problem here,hoping somebody will explain me.
Last week I learned that my husband gets much much more excited from porn,that from me. That made me upset.I know that i'm not so pretty as other girls,but I want to be the only girl that turns my husband on. I know it sounds very selfish. I try to do everything to satisfy my husband,but I never seen him so excited as the other night Why do men get excited from porn?

[Noliving]

I have one question is he always this excited everytime he watches porn?

I'm a guy myself and sometimes we get really excited if we see a position that we didn't think you could physically do or was impossible. Or it could be that he really wants to try that position now with you.

I would ask your husband "why" he was so excited from watching the porno.

[Susie from London]

I don't think this is unusual and psycologists can probably tell you exactly why men and women react like this. Basically we are all to a greater or lesser extent turned on by watching others engaged in sex, whether this is in the flesh, on screen, in print or even words on the page. Every sex therapist will tell you that the human mind is the best sex organ there is.

If he enjoys in and it helps him get excited and have better sex with you then that's great. Watch it with him, tell him it turns you on, and make sure that these porn episodes are shared and mutally satisfying experiences. If he watches itg on his own then that's different, though it might be he is embarrased to watch it with you - so reassure him.

[Donny]

He gets excited because he looks at precisely what trips his trigger, fat girls, skinny, teens, or grannies, whatever. If just regular girls, no real girl can ever measure up to his "perfect" girl, in body, actions, attitude, etc. So sad when men would ignore a live woman to turn to an "image" and masturbate

[Donny]

BTW, you should Google this. There must be numerpous websites with pros to give their various opinions. why would you aks us rank amatures?? We can only give limited personal experience.

[thehusband]

I love my wife very much and there is really nobody else for me that can compete with her.
I do not understand why i get exited from seeing porn.
For this reason i really do not want to watch it.
I love my wife a lot and i do not want to get exited from something else then her.
Is this strange ??
Anyway is there somebody else with this same problem ?

[jewelcat]

I have one question is he always this excited everytime he watches porn?

I'm a guy myself and sometimes we get really excited if we see a position that we didn't think you could physically do or was impossible. Or it could be that he really wants to try that position now with you.

I would ask your husband "why" he was so excited from watching the porno.

Hi there,
i don't think it's the positions in porn that makes him excited,because there aren't any new positions for us.I mean that we do all the positions that we know or see.
I asked him why he ws getting excited ,but he couldn't answer. He said he didn't know.

[jewelcat]

I have one question is he always this excited everytime he watches porn?

I'm a guy myself and sometimes we get really excited if we see a position that we didn't think you could physically do or was impossible. Or it could be that he really wants to try that position now with you.

I would ask your husband "why" he was so excited from watching the porno.

About if he's getting excited everytime when watching porn,YES he does. He sais he doesn't want to see it,because he doesn't like it and there's nothing special about it. I guess he doesn't want me to feel bad or something. But i decided( few times) to prove myself that porn isn't something that does nothing to him(I hope you understand me )

[jewelcat]

I don't think this is unusual and psycologists can probably tell you exactly why men and women react like this. Basically we are all to a greater or lesser extent turned on by watching others engaged in sex, whether this is in the flesh, on screen, in print or even words on the page. Every sex therapist will tell you that the human mind is the best sex organ there is.

If he enjoys in and it helps him get excited and have better sex with you then that's great. Watch it with him, tell him it turns you on, and make sure that these porn episodes are shared and mutally satisfying experiences. If he watches itg on his own then that's different, though it might be he is embarrased to watch it with you - so reassure him.

Hi,
I know this is not something unusual,but it ever happened to me and any of the guys I dated before. I don't really know if he's enjoying it or not.He sais he tries not to get excited,but he just can't help it. When we have sex after,we don't have a better sex than the usual,he just finishes quicker. That doesn't make me feel very glad, 'cause I feel like he's releaving it on me.I don't know if he still sees that pictures in his mind while doing it with me,I guess he's the only one to know that.
Abot me,porn really doesn't turn me on. Maybe I was thinking that if we look together,we'll get both excited and have a really great sex after,but porn just doesn't turn me on.
He doesn't watch it on his own,not that I'm aware of.

[jewelcat]

:) BTW, you should Google this. There must be numerpous websites with pros to give their various opinions. why would you aks us rank amatures?? We can only give limited personal experience.

Hi,
I already tried in google,but I couldn't find what I was looking for(I guess I'm very bad at searching). I think personal opinions will help me more,than somebody else that have just studied about it without having really experienced it.

[jewelcat]

I asked him if he was ever excited when watching porn before he met me and started having sex.He said no. Would somebody explain me why this could be?

[mostirreverent]

the psychogenic erection, which is achieved by erotic stimuli and is linked to the limbic system of the brain (brain stem/animal brain). Neural signals originating in the limbic system of the brain are transmitted through spinal cord to the thoracolumbar erection center in the spine. Psychogenic erection is associated with either fantasy or viewing erotic material.
Stimulation of S4-5 sends parasympathetic signals to the penis and leads to reflex erection. Buta bing!


Read this thread: http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/viewtopic.php?t=14804&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

[mostirreverent]

I asked him if he was ever excited when watching porn before he met me and started having sex.He said no. Would somebody explain me why this could be?

you may have made him more comfortable with his own sexuality

[Lola]

the psychogenic erection, which is achieved by erotic stimuli and is linked to the limbic system of the brain (brain stem/animal brain). Neural signals originating in the limbic system of the brain are transmitted through spinal cord to the thoracolumbar erection center in the spine. Psychogenic erection is associated with either fantasy or viewing erotic material.
Stimulation of S4-5 sends parasympathetic signals to the penis and leads to reflex erection. Buta bing!


Read this thread: http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/viewtopic.php?t=14804&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

Yeah,i would think viewing naked bodies automatically arouses (only naked bodies that have certain attributes we find attractive,of course) and also talking from a female (who enjoys porn) point of view.
There are so many sides to porn,it can be a boredom filler or the secret want to have sex with other women/men,there is no one point of view.

Can't offer any other advice here,as i don't relate to the not wanting sex as much as men aspect.

[spikeheelhoney]

You think this is odd?

My boyfriend gets a huge hard on watching me get my car stuck in mud and spinning my wheels trying to get out. If I get SO stuck I can't get out we usually have fantastic sex there and then.

HE says it's something to do with "damsel in distress" and loving my feet in high heels on the pedals. He also gets turned on by seeing other women getting stuck - but he only wants to have sex with me.

I have also read that a woman in a powerful car is a symbol of domination - but when she is stuck, helplessly spinning her wheels - it is akin to a kind of impotence - or her power being taken away, leaving her in a vulnerable or submissive situation.

Maybe his turn on - watching me - again is not unlike someone watching others having sex.

It's not because he doesn't love me - or not like my body (what's not to like?!?!!) - it's just one of those things that gets him really horny.