do men mind stretch marks? 18 year old needs to kn

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Postby Nissala on Tue Feb 15, 2005 9:24 pm

I had my first child at 16 and have had stretch marks ever since. I am now 41 but keep in good shape and have never had a man say anything about them except its a beautiful part of me. I think men are more accepting than women... accept your body as it is.. beautiful... :wink:

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Postby ex-nightclub-doorman on Wed Feb 16, 2005 10:40 am

hel girl,if a guy doesn't like your stretch marks.get rid.he should love you as a person not a plaything.

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How about the reverse?

Postby Kale on Fri Feb 18, 2005 5:24 am

First: I don't think men mind stretch marks in most cases and yours sound pretty normal. I wouldn't give them a second thought.
I have question. Do women mind stretch marks on men? I ask becasue I am a man very prone to them. I have them on my upper arms, chest, shoulders, stomach, inner and outher thighs, butt and calves. I got some from working out and some from gaining weight which I have now lost. The three women I've been with sexually since I developed them have had major problems with them - "I don't like to touch you.", "I don't know what they are but they are horrible." and, my favorite, "I always have to picture someone else when we are together." As a result I have been extremely depressed about them, even went on antidepressants. Been single for 6 years but recently I got involved with a girl I like and let her see them. I figured little older now, more mature women, etc. "You're gross." she said. Friends who I have no potential to date have tried to tell me that I've just met the wrong women and that I am attractive. Of course they don't have to back this up. I want some honest input - good or bad. Any help?

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Postby QTKate on Sat Feb 19, 2005 1:26 pm

Kale,

My current bf has stretch marks, its not a problem to me! I love hime, hes gorgeous so why would i mind the stretch marks? You obviously havent found the right girl yet!

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Postby Tracy1 on Sat Feb 19, 2005 1:55 pm

KALE........I agree with QTKate 100% - find the right woman and it wont make the slightist difference. My boyfriend has stretchmarks around his waist and lower back, we both know they're there but its never been an issue, i garentee when your with the right woman, or even a half decent one till you find a good one it wont even be an issue. Its nice to know that its not only women who worry about strechmatks though, chin up !x

Im 25 and had a baby 2 1/2 years ago and am expecting another one in May, iv been so down since my first as it left me with servere stretchmarks from my armpits all the way down to my calves, in some places they really are horrific but iv been with my BF for 10 years now so hes seen me in a few dirrerent states but he swears blind they dont bother him in the slightest, its really lovely to know but they still get me down, you do look at them completely differently to anyone else when they're on your own body

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Postby Centaur on Sat Feb 26, 2005 1:49 pm

Hiya,

I'm new here so forgive me if I muck this up...

IMHO if you love someone & one day they came home with a bruise or a scar would you dump them? Or be less attracted? Of course not...

Let me say - as a guy - that STRETCH MARKS MEAN NOTHING!

I dated a lovely woman that had scars all over her tummy - I mean so many that she couldn't bare showing them - even in bed! She was so scared that she let them re-define who she was...

It's all nonsense. I kissed them non stop for over an hour... I really enjoyed it. Why? Coz it was her - beauty is only skin deep! It's what's inside that counts! In a way even stretch marks are beautiful!

Ladies - if we are with you because we love you - then nothing on this earth changes that. No make-up, loosing a leg, stretch marks NOTHING!

Honestly, don't let TV ads. magazines or anything tell you different! They want your money...!

So, to summarize; I agree too that you can put that one out of your mind immediately!

xx

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Postby moro90083401 on Mon Feb 28, 2005 8:19 am

I dont care if a girl has stretch marks, im seventeen and i have stretch marks, and im ok.

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Postby BoyWonder on Mon Feb 28, 2005 9:31 am

to answer the original poster

Im a 22 yr old guy and know exactly where you are coming from. I was around 5'10 and 140lbs just before I turned 18. Soon after, I blew up to 180lbs. The sudden weight gain caused stretch marks around my groin, on my buttocks and some on my legs (but cant see unless you really looked). The first two spots are what made me insecure about my body. I'm like totally nervous about getting naked in front of someone for the first time, especially if the girl is gorgeous and doesnt have them. I know myself don't care if a girl has them, so long as if her entire body isn't covered with them. That's usually on obese women though.

But, even though people say "if hes too shallow to see past them, then dump him", and while this is true, its not the point. The point is feeling so vulnerable in the first place, and wondering if it's worth it. None of the women I have been with minded them, but still it takes all I can to strip in front of a girl. Especially when I have stretch marks near Mr. Happy

I heard coconut oil helps alot with covering them up. I intend to buy some asap for myself.

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Postby *Unwritten* on Mon Feb 28, 2005 11:38 pm

I used to be a bit paranoid too but I soon learned to actually quite like them, they're part of me and I'm stuck with them so I thought I might as well get on with them :) My bf has some too so we're even, lol! x

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turn off the lights

Postby Sadie on Tue Mar 01, 2005 1:10 am

hey dont worry about it. most girls have stretch marks and im sure he wont notice or care. a lot of girls have them and its something that u cant really help and if it bothers him then he probably doesnt want to be intimate with you cuz he likes you its probably just cuz he wants to get in your pants. but if u are still upset about it i would maybe just have the lights off then he wont be able to tell. :D
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Re: How about the reverse?

Postby Guest on Thu Jun 25, 2009 9:42 pm

i have strech marks and i don't like them at all. but my lost boyfriend had them to, and i loved them. just extra to play with!

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