Problems with fiance

[rosanna6]

I co-own a business with a male friend, and my bf, now fiance, knew about this when we got together. He was never fully ok with the fact that I run a business with a guy.also, because of the business, I have to spend a lot of time with my business partner.
My fiance is now telling me that I must leave my business, otherwise he won't marry me.
What do I do?

[glidewest]

he was aware of your business situation when you first got involved, if he wants to marry you he should trust you

[rosanna5]

he was aware of your business situation when you first got involved, if he wants to marry you he should trust you

Isn't it a natural reaction from him?

[glidewest]

only if he's insecure

anyway it's one thing to be worried, another for him to demand the situation changes because of his insecurities

[shrimper]

I co-own a business with a male friend, and my bf, now fiance, knew about this when we got together. He was never fully ok with the fact that I run a business with a guy.also, because of the business, I have to spend a lot of time with my business partner.
My fiance is now telling me that I must leave my business, otherwise he won't marry me.
What do I do?

Why have you chosen to be with him knowing his feelings conflict with your livelihood? You need to evaluate your priorities and make some choices based on them.

[Verve]

I co-own a business with a male friend, and my bf, now fiance, knew about this when we got together. He was never fully ok with the fact that I run a business with a guy.also, because of the business, I have to spend a lot of time with my business partner.
My fiance is now telling me that I must leave my business, otherwise he won't marry me.
What do I do?

What type of question is that....How desperate for love are you. When he was eating your food, sleeping under your roof, and having sex with you, he didn't fully care where the money came from to pay for it all. So now you have to question what's his problem. First off if a man ever uses the word MUST in a sentence to me it's time for him to pack his f*cking bags before I throw his sh*t out the door. Be independent.... Don't block yourself into a corner for any man. Love is love but your freedom belongs to you. This is how you earn a living. This is how you've survived before you met him. He has trust issues. You need to find out why before you marry him. Men who are controlling tend to want to kill a woman if she doesn't do as she's told. You have to make sacrifices in marriages I understand that but it goes both ways. He's not giving up anything and you have to give up everything/ your livelihood. Your a grown woman... not someones child. Act like the business woman you are when decisions need to be made.

In addition if he does want to marry you and you still own half the business make sure you get a pre-nup.

[santathegoodsamaritian]

What type of question is that....How desperate for love are you. When he was eating your food, sleeping under your roof, and having sex with you, he didn't fully care where the money came from to pay for it all. So now you have to question what's his problem. First off if a man ever uses the word MUST in a sentence to me it's time for him to pack his f*cking bags before I throw his sh*t out the door. Be independent.... Don't block yourself into a corner for any man. Love is love but your freedom belongs to you. This is how you earn a living. This is how you've survived before you met him. He has trust issues. You need to find out why before you marry him. Men who are controlling tend to want to kill a woman if she doesn't do as she's told. You have to make sacrifices in marriages I understand that but it goes both ways. He's not giving up anything and you have to give up everything/ your livelihood. Your a grown woman... not someones child. Act like the business woman you are when decisions need to be made.

In addition if he does want to marry you and you still own half the business make sure you get a pre-nup.

I feel you on the career tip, but whe does she have to spend so much time with her business partner. That S*** sounds fishy. I wouldnt trust my girl or my man away on a business trip with someone of the opposite sex. I can totally understand where he is coming from and how do you know if this wasnt already a issue from jump street. Let me ask you this verve would be cool if your man or woman told you he had to go out of town often on business trips. If so you are retarded. If anything im going with you my man or woman a few times. You know what happens when two people are away from their loved ones and together alone over long or even short periods of time. How do you know if hes not giving up anything. If he is cool with it like you are he is giving up his woman. Dont listen to verve. This probably is happening to her and she doesnt even know it. Be a business woman yes, make sacrifices if you want your marriage to work but listen to your man on this one. He has issues because he doesnt trust the other man its not you he doesnt trust. Men are persistent. Conduct your business some other way like via webcam or fly to the meeting and fly back the same day. Just put that S*** on your expense account. Trust me. Listen to me and you will be a successful business woman and happily married woman. Listen to verve and you will be a successful business woman who comes home to her cats. You and Verve know im right. The choice is yours.

[glidewest]

What type of question is that....How desperate for love are you. When he was eating your food, sleeping under your roof, and having sex with you, he didn't fully care where the money came from to pay for it all. So now you have to question what's his problem. First off if a man ever uses the word MUST in a sentence to me it's time for him to pack his f*cking bags before I throw his sh*t out the door. Be independent.... Don't block yourself into a corner for any man. Love is love but your freedom belongs to you. This is how you earn a living. This is how you've survived before you met him. He has trust issues. You need to find out why before you marry him. Men who are controlling tend to want to kill a woman if she doesn't do as she's told. You have to make sacrifices in marriages I understand that but it goes both ways. He's not giving up anything and you have to give up everything/ your livelihood. Your a grown woman... not someones child. Act like the business woman you are when decisions need to be made.

In addition if he does want to marry you and you still own half the business make sure you get a pre-nup.

That S*** sounds fishy. I wouldnt trust my girl or my man away on a business trip with someone of the opposite sex.

at no point has she said she spends time away on buisness trips, only that she spends a lot of time...how else do you run a business with someone?

Verve is spot on (if a little too gender specific)

[Guest]

this is a tricky one, but I've worked with men and would never dream of mixing business with pleasure, tell your fellow to get a grip.

[rosanna_65]

What type of question is that....How desperate for love are you. When he was eating your food, sleeping under your roof, and having sex with you, he didn't fully care where the money came from to pay for it all. So now you have to question what's his problem. First off if a man ever uses the word MUST in a sentence to me it's time for him to pack his f*cking bags before I throw his sh*t out the door. Be independent.... Don't block yourself into a corner for any man. Love is love but your freedom belongs to you. This is how you earn a living. This is how you've survived before you met him. He has trust issues. You need to find out why before you marry him. Men who are controlling tend to want to kill a woman if she doesn't do as she's told. You have to make sacrifices in marriages I understand that but it goes both ways. He's not giving up anything and you have to give up everything/ your livelihood. Your a grown woman... not someones child. Act like the business woman you are when decisions need to be made.

In addition if he does want to marry you and you still own half the business make sure you get a pre-nup.

I feel you on the career tip, but whe does she have to spend so much time with her business partner. That S*** sounds fishy. I wouldnt trust my girl or my man away on a business trip with someone of the opposite sex. I can totally understand where he is coming from and how do you know if this wasnt already a issue from jump street. Let me ask you this verve would be cool if your man or woman told you he had to go out of town often on business trips. If so you are retarded. If anything im going with you my man or woman a few times. You know what happens when two people are away from their loved ones and together alone over long or even short periods of time. How do you know if hes not giving up anything. If he is cool with it like you are he is giving up his woman. Dont listen to verve. This probably is happening to her and she doesnt even know it. Be a business woman yes, make sacrifices if you want your marriage to work but listen to your man on this one. He has issues because he doesnt trust the other man its not you he doesnt trust. Men are persistent. Conduct your business some other way like via webcam or fly to the meeting and fly back the same day. Just put that S*** on your expense account. Trust me. Listen to me and you will be a successful business woman and happily married woman. Listen to verve and you will be a successful business woman who comes home to her cats. You and Verve know im right. The choice is yours.

I do go on business trips, but come back asap of course. My fiance knows details about the business and what I do everyday. I share everything so that he doesn't feel insecure.

[Verve]

I feel you on the career tip, but whe does she have to spend so much time with her business partner. That S*** sounds fishy. I wouldnt trust my girl or my man away on a business trip with someone of the opposite sex. I can totally understand where he is coming from and how do you know if this wasnt already a issue from jump street.


She said from the beginning he wasn't fully ok with it. Why waste your time with someone you won't be able to trust. And then have the nerve to ask them to change their lifestyle to please your low self-esteem.


Let me ask you this verve would be cool if your man or woman told you he had to go out of town often on business trips. If so you are retarded. If anything im going with you my man or woman a few times. You know what happens when two people are away from their loved ones and together alone over long or even short periods of time. How do you know if hes not giving up anything. If he is cool with it like you are he is giving up his woman.


I see you don't know me very well. I am an opportunist. I could care less what a man/husband does while he is away. Honestly.... Just don't let me catch your ass. CEO's and VP's are away from their families consistently. They spend no time at home. But if the trade off is you get to live a lifestyle you can't give up there is a price to pay. She is paying the price for her survival. If he's stepping up to the plate and telling her he wants to go into business with her and fronts her half of the money to begin anew then I say jump at it. But I would keep the other one on the side and be a silent partner. You can't tell me after our courtship that the situation is now changing just to make you feel secure.

Now if her and her business partner once dated and he knows then I see his concerns..... However you don't begin to create a life with someone and then turn around and say do this or else.... It's no way to start a marriage.



Dont listen to verve. This probably is happening to her and she doesnt even know it. Be a business woman yes, make sacrifices if you want your marriage to work but listen to your man on this one. He has issues because he doesnt trust the other man its not you he doesnt trust. Men are persistent. Conduct your business some other way like via webcam or fly to the meeting and fly back the same day. Just put that S*** on your expense account. Trust me. Listen to me and you will be a successful business woman and happily married woman. Listen to verve and you will be a successful business woman who comes home to her cats. You and Verve know im right. The choice is yours.


Oh men are persistent. Oh honey they can break you down. And I'm sure he's had a taste of her once or twice. But in the end what else in your world will you sacrifice. Are you willing to give up all that you are just so you won't be alone. It was wrong of him to wait until you became engaged to say this has to stop or we can't be together. If he has issues that he needs to work out then that falls in his lap. Not yours Rosanna. As you said santathegoodsamaritian he trusts her but not the guy. With that said he shouldn't have any issues with his wife to be at all. So there is no situation that needs to be resolved.

[santathegoodsamaritian]

I believe you are a opportunist verve. That would explain a lot. I can look at your profile and tell what type of person you are. Rosanna6 you can listen to her if you want too but check this out. Verve got over five thousands posts on female first. Does that sound like someone who is having a good relationship with her man or her girl. Think about it. Someone who gives advice day and night like that is most likely alone and if she isnt her man or woman cant be spending time with her because she is busy telling everyone else how to live their lives on the forum. I bet you three things. One she is single and if not heading there soon. Two she has no friends because nobody can stand her and last but not least she probably cant even stand herself for more than five minutes. So do you want to take advice from someone like that. She most likely will tell you to kick him to the curb because she is partly jealous because she might not be as successful as you. Good luck with your life Rosanna6. Be a strong woman, be independent, be happy, but dont listen to her. Women and men who have the type of attitude like verve usually end up alone eating dinner with nobody to talk to and sleeping with a cat instead of a man or woman.

She says she could care less what her man/husband does while he is away but dont let me catch his ass. That right there should tell you
not to take her advice and what do you think verve is going to do when she catches her man. Nothing because she only cares about herself and most likely doesnt know how to show a man love. She probably got daddy or mommy issues.

[Guest]

I believe you are a opportunist verve. That would explain a lot. I can look at your profile and tell what type of person you are. Rosanna6 you can listen to her if you want too but check this out. Verve got over five thousands posts on female first. Does that sound like someone who is having a good relationship with her man or her girl. Think about it. Someone who gives advice day and night like that is most likely alone and if she isnt her man or woman cant be spending time with her because she is busy telling everyone else how to live their lives on the forum. I bet you three things. One she is single and if not heading there soon. Two she has no friends because nobody can stand her and last but not least she probably cant even stand herself for more than five minutes. So do you want to take advice from someone like that. She most likely will tell you to kick him to the curb because she is partly jealous because she might not be as successful as you. Good luck with your life Rosanna6. Be a strong woman, be independent, be happy, but dont listen to her. Women and men who have the type of attitude like verve usually end up alone eating dinner with nobody to talk to and sleeping with a cat instead of a man or woman.

She says she could care less what her man/husband does while he is away but dont let me catch his ass. That right there should tell you
not to take her advice and what do you think verve is going to do when she catches her man. Nothing because she only cares about herself and most likely doesnt know how to show a man love. She probably got daddy or mommy issues.

just because someone has a high post count, doesn't mean they don't have a relationship LMAO. Look at when she joined, which was eons ago. Why do people assume people are single when they post on here? it's usual to be sat with a laptop posting random shite you know, people do work on their computers, doesn't mean they don't have a husband or boyfriend.

[santathegoodsamaritian]

Yeah its normal to surf on your laptop and its normal to spend some time on a single site but it says she joined 2005 and its 2008 and she has over five thousand posts. She might be in a relationship but how do you think thats working out when she spends what seems to be most of her time on female first. Lets just do the math on how long this one person spends on this forum.

5300 posts to round it off
36 months=3 years
147 posts per month
like 5 posts a day on average without fail for 3 years.

I on the web like a mad person but i do plenty of other things. Tell me thats not a bit much.

[Guest]

Yeah its normal to surf on your laptop and its normal to spend some time on a single site but it says she joined 2005 and its 2008 and she has over five thousand posts. She might be in a relationship but how do you think thats working out when she spends what seems to be most of her time on female first. Lets just do the math on how long this one person spends on this forum.

5300 posts to round it off
36 months=3 years
147 posts per month
like 5 posts a day on average without fail for 3 years.

I on the web like a mad person but i do plenty of other things. Tell me thats not a bit much.

Depends, I've been in a long distance relationship, plus you can be sat doing work on the computer and flick from site to site, it looks like posters have no lives, but they really do lmao.