Problems with fiance

[MaxtheGaul]

[quote="Polgara69]...Now I am in a relationship built on trust and it is wonderful. When you get it its great.[/quote]

Rosanna, Polgara is right, and when you find it you will be glad you didn't sell your soul for less.

[chococookie]

I agree with Polgara and Max, I've seen it happen to a friend, and she went through hell. Your story is eerily similar. Hopefully you will listen to people here.

[Verve]

meh, I don't want to call it off, but I guess I have very few options, so I don't know.

Your turning into TAWNY .... you just don't want to listen. Ok... guys we're headed down that road again....

[Bouncy]

meh, I don't want to call it off, but I guess I have very few options, so I don't know.

Your turning into TAWNY .... you just don't want to listen. Ok... guys we're headed down that road again....

It's a road well traveled Verve. The classic "We love each other to bits and everything's great except for this one problem..."

[chococookie]

meh, I don't want to call it off, but I guess I have very few options, so I don't know.

Your turning into TAWNY .... you just don't want to listen. Ok... guys we're headed down that road again....

really? hope not. sad sad.

[Fred75]

I co-own a business with a male friend, and my bf, now fiance, knew about this when we got together. He was never fully ok with the fact that I run a business with a guy.also, because of the business, I have to spend a lot of time with my business partner.
My fiance is now telling me that I must leave my business, otherwise he won't marry me.
What do I do?

Be prepared to lose your fiancee or marriage if he goes that far.

[Verve]

It's a road well traveled Verve. The classic "We love each other to bits and everything's great except for this one problem..."

And It seems that it's always an intelligent woman. Not a chicken head off the street. Strong, confidant, and intellectual.... love sure makes you do some crazy things.

[Verve]

Be prepared to lose your fiancee or marriage if he goes that far.

And so you know Rosanna this man is all for keeping a woman at home barefoot and pregnant.... Just so you know!

Can you believe the nerve of him Steve and in this economy. She's lucky to have a business still standing.

[aasd19]

I co-own a business with a male friend, and my bf, now fiance, knew about this when we got together. He was never fully ok with the fact that I run a business with a guy.also, because of the business, I have to spend a lot of time with my business partner.
My fiance is now telling me that I must leave my business, otherwise he won't marry me.
What do I do?

Be prepared to lose your fiancee or marriage if he goes that far.

Isn't it obvious, I mean, she knows that.

[rosanna_6]

Your turning into TAWNY .... you just don't want to listen. Ok... guys we're headed down that road again....

The classic "We love each other to bits and everything's great except for this one problem..."

lol
See,I don't know if I want to marry him anymore; I still do love him, but not sure if things will work out in the long term. I don't want to rush anything though, I don't want to regret later.

And so you know Rosanna this man is all for keeping a woman at home barefoot and pregnant.... Just so you know!

Er..

[Bouncy]

See,I don't know if I want to marry him anymore; I still do love him, but not sure if things will work out in the long term. I don't want to rush anything though, I don't want to regret later.

I can understand that. I've been in relationships where I've loved the other person but stopped being IN love with them. You don't want to hurt them, but you know your heart's just not in it any more. I think when you question whether or not you love someone and there's a pause (even a slight one) to consider, then things are heading in the wrong direction. When there's no doubt, the question is answered immediately in the affirmative.

That doesn't mean they're not fixable, because people can assuredly come back from falling out of love and recapture it again. But BOTH parties have to want it. Not just want it, but hunger for it. I get the impression, and correct me if I'm wrong, that you're approaching to the point where you're not going to bother trying to close the increasing gap between the two of you.

[MaxtheGaul]

Bouncy, I'm sure she's seen the light, and I for one am very glad she has. She'll find the right guy, and hopefully will still be good friends with her soon to be ex.

[chococookie]

See,I don't know if I want to marry him anymore; I still do love him, but not sure if things will work out in the long term. I don't want to rush anything though, I don't want to regret later.

you're still hoping he's suddenly going to change his mind about your business and bus partner? Or are you just putting off breaking up ?

[aasd19]

you should just break up . He's entitled to his views as you are to yours. I don't see either of you changing your minds.

[Cambridge]

you should just break up . He's entitled to his views as you are to yours. I don't see either of you changing your minds.

That is a perfectly valid way to put it. Neutral, and without moral overtones.