helloeric wrote:I am a male trying to start a relationship, i am 18 and have never really wanted anyone in my life (long term or short term) but i have just started thinking it would be a nice thing to find someone who really cares about me.
I am sort of attractive and when i go out i do get looks and girls asking for my phone number (which i don't have) but i am just not interested in them all the girls have no "depth" to them so i don't bother trying with them. I really don't care about looks as long as they are not twice the size of me i just want some one who is interesting to spend time with and can outsmart me (at times).
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I don't want to have sex with some one i don't care about, to me sex is only fun if i really like the person i am with, for me one night stands are repulsive i would like to be "emotionally connected" with the person i am with.
What sort of people should i approach, do girls my age even want a serious relationship, what should i say as an icebreaker, what would be a good first date rather than just going to watch a film.
Any other advice you can give me?
What sort of people should i approach
That’s a question that only you can answer. The key to relationships is can you be comfortable and not having to always be proving yourself. Whoever she is, that’s the girl for you.
do girls my age even want a serious relationship
No. They’re kids, just like you. But this is an important time to experiment and practice. The best advice I can give you is be yourself, and don't try on any false or defensive pretenses. And listen...it's soo important to figuring things out.
what should i say as an icebreaker
“Hello, my name is……” That says ‘hi, I'm available.’ If she’s not she’ll let you know. If she is, and she is not interested, she’ll also let you know. Let them eliminate themselves.
And no lines. Lines are not cute. They are obviously attempts to protect yourself. The best face you can turn to a woman is the vulnerable face. It says,
this is who I am, you be who you wanna be and I'll watch. See? Be vulnerable. It will always put in charge of your space.
Only address the women that interest you, but don’t eliminate the one’s less attractive or less interesting to other guys…there could be a gem in there and superficial values don’t serve you well.
what would be a good first date rather than just going to watch a film.
Why does that matter? You don’t want to be putting on a show. You want to get to know her and she, you. There are better venues for quiet dates; there are better venues for exciting dates. Decide what you want and when you first meet listen to her for what she likes. You'll get clues. You’ll figure it out.
